We are having some of the usual traditions but to have the day we want, certain things are being left out or ignored.
Just wondered how rebellious/unique our brides are on here and what traditions they are bypassing to get the day they want.
Heres a few of mine. 1) NoTop Table - we want a round table like everyone else in the middle of the room so we can chat to all our guests. 2) Steve and I WILL be spending the night before together much to the disgust of our families. Its practical as we are staying at the venue and we havent spent one night apart since we got together. 3) No hen/stag nights just one big night for all male/female guests ie hag/sten 4) My fil2b is walking me down the aisle as my dad died and now Alan my fil2b is the closest thing I have to a dad.
There are probably more but cant think of them all at mo. xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsOwen
were not having a top table, also my h2b is having a black wedding ring, as long as your happy there shouldnt be a problem x
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CommentAuthorfuture-mrs-watson
We're also going to go for a round 'top' table too :) xx
CommentAuthorsam73
We are not having speaches at the wedding - my dad goes to jelly when having to speak to people and most people just want to drink anyway.
CommentAuthorFaeth
My h2b probably won't be wearing a suit. I don't know if we're going to have speeches yet. May not be having wedding favours.
I'm intrigued Faeth - what will he b wearing instead of a suit? x
CommentAuthorFaeth
No idea yet! LOL.
I suspect probably a shirt and black chinos - or something kinda smart casual. He just hates suits, and we'd always planned our wedding dress code to be "wear what you like", so people can be as dressy or as casual as they want. I don't know if we'll stick to that, but that's what it's at currently ;p
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CommentAuthorCroc
My dads not walking me down the aisle am walking my self, were not having speeches were having singing waiters instead. Plus the thing aim doing the most traditional way is were going on honeymoon on our wedding day and leaving our guests about 9.30pm which people tend not to do nowadays
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CommentAuthormillwalljayne
I'm not even having a table plan let alone a top table lol.. I am also walking down the aisle myself as my dad isnt around, and we are having a really informal reception with games and stuff, the whole speech thing isnt really us!
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CommentAuthorboo
We're not spending the night before the wedding apart either. I might impose a no nookie ban on him before the wedding though lol
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CommentAuthorYourFirstDanceBride
I am going to make a speech but other than that I'm pretty traditional!
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
We had the speeches before the meal, and I made one as well.
Apart from that pretty traditional- a mix of English, Scottish and Military traditions though.
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CommentAuthorcaralou5776
no speeches, informal reception more like a party. not spending night apart before wedding. no honeymoon, family holiday before wedding.
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CommentAuthorgreyarea
My partner wants to wear leather but hes not I doubt we will have speeches and we wont be doing favours we are still in the early stages of planning the only thing i know defo are my big goth boots witha traditional dress
CommentAuthorboo
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Greyarea....theres a website that do a beautiful leather wedding dress. It looks absolutely stunning. If I can find the site I'll post it on my wall :)
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CommentAuthornini
We are not having a top table No seating plan, more relaxed with everyone choosing who to sit next to No wedding cars, walking to and from church to venue No floral decorations No favours
Trying to keep it relaxed and fun!
CommentAuthorleafy
think im going to be non traditional and do a brides speech so i can thank people personally and not have everything said by H2b :-) x
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CommentAuthormagpie
no speeches cos my dad would just rather curl up and die lol! we are not having wedding breakfast too many kids coming and too stressful to keep them quiet so just a big party instead.and no seating plan defo cos we want everyone to mingle mingle mingle!!!
CommentAuthorPennylane
mine's is probably the most traditional you can get lol I can hardly think of one original thing!
Well when we are doing the dances I want to dance with my friends to 'you're in my heart' by Rod Stewart cos that is our song! that count?
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CommentAuthorMinniemoocher
Ah bless to no2 :) I'm getting wed in red and we're having our honeymoon 3 months later over valentines.xx
CommentAuthorLegoWife
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-H2B helped me pick my dress, he will see it once it's ordered, not sure if he'll see me in it before the day but if he does, I'm not bothered. -Probably not having stag and hen nights -No hire cars -Asking for vouchers instead of gifts -Not bothering with something old, new, borrowed and blue -Not wearing a garter -Not telling the guests they can't wear whites/bridal party colours -We're not having Bridesmaid and Best man as witnesses -Was going to walk down the aisle alone and not be given away but might have my eldest brother do it now. -Not wearing e-ring and w-ring on same hand once w-ring is on -Not having a top table, probably have a sweetheart table for just the two of us -I would like to make a Brides speech -No real (or real looking) flowers -No bouquet/garter toss -No honeymoon
Not sure if all of these count but either way it's a hefty list lol!
