We are having some of the usual traditions but to have the day we want, certain things are being left out or ignored.

Just wondered how rebellious/unique our brides are on here and what traditions they are bypassing to get the day they want.

Heres a few of mine.
1) NoTop Table - we want a round table like everyone else in the middle of the room so we can chat to all our guests.
2) Steve and I WILL be spending the night before together much to the disgust of our families. Its practical as we are staying at the venue and we havent spent one night apart since we got together.
3) No hen/stag nights just one big night for all male/female guests ie hag/sten
4) My fil2b is walking me down the aisle as my dad died and now Alan my fil2b is the closest thing I have to a dad.

There are probably more but cant think of them all at mo. xxx

We're also going to go for a round 'top' table too :) xx

My h2b probably won't be wearing a suit. I don't know if we're going to have speeches yet. May not be having wedding favours.

No idea yet! LOL.

I suspect probably a shirt and black chinos - or something kinda smart casual. He just hates suits, and we'd always planned our wedding dress code to be "wear what you like", so people can be as dressy or as casual as they want. I don't know if we'll stick to that, but that's what it's at currently ;p

I'm not even having a table plan let alone a top table lol.. I am also walking down the aisle myself as my dad isnt around, and we are having a really informal reception with games and stuff, the whole speech thing isnt really us!

I am going to make a speech but other than that I'm pretty traditional!

no speeches, informal reception more like a party.
not spending night apart before wedding.
no honeymoon, family holiday before wedding.

Greyarea....theres a website that do a beautiful leather wedding dress. It looks absolutely stunning. If I can find the site I'll post it on my wall :)

think im going to be non traditional and do a brides speech so i can thank people personally and not have everything said by H2b :-) x

mine's is probably the most traditional you can get lol I can hardly think of one original thing!

Well when we are doing the dances I want to dance with my friends to 'you're in my heart' by Rod Stewart cos that is our song! that count?

-H2B helped me pick my dress, he will see it once it's ordered, not sure if he'll see me in it before the day but if he does, I'm not bothered.
-Probably not having stag and hen nights
-No hire cars
-Asking for vouchers instead of gifts
-Not bothering with something old, new, borrowed and blue
-Not wearing a garter
-Not telling the guests they can't wear whites/bridal party colours
-We're not having Bridesmaid and Best man as witnesses
-Was going to walk down the aisle alone and not be given away but might have my eldest brother do it now.
-Not wearing e-ring and w-ring on same hand once w-ring is on
-Not having a top table, probably have a sweetheart table for just the two of us
-I would like to make a Brides speech
-No real (or real looking) flowers
-No bouquet/garter toss
-No honeymoon

Not sure if all of these count but either way it's a hefty list lol!

-Not having a top table, but a round table in the middle of the room for us two and the bridesmaids and partners,
-Not having speeches, and when we are announced into the room we will cut our cake straight away, and this will give the reason for the toast instead of speeches
-H2B isnt wearing a wedding ring.....but THIS is the traditional part actually. its only recently that men have worn rings.
-When we leave the registry office to go to the reception, H2B will be driving his own car and i will be with him....rather than being driven while we sit in the back together
-Wearing a Purple underskirt
-Making my own dress
-Bridesmaids all in different colours
-Not wearing a garter
-Not throwing my bouquet......its a brooch bouquet and weighs 1.5kg.....it could take someones eye out!
-My son is walking me down the aisle
-No hire cars......H2B will go in his own car, and my brother will take 2 bridesmaids and my sister is taking me and the other 2 bridesmaids.
-Not having an evening reception....its just going to go on until everyone gets tired/fed up and goes home.

We are not having a traditional day.....
H2b helped me choose the flowers, my jewellery, shoes and dress although he won't see me in the full ensemble until the day itself.
We will be spending the night before together and leaving for the ceremony together,
No top tables, seating plans or formal sit down meal - having a buffet instead and guests can sit wherever they please and mingle!
No favours
No garter
No bridesmaids or attendants
We are having a 1950's themed day so lots of bright colours, no particular theme as such to the whole day although my dress will be ivory (matching the flowers) but with a baby pink petticoat
Not throwing my bouquet as I want to keep it.

