IM doing this with some friends an even some family, If we have not met them there definatly not coming, If we don't really know them , there not coming. I have a very limited budget an cannt afford to pay for people I don't know, and plus neither of us want strangers witness to our special day!

May follow suit an invite some family partners to evening doo!

we aren't inviting many evening guests, but we are inviting some plus ones

My FSIL imposed a rule at her wedding that if neither her or her OH had met the plus one then they simply weren't invited at all. Was thinking of doing the same thing and was worrying that people might get upset they can't bring their OHs, so I'm definitely preferring this idea of just inviting the people we don't know to the evening part - will probably just let everyone know verbally though as we're buying our invites and don't want to have to buy extras to give those couples a seperate invite each.

We're doing this, but to a lot of our family. We only have 40 day guests including us, so numbers are tight. Everyone will get an invitation to the "wedding", ie you are invited to join us at the ceremony BUT the evening reception doesn't start until 7pm. And then for friends partners we haven't met or don't know, won't be coming. Although we have one friend who has recently just got back with an ex and she said the other week, oh we'll look forward to our invite!!! Babes, I've met you twice, I don't know you at all, I've got family that I want there and can't afford to have partners of friends. There will not be anyone at our sit down that we don't know inside out!!

You have already let them know but I'd probably just put an extra note in saying their partners are welcome to the evening xxx