Hello Everyone I was hoping to get your honest opinion.
Because I am a teacher I am restricted to getting married in the school holidays and because I want a pit of prep, honeymoon and moving house time, this will need to be the longer summer hols.
Sadly this is the most expensive time to get married. I have investigated and it would be cheeper to have it on a Sunday or Friday. I think a Sunday wedding would be really nice, although we are deffinatly having a church wedding.
A Sunday wedding would make it difficult for people to get back for work on Monday, especially as we have several people coming from over seas.
What do you think?
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CommentAuthorAmyP7
We are getting married on a Friday as its cheaper and everyone that we have asked is coming. It does not matter about the day, if they want to come they will book time off for it x x
CommentAuthorBev
Go with whatever suits you both. Personally, I think I would opt for a Friday wedding over Sunday simply because it would give your guests a long weekend off work and the majority will be worried about getting up for work the next morning, so will be more relaxed.
Happy planning :) xx
CommentAuthorVelcro
Personally, Id opt for the Friday over a sunday, people can book the friday off and have a long weekend, i know you could argue the same about the sunday and booking monday off, but the friday means they still have the rest of the weekend to do what they want without having to worry about a wedding at the very end of the weekend.
However, if you would prefer a Sunday, the guests can like it or lump it
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CommentAuthormillz090
Have you found your venue already? We thought ours would cost more in the summer but they are fixed price all year round so made no difference to us when we picked.... Worth asking?! Otherwise it's a tough one as Friday means a day off work and possibly the Thursday to travel down but Sunday means I can't drink alot as working next day and also be a rush, however if I was a friend and invited then at the end of the day it's your choice and I would make the effort whenever.
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If your really clever you will find the sunday before the monday bank holiday so not so many people will have to rush home due to work and have a good night :D I'm going to attempt something similar as my moh is a teacher but need to keep costs down xx
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
I would choose what date suits you best hun. Fridays are good as people only need to take one day off work, even a Thursday wedding is do-able if you want to save a little more, my sister had a Thursday wedding in April and still had 70 guests in the day and more in the evening, people made the effort to take time off work and also travelled a good hour and a half away from London for it (everyone is from the London area or just outside but further West.
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
i also work in a school but had my uk wedding on a bank holiday weekend ..with the ceremony on a sunday ... giving people time to drive up and return home with no problems .
your other option is to get married outside the normal wedding season
Hi we are having ours on a sunday as that was all the venue had left as such. when we picked it I was worried that everybody would leave early to travel back (they may still) but most people have said they will take the Monday off. For me I also went with a sunday so I don't have to take too many days off work.
CommentAuthorLulu1388
We're getting married on a Sunday. just so happens to be bank holiday too! (a little more expensive) but then most people have day off on Monday and turns out its half term as well. thats just pot luck. you could possibly look at something like that then take a delayed honeymoon, or are you looking at having it all within the same time space? Like the others have said, there are definitely pros and cons to either friday or sunday so doing a bit of research with venues and what not and take it from there xx
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Personally, as a guest I'd prefer a Friday then you have the whole weekend to recover!
But i wouldn't be massively fussed either way...
My only concern would be that a lot of people go out/get drunk on Friday Saturday night, so they might be a bit jaded for a Sunday wedding? Mind you, if I knew I had a wedding the next day, I'd stop in, so maybe not so much of an issue. Xx
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CommentAuthorKirsty
We are getting married on a sunday before a bank holiday, the venue was cheaper and most guests already have the Monday off so everyone is a winner!
CommentAuthorMrs C to be!
I'd prefer a Friday to Monday, people tend to like having the Friday off of work, and not Monday, also think about the closing times. As its a Sunday bars close earlier, and if you want a late night you may need pay extra.
You may also find that more guests wouldn't be tempted to take a Monday off of work and may drive, therefore leave early and not drink. Could be a good thing, but could mean that people leave early.
We were invited to a friends wedding on a Sunday. We were only invited to the evening do, which we duly attended but it was an hours drive each way, we didn't want to take a days holiday and pay for a hotel so we stayed for an hour or so and then had to leave to get back at a reasonable time. We wouldn't have missed it but took it into consideration when we booked our wedding.
CommentAuthorprincesspixie
I would definitely choose a friday wedding over a sunday wedding. Sunday's are for relaxing and big Sunday dinners lol plus it'd be better for your guests to not have to worry about the monday xx
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CommentAuthorMargaretH85
I would go for Friday, because with a Sunday wedding, guests wouldn't be able to 'have a few drinks' if they have work the next day.
Not only that, but as you're having a church wedding, well that restricts the times you could get married on a Sunday, as obviously you would have to fit in with the Sunday worship service/s the church has that day.
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Friday or Sunday sounds fine if u want it cheaper.... Ppl will still come xx
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CommentAuthorhmurgy
Thank you so much everyone. This has been really helpful. I am now favouring a Friday wedding.
CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
Good choice :) Hubby was best man for his mate in Dublin a couple of years ago and their wedding was on a Thursday. This worked well as his family were all from the UK so we all just made a holiday of it and stayed over for a few days. It helped that they were able to get a deal with the hotel mind. May be worth asking your venue if they would do something similar...
