As some of you may know my OH's Dad won't be attending the wedding and that means there will only be the FOB.
My Dad asked me last night about the suits and who's wearing what (the fact he brought it up in the first place with no coaxing was a shock and glad i was sitting down tbh!!) and me and my OH haven't officially sat down and discussed yet but was assuming it would be along the lines of Groom, Best Man, Usher, FOB, Bro of Bride, Grooms Bro & Grooms Nephew.... So Dad goes to me, as FOG won't be attending he doesn't know whether it would look right him & possibly my bro in the matching suit/cravats and that maybe it should be Groom, Best Man, Usher and everyone else in normal suits maybe with the same colour tie & buttonhole rather than cravat? As in the Groom will be in turquoise cravat or tie (havent 100% decided what yet) and then everyone else in Silver with possibility of BM in turquoise too... then have my dad and bro etc in a normal new suit but silver tie and button hole?
He said he feels he doesn't want to make a visual scene type thing or disrespect the FOG for not being there, and in a way rubbing it in my OH's face that well Lou's Dads attended type thing??? But not meaning it like that, if that makes sense? My OH and I would love it if his Dad could attend but due to unfortunate family circumstances it wouldn't work out.. and my Mom & Dad have already said how unfair it is that his Dad can't be there and respect him for it despite the circumstances... Am i making any sense?
What would you do?? xx
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
how can your dad be disrespecting someone who isnt coming to the wedding ... your dad is there to support you and tbh i think ought to dress in line with the rest of your bridal party if thats what you want ....as we had all our guest wearing back and while we distinguished the bridal party with the men having the same colour ties as the bridesmaids dresses ..... and Mr lala`s dad wasnt there either
Not disrespecting - he didnt mean it an offending way, he just didnt want to come across like if FOG isnt there to wear the suit then maybe he shouldn't either... im not quite sure how to explain it! like i said we havent 100% decided on the male part of bridal party & suits yet... but yeh no idea!
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
How silly, the only people in tails at our wedding was the groom, FOB, hubby's brother (he was best man), hubby's son (also best man), and then my three sons. Never even thought of the FOG wearing one as well. He just wore a normal suit.
Just because your H2B's dad will not be attending does not mean yours cannot wear the suit you want him to wear.
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CommentAuthormrsV2013
do you and OH want him to join in. he sounds like he's tring to be repectful to your OH but i feel that doing something to repect the OH's family might be upsetting to you. he also might be feeling a bit self consious about dressing up. talk to him and find out the underlying reason if there is one
Bless your dad! He's probably reading too much into it, but the end of the day i presume your dad is giving you away? so he will need to match the rest of the bridal party at least.
The only three of ours in matching suits is my dad, groom and best man. they have matching three piece suits and navy blue ties. My 4 brothers can get lost, not paying for them to match when I dont need ushers xx
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CommentAuthorJoanna
It was kind of your dad to consider that but I think he should be in matching suits as he is part of the bridal party. Especially if he is walking you down the aisle. My dad and step dad will both wear matching suits but h2b doesn't know his dad so he obviously isn't coming lol. I don't think it will look weird or anything xxx
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CommentAuthormym72
We did it differently to everyone here - and only the groom wore tails. The best man, my dad and usher wore matching suits but not tails, but with matching royal blue ties (hubby had royal blue cravat). Husband's dad wore his own suit (not matching) and own tie (again not matching).
CommentAuthorDonda
Your dad is an important part of your wedding, he will be walking you down the isle, he is giving his daughter away, in my eyes he more important than the best man, and he has a right to wear the same suit as the grooms party. Your Dad sounds a wonderful man, he seems very thoughtful and considerate, for him to say he doesn't want to disrespect the FOG who is not coming. But your Dad is going and he is important. Don't let the fact that the FOG is not attending your wedding ruin one of the most emotional and significant days of yours and your Dads lives together. xx
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CommentAuthorLulu1388
Thanks for the kind words and the advice ladies... hadn't even registered in my head that if he's walking me down (im assuming he is) that would make sense for him to wear the same! he is definitely more important than the best man - considering my OH still cant 100% decide who to have for that!!!
I like that you did things differently Mym72 and if it was to be like that for ours it would probably be the same sort of thing for us as you did, however I would much prefer a proper bridal party line up of suits so will have words nearer the time with him and take it from there!
Thanks ladies xx
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