My sister in laws "friend" is getting married next week and my sister in law and niece are bridesmaid. I got engaged 4 weeks before the "friend" and she has tried to make it a competition since she got engaged, which I have not entertained. I received a message yesterday asking if my niece can borrow the fur bolero I have brought for her for my wedding day, as the "friend" has not made any provisions for keeping my little niece warm. I'm so cross. I have not answered either way. I feel compelled to keep my niece warm but I also don't want the bolero worn before my wedding. Am I wrong?
Mrs Hay-to-be
CommentAuthorShelleyM46
no i can understand were ur cumin from if it was me id be the same n its not realy fair on u id make her go n buy sumet x
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CommentAuthorMrs Hay!!!
thats what I was thinking. Just don't want to sound mean!
Mrs Hay-to-be
CommentAuthorJillianL47
I wouldn't lend it. If it gets ruined before your wedding, you will have to make provisions to get it cleaned/mended/replaced.
CommentAuthorMrs Hay!!!
Thanks, it's not nice to be put in that position. I'm like "how very dare you".
I wouldn't be happy about that either! It's something special that you've bought for her for your wedding day... and the first time she wears it should be on your day! It is tricky though, obviously you don't want your niece to be cold and don't want to cause any rifts! Could you explain it to your sister-in-law? Surely they could buy her an ivory cardigan or something to keep her warm, wouldn't look as pretty but that's not for you to worry about! I think its a big ask from your sister-in-law and you have every right to say no! x
CommentAuthorShelleyM46
id just tell her no uv got that for ur day not hers so she should b sorting it out dont feel bad hun i know u dont want ur little niece 2 go cold but im sure if u dont lend it they wont make her go wiout x
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
I wouldn't be happy either....I suspect that the other bride knows exactly how you would feel about this (as I think most of us would with stuff being worn before the big day) and i suspect will be trying to paint you as unreasonable by not letting your niece wear the bolero.
Have a word with your sister, I would say that if there is absolutely nothing else they can, then you should let her wear it for your little nieces sake. Maybe you could go to a charity shop and pick up an inexpensive ivory cardi or something? Xx
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CommentAuthorElliekitty
I would'nt led it her, I would be pretty blunt with her and say this is for my wedding day! It is your respsonbility to keep her warm! xx
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CommentAuthorTori
I'm sure she has a coat to keep her warm. If the friend has not made provisions it is her problem not yours. Tell her you don't want it ruining before your day. If she doesn't like it she has a week to sort something else out
CommentAuthorDonda
I agree I'd say no. They are not going to leave your niece without something to keep her warm, and if she has a week left she's got plenty of time to buy one herself x
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CommentAuthorShazk
I agre with other ladies I would say no!!!
She still has time to go and get her something it not lie its today and something has happened to what she has supplied (even then i would still consider saying no!) its her problem not urs dont feeel bad for sayign no xxx
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CommentAuthorKellyN29
how very very dare they!! if you niece is cold she can wear a normal cardi, i'm sure she will have one. i'm fuming for you
CommentAuthorLulu1388
Definitely agree on the no front, as much as you want your niece to be warm that is a part of YOUR day, not hers! and if your niece was to dirty it or it was to get damaged in anyway before the big day you'll be the one having to fork out for provisions! She has another week to go surely she can ask the 'friend' about what she is to wear or surely has plenty of time to find a cardi of some sorts - it is the right time of year to find them EVERYWHERE!! xx
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CommentAuthorlizzylou
Just say no, say you're sorry but you don't want it to get dirty before the day, make a little joke of "oh, you know what small children are like..." to keep it friendly. Don't worry about her, it's out of order that she's even asked you! x
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CommentAuthorRosyF77
hhhmmm yes this would bug me lots. I would just say no as you are not prepared to risk it getting dirty or something. It is rather rude really xx
CommentAuthorlil miss sunshine
Oh how rude she has no right to ask you that
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CommentAuthorKaren22
That is so cheeky...I can't believe she actually had the cheek to ask!!! xxx
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24th August 2013
CommentAuthorSam
Considering the situtation it is a bit cheeky to ask. I wouldn't lend it. My personal policy with lending is to not lend anything you can't afford to loose and never see again & that certainly applies in this situation. Good luck
