Ive just ben a visit tomy best friends who I haven't seen since I got engaged, and tbh I have come home a little deflated.

We got engaged on 18th October (I have been with my other half for 8 years today and never thought the day we got married would ever happen)

We have booked the venue, We love it and the package is amazing. A dj is included in the package and my friend has told me I NEED to get a band, a band makes a wedding. I haven't to get my dress until this time next year, don't pick my sisters dress until ive picked mine (My sister is my one and only bridesmaid and I want everything co ordinated with her) I wish I hadn't went to my friends today.

We got talking about first dance song and tbh Ive not thought about it however my Fiancé has said that he would quite like Iris by Goo Goo dolls (Not my first choice however I could go with it if we have a 2 songed first dance, he gets one choice and so do I)

My sister has just got engaged this week on holiday I have a feeling her fiancé has had it planned for some time but my so called best friend has done nothing but run her down. Ive not actually spoke to my sister but she has said to my mum she will get married the year after me she wouldn't do that to me ( I really hope this is the case as id be mega miffed) My sister will be a total Bridezilla and is already looking at venues ( I cant say a thing we had ours booked with 3 weeks of being engaged) and my friend has said that my sister will get married before me and if she des then she is a bi**h. Me and my sister who is three years younger are very close and I cant wait to go shopping for my dress her bridesmaid dress and then go with her to get her wedding dress.

This probably doens even make sense I just had to get that out somewhere.

How do you deal with other people opinions especially when they are not very nice ones.

Just go ahead and do what you want, leave them flapping their gums!

I don't have concerns about my sister it was my friend that was saying all this stuff about her.

My sister is in Mexico until Sunday she emailed me last night saying she is looking at May 2016 (9 months after my wedding). Both weddings are going to be completely different we are two individual people with very different tastes.

I was angry and upset last night but ive slept on it and decided its my wedding ill do what I and H2B want. I don't mind people saying this is what I done/did etc to give me ideas but my friend was rude and telling me what I need to do. eg I picked the venue which is a while away its beautiful and if its warm enough we can get married on the lawn (I love this idea) My friend says while looking at the pictures 'you wouldn't want to get married outside would you' when I said yeah that sone of the attractions to the venue she said I was mad its going to be freezing. We wont be outside all day and it will be decided on the day where the ceremony will take place.

She was also telling me that ill need to lose weight etc. I have no issues with the size I am yes I am over weight but FFS you don't say that to your friend im a size 16-18, she was then telling me its too early to go looking at dresses she was just a nightmare.

Thanks for listening. Im glad ive got this forum.

I know this is my first thread however I have had some great ideas from here already :)

She doesn't sound like a very good friend! A band DOES NOT make a wedding! We didn't have one, and 2 1/2 years later we still have friends telling us what a great day they had! I've been to a couple of weddings which had bands, and they were terrible.

If you want to get married outside that's your decision! We would have loved to get married outside, but our county wouldn't allow it.

You can get your dress whenever you want to!

And you don't NEED to lose weight! I purposely didn't lose any weight for my wedding as I bought my dress intending to have it dyed afterwards so I could wear it again, and didn't want to have to diet everytime I wanted to wear it!

If you're not worried about your sister's wedding, then why on earth is she???

Oh my goodness! Are u sure she is a friend, she sounds awful (sorry) it does sound like she is jealous, she should be encouraging you and helping you in any way she can not make you feel angry and upset.

It sounds like you have a great wedding lined up, and I'm glad u have seen that it's yours and h2b's choices, no one else's.

Not everyone has a band at there wedding and they still have an amazing day without.

What a crazy friend trying to say horrid things about your sister too.
If it were me I'd ditch that friend she sounds more like an enemy!

Enjoy your planning and do what you've said your already gonna do... what u want :)

Don't discuss the wedding with her .... She will soon realise that you haven't said anything and ask why this is the point that you can say,
Well last time I did all you did was make comments about what I should have and run my sister down , so I thought you would prefer it if I didn't talk about it anymore .

Then ......

SLAP HER

It seems to be one of the first things you learn when planning a wedding - smile sweetly, nod and say "oh, I've not thought of that", "that's an interesting idea, thanks, I'll consider that" (and other lines of a similar irk) and ignore them.
Sounds like your friend may be jealous of you and your sister both getting married, and perhaps even of the closeness between you two. As others have said, just keep talking things over with her, and ignore other people sticking their oars in!

Not to sure why your friend would act like this. But if I'm honest she doesn't sound like such a good friend. X

Thanks Everyone.

I've decided i'm not telling her anything else about the wedding she can find out on the day like most other people.
My sister and my H2B don't like her very much so they think even less of her mu H2B only put up wither for my sake (I knew this anyway).

LOL lala that's what I really wanted to do.