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CommentAuthorRachaelC80
We're getting married on a Friday at the end of May, which there is a bank holiday on the Monday!!! I think my guests are happy it's on a Friday as some of them are travelling from up north so it gives them time to travel back before the Tuesday!! :-)
CommentAuthorSaraA20
We are getting married on a Friday, my dad wasn't very happy as its not 'traditional' but seen as we are paying for it he had to like it or lump it! lol my belief is if people want to share your day with you, they will book it off work. If you give people plenty of notice i wouldnt see it as a problem. As you want to get married in a Church, you will struggle to find a church that will marry you on a sunday due to services etc... xx
CommentAuthorJoanna
It's not necessarily fair to say that if people want to come, then they'll get the time off and if they don't come that they didn't want to. If h2b and I were invited to a Friday wedding, it'd be hard for us both to get the day off and I also work Saturdays starting at 6am so I'd have to get the Saturday off too. If work won't give it you off, what choice do you have? It doesn't mean you don't want to go. Not being negative, just giving you the guests point of view
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CommentAuthorSaraA20
Completely understand Joanna, always good to have the guest opinion. :)
I suppose it all depends on your guests, i know that majority of our friends and family work schedule etc so shouldn't be an issue for ours. And on the flip side, we saved ourselves 3k by moving it from Saturday to the Friday meaning we could afford the wedding we wanted :)
CommentAuthorHelenW
We're getting married on a sunday but giving our guests a years notice so that they can take the monday off work. I know pretty much all of them would be happy to do that! x
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CommentAuthorPB
We got married on a Friday and everyone was able to come.I had a few guests saying that it was nice to have a Friday wedding as they had more time to recover! We originally wanted to get married on the Sunday but our church don't do weddings on Sundays so its best to check with your vicar.We have however been to a Sunday church wedding at another church (so obviously some do them) where it was a bank holiday the day after so that worked too x
CommentAuthorSianyCaitlin
We're getting married on a Sunday cos it's cheaper & as long as people have enough notice to book the Monday off, there's no reason they can't go! xx
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CommentAuthorMargaretH85
My uncle is a vicar and he said it is left to individual vicars to decide whether they perform weddings on a Sunday. A lot of it depends on whether they have time.
The days of one vicar for every church are long gone. A shortage of vicars AND a shortage of money means, many vicars these days preside over a whole parish, which will include two or three churches (or in rarer cases, one or two more than that). Of course some vicars do still just have one church to preside over, but more and more, this isn't the case.
My uncle presides over a parish where he is the vicar for three churches, and he performs a Sunday service at each church, every week. He'll do a 9am service at one, an 11.30am service at another and then an evensong (about 6pm) at the other. This is on a three week cycle, so each church gets a service at each time, over three weeks. Some people prefer the 11.30am, so they'll travel to whatever village church has the service that week, but others can't travel so appreciate having a service at "their" church each week.
Because of this, my uncle doesn't perform Sunday weddings, because he hasn't got the time. However, he knows vicars in nearby parishes who will perform Sunday weddings (as they have more time to do so), and he will always refer couples to them.
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Bear in mind with Sunday weddings, there are often restrictions to when you can get in to decorate and when guests arrive. There may also be limited time for photos after the church.
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CommentAuthorIzzy_w
Hi,
We are having a Friday wedding.... We found it was actually better for a number of our guests - we have half the family travelling from Ireland and having a Sat wedding meant they would be travelling home on a Sun with a hangover!! Was delighted to find that even though we are also having an August wedding, the hotel still only charged us 1/2 price for 1 room (but gave us 2), knocked 10% off all food costs, reduced hotel room costs etc, we also had savings with car (£50), photographer (£250) and videographer (£50). We are about to send out invites now so that people can book the day off work asap as we know it'll be a busy period. Either way, no one has complained aout using hols etc.... x
CommentAuthorsita_meena
We are getting married on a friday at the beginning of the summer hols (H2B is also a teacher)
CommentAuthorbumblebumble
we were originally going for a sunday but ended up with a satrday thanks to the parents.
Have you had a look at maybe school holiday in half term? My mums a teacher so we are having our in October half term. :) xx
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CommentAuthorvicki
We're getting married on a Friday as we can only get married Mon - Fri at the registry office that we want to get married at and a Friday seemed to be the best day for everyone
CommentAuthormadhen
We are also getting married on Friday. My cousin is a teacher and she's getting married the Tuesday of half term - so let's face it, Tuesday is pretty awkward for guests but hey! It's their day, it suits them, and we'll take the time off because it matters to us to be there. Don't worry too much about trying to suit everybody over and above yourselves - believe me, it's a slippery slope! ;)
CommentAuthorNEDebz
I would say go with whatever is best for you. We've chosen a Friday and have received discounts from photographer, ceremony and cars. So it's definitely worth thinking about
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CommentAuthorMrsWright290912
I got married on a Saturday because we had a lot of guests travelling to our wedding from a distance - this allowed them to either travel up the night before or the morning of as we got married at 2pm and then to stay overnight. We found Friday was cheaper but made it difficult for guests and Sunday was more expensive than a Saturday.
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CommentAuthorLisaT18
i think saturday is best. people work on fridays so they wont be able to go and on sundays people go to bed early because they have to get up early on monday.
CommentAuthorsita_meena
I think with enough notice people can book time off! We have my family coming from Malaysia, Australia, America and Sweden
CommentAuthorsarah
I'm a little late on this but for me a Friday is preferable to a Sunday, gives people a whole weekend to recover and spend time with eachother before they have to go back to work
CommentAuthorMrs Jones
Weekdays are great because you get discouts on pretty much everything. However Saturdays and Sundays are easier for guests to get time off work :)
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CommentAuthorMrsManiatt
We are having a church ceremony on a Sunday, the only thing is you have to make sure it's in between the services of the day, and we have people travelling from over seas too, but we have given them 14 months notice so they can arrange to have a day off, also week days give them cheaper flights, as well as sundays being cheaper for venues! xxx
