I am still absolutely buzzing from getting my dress on Saturday :-D I get withdrawal if I don't look at my pics for so long haha !! I cannot wait for MY dress to come into the shop :-D
Anyhoo, something bugged me a little bit over the past week.... When we reached 700 days I put on book of face about it being last day of the 700's etc, and over the weekend I've put up about finding my dress.... And it seems now I'm getting people commenting about coming to the wedding who I haven't spoken to in months and months ! These are people who I genuinely considered friends at school and/or college but I've hardly heard from them since I left 3 years ago... I tried keeping in contact but you know when you realise that you're always the one doing the contacting ?? And I just got fed up of it.. Of the friends I invited to my 21st meal, one of them came.. She will be invited to the night do (we can't afford friends for the day as we have quite big families) but the other that have mentioned it won't be... One of them even text me while I was driving to the restaurant for my 21st to say she couldn't come !
I'm thinking of inviting people to the night do, only if they've contacted me first within the 6months before the invites go out.. Is this reasonable ? And have friends magically reappeared for you since your wedding went public ? Xxx
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4th July 2015
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I think it's totally reasonable, I'd only invite who you really want there, not those so called friends who only pop up when they want to be involved or want something. Those you have at your wedding are those who you essentially want to buy dinner for xxx
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CommentAuthorMartinH57
You might still find may friends that just haven't talked because nothing is actually happening in there life worth talking about ... but on saying that you can't invite everyone you were ever friends with .. - you only want to invite people you WANT there .. some may even been old friends that haven't spoken to you in ages ..
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
It will only be people I want :-) But also I won't be inviting people who only seem to make the effort to get an invite if that makes sense.. It was only about 6 people who I genuinely classed as friends, only one of those has bothered keeping in contact.. There are things going on as they're constantly posting it on FB, but even if nothing's going on, a Hi How are you isn't hard.. I fully respect that people move on with their lives and grow apart, but don't all of a sudden start thinking you're invited to any part of my wedding day when we haven't talked in yonks lol.. xxx
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4th July 2015
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
hell yeah ..... why should you spend money on people who haven't been bothered with you
Im so get this when i left school i was still with my bf at the time who i had been with for 2 years by then and in my leaving book everyone wrote comments like "don't forget my invite to the wedding" from even girls who had bullyed me ! And thos i did not count friends! Of my friends from school im inviting 2 to the day and one is only invited coz my oh works with him and are now firms friends(never ever saw it coming as he was an idiot at school but has matured and is quite nice now) and the other is my bf! And then i have 2/4 coming to the night, may grow a bit as we have more leeway there as does not cost per head and there are some who i still genuinly hold affection for but don't see much!
Im nit looking forward to having to tell people that they are not invited to the day! If i had the money our list would almost double but we don't so it tough cutting it down and deciding as family are more or less automatic but friends you have to work out and as at the moment alot of my friend seem to be drifting apart so don't know who im still gona be close to next year or the following! :(
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CommentAuthorMrsCross2be
When I made my first guest list there were a lot of school friends on there who I didnt really talk to but thought I should invite. Since, because they havent bothered with me I have dropped them from the list. Now I am not really having any other than the bridal party to the day. However one that I had dropped completley who's wedding we went to a couple of years ago and who hadnt spoken to me randomly commented on a post about me looking for bridal music and offered to help me- so now I face a conundrum - invite or not? does he think he is invited? Also was concerned about some friends who are just on the evening list who I wanted to invite to my hen but didnt want them to agree and then think - o I am spending this money and only coming to the evening. So I sent them each a private message on fbk and said "hey im not sending save the dates but please keep 9/8/14 free for my evening reception and I have also added you to our group about hen parties as I would really like you to be there".
CommentAuthorBeckyU98
im not inviting anyone from school - left 5 years ago and only spoke to my best friend since but she fell out with me about 3.5 years ago. people grow up and move on - invite those that you want there on the day that have been there for you. to be honest most of my list is family with a few friends that i have made over past 3 years. i even made mistake of inviting ex- best friend to engagement party and evening of wedding to try and stop things being awkward but she obviously hasnt grown up at all since she stopped talking to me. best tip i can give you is dont invite anyone even verbally until invites go out a few months before - you will always change your mind leading up to the day x
CommentAuthorValentinaK
I'm only inviting people that i regularly talk to other than mandatory family. Or long term friends that I do keep in touch with with our own little schedule, that have meant a lot to me or still do so.
I'm not inviting all my colleagues, just a few of the other junior officers. H2B is doing the same. If some of those have caused me major awkward drama at work before the time invites go out or I have an unreconcilable fall out with anyone, they also won't get invited.
I'm not inviting the randoms that since i've got engaged have poked out of the woodwork... wedding crashers and trying to look popular...but just look desperate. Especially the ones I know gob off on places like bookface (from word of mouth from other friends-i'm not on there!).
They can feel free to send me well wishes though and a card... I doubt they would though!
Several folk just inviting to the night do, but not that many, as my opinion is, if the guest is worth inviting, they're worth inviting for the whole day.
It's just 1 or 2 of H2Bs mates that are coming evening only plus one or two of mums friends that I am aquainted with. Varying reasons but satisfies H2B and mum at minimal costs!
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CommentAuthorFernP61
I've been the same! People in boxing me lol your nit alone x
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
It's annoying isn't it lol.. Why does a wedding make us so interesting haha ! I've been invited to two birthday parties tonight !! People that haven't invited me to a birthday since their 18th's haha.. Mental..
I don't want half the people H2B is inviting to the night do lol.. I don't like his mates at all...... I do wish there were more people I wanted to invite to the night do.. Xxx
I can't wait to become his Wife :-)
4th July 2015
CommentAuthorSuzieS
This is actually my life at the moment!!
So many people popping up all over the over the place for invites!!And so many keen beans on FB liking all my posts about wedding stuff.
I'm finding it really hard to say no, but trying to go along with the lines, 'we have only sent out save the dates to family and close friends'.
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Ooh, I like lots of people's wedding posts on fb - doesn't mean I expect an invite!
I have noticed an increase in birthday cards from ohs extended family though.
We're only having 43 for the day, so I've just made it known that I'm having quite a small wedding....the most annoying thing is when people assume they're invited xx
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CommentAuthorMrsK2b
We have only invited close family and friends to our wedding and for the evening we have got more family and friends coming.
I would only invite people that you want there.
Its annoying it when people assume they are coming to the wedding and I dont really know them, im like no sorry ive already sent out our invites.
