Today is my best friends (MOH) birthday which is lovely but it's also the day that my step dad (who deserves the name dad) passed away just 3 short years ago. He gave me away the first time I married.
I was talking to the registrar last week to finalise things and she hasked me for my fathers full name to which I cringed, he is such a nasty piece of work, very violent and just a revolting specimen of a human. Don't even know if he is still alive! I said it was a shame he had to go on the certificate I would much prefer my step dad and she said I could do that! So at least I can still have him as an important thing in my life. I think he would have been so proud and I wish I knew he could have been on the certififcate last time. So if anyone feels the same way towards their father but they have a step dad just to let you know the option is there for you. Happy sad happy day.

thats nice and soo unfortunatly common.my oldest daughter is from a disaster of a relationship[if it could be called that] as soon as he found out i was pregnant he didnt want 2 know,threatened 2 beat me up etc.then when i had her he came round twice to see her on the last visit he gave me an ultimatum we got together found a place and had another baby or he walked so i said goodbye.then when i got with my h2b he tried to make contact again but clearly wasnt interested in my daughter,3 years ago she was diognosed with type 1 diabetes after nearly going into a diabetic coma,i informed him and his exact words were'so no one in my family has it'.my h2b adopted her soon after and he sent a nasty message saying did i really think that my h2b was better for her and my responce was yes,he has been there and brought her up thru everything.he holds her hand and cuddles her when she s ill and upset gives her love,financial and emotional support.her so called real dad is no more than a sperm doner.so well done for doing something to remember your dads memory.no doubt hes looking down on you one very proud man.and i hop eu av some fun for your friends birthday to take your mind off this sad day.xx

oh didnt mean to make you more sad.sounds like he was a very lovely,special man.xx

ah,its lovely that u had that.some people dont even get that closeness with biological parents.xx

thats terrible hun,can see why your dad was so important to you and no doubt the lack of support only makes you miss him more.im lucky my mum is great so supportive my dad on the other hand doesnt deserve the title.we last spoke when i was in the coronary care unit with a clot on my lung,they wasnt sure i was going to make it cos my heart was under so much strain,he told me i was lying that i could die so he d visit me!! its not even that he s a crap dad cos he s brill with my 2 half sisters.but i decided he isnt worth my thoughts,it hurts but hes not worth me getting down about.sounds horrid but i wish i could trade my dad so u could have urs back.xx

iv left mine blank too nikki,rather that than my dad being on it.lol.x