We want a relaxed, fun day without following too much tradition .... but I will be doing the old, new, borrowed and blue!

This is what we did (or didn't do):

In Vegas - was all pretty traditional, except my mum walked me down the aisle as my dad died 16 years ago. No garter, no favours, no speeches. Wedding breakfast was at the Top of the World restaurant with everyone around the same table. Then limo tour round Vegas then the 'oldies' went off and did their own thing whilst our friends and us went to one of the bars at the MGM Grand (where we were staying).
In London:
Spent the night together before the blessing (well, we WERE married by that point!)
No garter
No speeches
No formal dress code - even for the wedding party
No sit-down meal, just a lovely buffet including caribbean chicken (the site won't let me use the proper word!), rice and peas and freshly poached salmon and beautiful salads
No car hire
No throwing of the bouquet
Nothing borrowed (did that for the actual wedding)
No seating plan and no top table

I think that's it!

Indeed I did :)

my cousin had a "sit where you wna t" and it was chaos!!!! so were deffo having a seating plan for the day!
im pretty trad tho, i want it informal but still with lil trad stuff xxxx

What a good thread, only just seen it...

Like you Stevie_Dee we are also ignoring alot of traditions..

1. We are spending the night together before our wedding.
2. I wont be having anything old, blue or borrowed. Only something new (most things lol)
3. No speeches or top table (No wedding reception or meal infact)
4. I am walking myself down the isle.
5. My H2B helped me pick & order my wedding dress (he hasnt seen it in person though, but he will a week before the wedding)
6. H2B isnt wearing a suit.
7. No bridesmaids or best man etc (no guests atall accept witnesses that my wedding planner will arrange)
8. No hen/stag do i dont think.. maybe more of a pre-wedding meal/night out for both of our family & friends

There are probably more but i cant think atm..
We are having the wedding day WE want & i couldnt be happier about it

Kate I'm not sure of the receiving line either, it says somewhere on here you should if you have a big wedding incase you dont have time to get round all the guests and speak to them personally but my god, it could go on forever lol

also not having a top table - i hate them with a passion! and i'd really love h2b to come dress shopping with me but haven't convinced him yet...!

We didn't have stag and hen nights either - really couldn't see the point of them as we go out with mutual friends usually anyway.
My dad did walk me down the aisle, and actually made a speech as well - but we hadn't planned speeches. In fact husband surprised me with a speech all prepared as we had agreed we weren't going to do that.
We stayed in the same hotel the night before - but did have separate rooms - and we kept out of each others way on the day of the wedding til I arrived at the ceremony.
We had our wedding at Gretna so didn't have our evening reception til after the honeymoon - 4 weeks after the actual wedding lol. On the day of the wedding we had the reception then into the hotel bar for the night so it was very informal.
We didn't have a top table as such - but a table for just the two of us - then the rest of the guests on two long tables either side of us.
I didn't throw my bouquet because I wanted to keep it (artificial flowers).
We didn't have favours because we couldn't see the point of them.
We didn't cut the cake and hand it out at the wedding - but did have official pics of us 'cutting' the cake. We gave the cake out after the hotel cut it up for us, then took the rest home for everyone else (colleagues, friends etc).
We didn't have any silly rules on what guests could wear - they knew it was formal or smart - but no colours were off limits. And even though some people wore ivory they didn't look out of place and didn't overshadow me lol.

were spending the wedding night together as we will be in Kos and are getting legally married just the two of us in the town hall in the morning, so whats the point in spending the night apart and then having to make our way to the town hall together anyway!!

then were having the beach wedding with all the family at sunset, h2b is wearing chinos and a light shirt so no shirt, bridesmaids will be in summery maxi dresses not formal bridesmaids dresses. No first dance on our wedding night as we are in a taverna, maybe informal speeches, no seating plan or top table.

pretty untraditional tbh!! xx