We are so happy that we have set a date and its close enough that I'm excited but far enough that we have time to save plus planning on another LO so hopefully won't be too close to that and I'll have time after to diet lol. But when people ask if we have a date and we say yes 16.07.16 they are like WHAT that's ages away. And it's starting to get on my nerves, I keep finding myself saying well gives us time to save and it's our wedding we will have it when we want. But I don't get why people are being so stressy about it and why they all expect us to get married within two years!!! Anyone else having this problem? X
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
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Yep! My grandad's reaction was the best. When I told him he said that I needed to have it sooner as he will probably be dead by then!! My answer is always the same to everyone who asks "well if it offends you that we are having it then, you could always pay for it and we will have it sooner". Tends to shut most people up! lol xxx
Got together 14.02.2008
Got engaged 31.12.2010
Will become a Mrs on 30.08.2014 xxxxxx
CommentAuthorKat
Loads of people had the reaction when we booked ours 2 years in advance. The thing is the time passes so quick and what made me giggle is those same people were then praising me about 6months before for having booked so long in advance because it meant less stress and more organisation! Just ignore them!
CommentAuthorKristina
I had the same problem when i told people that my wedding was in 2014, mind i did get engaged in 2008, but i told them that if they didn't like it, then they shouldn't have said anything in the first place.
Met: 1st February 2014
Engaged: 1st June 2014
Getting Married: 31st December 2014
CommentAuthorbarbie86
We're having a 3.5 year engagement; I'll admit that ideally I'd have preferred 2.5 years, but my OH just couldn't wait that long to propose lol ;-) I've lost count of the number of times people have laughed/made a snarky comment about the length; it's especially irritating because we'd been together 5.5 years when we got engaged, we have very good reasons for having a long engagement (I'm still studying, and will still have a year of my PhD to go by the time we marry), and we have actually set a date and booked a venue (I have to admit, it does bug me when people get engaged and you say 'So, when's the big day?!' and they go 'Oh, we're not getting MARRIED!'.. I'm kind of like 'Umm, OK... Why are you engaged then?..')
I would advise ignoring them, or laughing along with them; I typically tend to say 'well, we're having a VERY long engagement!!' now whenever anyone asks when the 'big day is'. Which is crazy because we now have less than 2 years to go, and seriously, I do NOT get how people plan weddings in 12-18 months; it took us ages to find our venue, and I've been searching for photographers for 6 MONTHS!!
Oh, and it'll go quickly, believe me; we got engaged Feb 2011, and I have no idea where the past 20 months have gone lol
Glad I'm not only one lol.i agree barbie86 bugs me too when ppl say there not getting married its like what bull coz next min u hear them saying what dress they want lol. I can't wait to find the perfect venue for our wedding so I know how much I gotta save up lol x
CommentAuthorKristina
It is hard to find the perfect venue, i am stuck between two but at the minute i am waiting to hear from my perfect one. You will find the perfect venue soon.
Met: 1st February 2014
Engaged: 1st June 2014
Getting Married: 31st December 2014
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
I can't wait to view them, I'm struggling to find ones local to the church at mo :( x
CommentAuthorKristina
Hopefully you be able to find something soon. I had to search hard for mine as i live in a countryside, it was a nightmare, but after a few months of looking i actually found it, i am just hoping that they get back to me soon.
Met: 1st February 2014
Engaged: 1st June 2014
Getting Married: 31st December 2014
CommentAuthorShazk
You are not alone at all with these comments to to be honest i find it SOOOOOOOOOOOO rude and like linzi Jo said if they want to pay then will be sooner but that shuts them up lol.
My opinion is as long as you are happy to wait that long then what is it to do with anyone else, like you we cant afford it for a while (we are in 2 years but way things going possibly be put back a year at this rate!!) but we want to do it on our own, not ahve to get loans etc so we will do it when we comfortable to do it xx
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CommentAuthorSamanthaG76
We had these comments too! Don't tend to have them as much anymore though as we are within the 'acceptable' 2 year period now! Some people can be so rude and inconsiderate, don't take any notice :-) x
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CommentAuthormillz090
You do want you want to do honey..... we had the opposite effect as when we get married would have been engaged for just over a year and people say 'you haven't hung around long' or 'don't you want to enjoy being engaged'. However we already had a lot of money saved and parents paid too so we thought why hang around and wait?! People will always have an opinion whatever you decide to do xxx
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CommentAuthorLulu1388
You are definitely not alone in these comments, its ridiculous what other people think and say regarding anything! You cant win!! You wait a while, or do it within a year, you get the same comments!
At the end of the day, you and your OH have valid reasons for waiting, and you are doing it when you are both ready and able! and everyone else should accept that and butt out! The main thing is you are getting married to each other and you have a date, and that is that! Gives people plenty of notice in any case! xx
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CommentAuthorMrs Ross
I had those comments too!! These days being able to plan a wedding in a year is long gone in my opinion!! when people asked why we set a date in 2 years (we got engaged june 2011) i just told them because some suppliers are booked a year in advance anyway but it gives us time to save and just have a nice engagement-unfortunetly i would then get some people saying well have a small wedding then you wont need to save-thats when i told folk to buzz off as you still need to save even for a small wedding!!!!
CommentAuthorKat_87
We got engaged in Nov 2010 and needed time to save for a summer wedding. We could have gone for this summer and done it in 18 months but my brother was already getting married and some of our best friends so we decided to wait the extra year and do it summer 2013. I have constantly felt that I am justifying why we are having a 'long engagement' of 2 1/2 years. Nobody says anything now its only 8 months away apart from the occassional comment like 'you've been engaged for ages'.
CommentAuthorMrstalbot2b
My answer to people that say that to me is give me £10,000 and I do it sooner that shuts them up,
frist date:- 14th july 2009
bought our house:- 5th sept 2010
engaged :- 27th december 2011
getting married : 7th june 2014
CommentAuthorIzzy_w
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Oh dear! I got engaged in July this year and my granny asked me if the wedding was going to be this summer! x
CommentAuthorLeighS
All the older generation reacted with "I MIGHT NOT BE AROUND THEN" They all said it. I'm thinking I may just be inviting a load of dead people to my wedding. Mind you I won't have to feed them eh?
CommentAuthorCarrieM94
I had the same reponse and some times it feels like people are not taking our wedding seriuosly but it suits us so we can save for exactly what we want xx
