My hen night is on 20th August and all my friends have paid up except for one. She said she would be able to pay by July 25th, which has now come and gone and she's not paid her share (I get emailed whenever someone pays). We're also getting personalised t-shirts and I messaged everyone on Facebook to get their sizes. They all messaged back except for, you guessed it, that friend. I've texted her, I've emailed her and I've Facebooked her, and I've heard nothing. She's posted on Facebook recently so I know she's been online and seen the message.
I have to order everybody else's tops now otherwise they may not arrive in time. Should I order one for her as well (I'd be guessing her size) in case she's just been too busy to get back to me or not bother under the assumption that she's changed her mind about coming?
CommentAuthorEnny
hm have you tried calling her??? Has it happened before??
CommentAuthorWeeMintyMonkie
He sorry to hear this hunni!
I have a friend that hasnt been in touch with me much recently!!
Id try get in touch on last time and say she has until a certain time to get back in touch or she wont be coming!
xxx
CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
Not yet, I don't know what her work schedule is so chances are I'll get her voicemail.
Not really, but then its never really come up. We went to uni together so she was always a few doors down if I needed her. She was quite easy to get hold of prior to this. It seems like she's ducking me so that she doesn't have to go, but that doesn't seem like her. She's very upfront- if she didn't want to go, she'd just tell me.
CommentAuthorEnny
she might have something in her head what is personal really making her busy with something else maybe you should really try to phone her might be she has some problems :S if she was never like that there might be a reason behind it why she is behaving like it now... *hugs*
I would try calling her, leave a voicemail and then leave it at that. Then the ball is in her court, bar knocking on her front door you have tried everything to contact her and she knew payment dates etc.
She may surprise you and get back to you today you never no :)
xxxx
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CommentAuthorpurpleme
give her a call if u get voice message leave her message giving her a day to get in touch if she doesnt get in touch get everyones things and assume she no longer can/wants to go hope u get it sorted xx
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CommentAuthortimpson123
I think it's a bit rude really. Do you have any friends in common that could ask on your behalf. She might tell them the truth.
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
you know what if she cant be bothered to get in contact with you then i would take that she isnt coming
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CommentAuthorJane
ithink she maybe have money trouble and doesn't want you to know :( also sounds like she won't be able to make it :( i would send her an email are letter in the post to say sorry that she's missed the deadline for the hen nyt
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CommentAuthormcquire81
If she really wanted to come she would have got hold of you, it only takes 5 mins to send a txt or email so no one can claim theyre that busy! You could try leaving a voicemail but if she doesnt get back to you in a day or so then i would assume she isnt coming.
CommentAuthorMrsC2B
I'd leave a voicemail saying you were disappointed not to have heard from her and give her 24 hours to get back in touch. Could she pay you in installments if money is the issue? If that time goes by you'll have to presume she's not coming. Sad but true. (I'm having exactly the same problem with my hen do so I know exactly how frustrated you're feeling) xx
CommentAuthorLiz3yy
I would call her, it's possible that messages don't always get through x
Can't wait until the day I become Mrs. Johnson :)
CommentAuthorSpannerrosie
I would call her, (maybe when you know it'll be voicemail, sometimes that's easier), leave her a message and say that you have a deadline of a certain date and time, and that if you don't hear from her before then unfortunately she won't be able to come. Explain that you've tried to contact her several times but things need booking, that you hope she'll be able to come, and it'll be a shame if she doesn't.Tell her she also needs to let you know one way or the other for definite.
She could at least let you know if she is or isn't coming! Not to hear anything is just rude really. Just goes to show, whatever her reasons are, you can never please everyone!
Still struggling with my BMs so I feel for you. Hope it gets sorted xx
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
if she was that good a friend she would have already said that she is having money problems .... or even lie and say there is another reson she isnt coming but to just ignore you is plain rude
Aww big hugs hun! I would of thought she would of told you by now if she couldnt come. Maybe fb message her n say you have ordered them ready now or they wont get here in time sorry or along those lines then see what she says. (your hens on my wedding day he he he)
CommentAuthorjo Santa
maybe I'm soft, but I would ring and come at it from the angle that you're worried as it's not usual for her not to be in touch. Ask if there's anything you can do to heklp or if she needs to bend and ear that you're there. From there you will be able to gage whether it's a problem, or if it's money and she's embarrassed - or even if she thought she'd replied, but for some reason you havent got the message xx
Jo Santa
CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
She texted me this morning- work has been manic so she hasn't had time to get back to me or call the hen party people to ask if it was okay to pay later than everyone else, so she didn't think she was still able to come. Luckily I had already mentioned this to my co-ordinator and I double checked with her today. Now that she knows that she can come, she will pay up soon. She also gave me her shirt size, so crisis is now averted! Hurrah!
Hen party plans are now underway and the tops are ordered :D Just waiting to hear from my bridesmaid about a limo (my dad's offered to hire one and one of my BM's knows someone who owns a company that can give us good rates)
CommentAuthorada
So glad it has all workes out one less thing to worry about. hope you all have a fab night xx
CommentAuthorNicsquared
Thats good that its all sorted and worked out in the end
There are so many people out there who will tell you
what you can't do.
What you have to do is turn around and say, "watch me"!!
CommentAuthorMrsPink
So glad its all worked out hun x
CommentAuthorEnny
glad it all works out hun :)
CommentAuthorIgnition
That's excellent news hunni. xx
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Having a Fun Fair Reception
It's going To Be Awesome
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CommentAuthorcharlottelee
Thats really good news glad you finally got hold of her
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CommentAuthorJane
glad it's all better :) hun and your friend can make it after all :)
yay soon 2 be Lady Jane Bradbury
CommentAuthorKat831
Yay glad its sorted, you can enjoy the build up to your hen night now!
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CommentAuthorjo Santa
Fab. We often worry ourselves over these things and they turn out to be nothing. Have a naughty but nice time!!
Jo Santa
CommentAuthorMrsC2B
Hooray! Hope you have an amazing time. xx
CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
Jo Santa, that's what h2b says to me almost daily!
She's paid in full, so everything is a go- yaaaaay! Just need to make sure my BMs don't succeed in getting a stripper to show up at the spa. lol.