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CommentAuthorJoanna
I love that everyone's wedding will be unique! I'm quite traditional so our wedding is pretty much following all the rules lol. I think the only thing we're doing not traditional is that my mum will walk me down the aisle x
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
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-Not having a top table, but a round table in the middle of the room for us two and the bridesmaids and partners, -Not having speeches, and when we are announced into the room we will cut our cake straight away, and this will give the reason for the toast instead of speeches -H2B isnt wearing a wedding ring.....but THIS is the traditional part actually. its only recently that men have worn rings. -When we leave the registry office to go to the reception, H2B will be driving his own car and i will be with him....rather than being driven while we sit in the back together -Wearing a Purple underskirt -Making my own dress -Bridesmaids all in different colours -Not wearing a garter -Not throwing my bouquet......its a brooch bouquet and weighs 1.5kg.....it could take someones eye out! -My son is walking me down the aisle -No hire cars......H2B will go in his own car, and my brother will take 2 bridesmaids and my sister is taking me and the other 2 bridesmaids. -Not having an evening reception....its just going to go on until everyone gets tired/fed up and goes home.
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CommentAuthorsussie
mines gonna be quite traditional, although only spending the night before apart because I have to be at the hotel at 10 to set up, and he will just wind me up. not sure about speeches yet, Only doing the table plan, so that other than the grandparent tables, (one is diagnosed with alziemers so if he does come i want him surrounded by faces he knows, even if he cant remember their names. and the other is just getting old and forgetful) I can mix the families up a bit.
We are having a kids disco and games between the breakfast and evening bit.
oh we are having no cars, minimal flowers (just bouquets) and I wont be wearing my e ring all the time.
does that count?
CommentAuthoriluvcakes
We are not having a traditional day..... H2b helped me choose the flowers, my jewellery, shoes and dress although he won't see me in the full ensemble until the day itself. We will be spending the night before together and leaving for the ceremony together, No top tables, seating plans or formal sit down meal - having a buffet instead and guests can sit wherever they please and mingle! No favours No garter No bridesmaids or attendants We are having a 1950's themed day so lots of bright colours, no particular theme as such to the whole day although my dress will be ivory (matching the flowers) but with a baby pink petticoat Not throwing my bouquet as I want to keep it.
We want a relaxed, fun day without following too much tradition .... but I will be doing the old, new, borrowed and blue!
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CommentAuthorJill
I always thought it was traditional to replace the e ring with wedding ring? I'm keeping both on anyhow (puuurty rings :))
We're going pretty traditional which I love, although I love all the ideas for non-traditional too! I think the only things I'm doing differently are...
Had my son first :) Will be staying at home the night before (so as afore mentioned son sleeps well) and travelling to my mums in the morning but h2b will be staying at the venue the night before, my treat :) Parents will be sitting beside their other half at top table and will get their own partner up to dance (everyones comfier that way) we're having 2 best men
Everything else is traditional though. There's so many different wedding ideas going on, I love it all and can see them all being as good as the next x
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
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This is what we did (or didn't do):
In Vegas - was all pretty traditional, except my mum walked me down the aisle as my dad died 16 years ago. No garter, no favours, no speeches. Wedding breakfast was at the Top of the World restaurant with everyone around the same table. Then limo tour round Vegas then the 'oldies' went off and did their own thing whilst our friends and us went to one of the bars at the MGM Grand (where we were staying). In London: Spent the night together before the blessing (well, we WERE married by that point!) No garter No speeches No formal dress code - even for the wedding party No sit-down meal, just a lovely buffet including caribbean chicken (the site won't let me use the proper word!), rice and peas and freshly poached salmon and beautiful salads No car hire No throwing of the bouquet Nothing borrowed (did that for the actual wedding) No seating plan and no top table
I think that's it!
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
LOL......i take it you meant J E R K chicken? I love the way the word was deleted like if it was a swearword! LOL
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
Indeed I did :)
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CommentAuthorDonda
We're spending the nite before the wedding together, we're getting married nearly 3 hours away and all staying in the hotel near venue, No wedding cars, venue is 2 mins walk from hotel No flower arrangements My son is giving me away as my Dad passed away 16 mths ago No top table, sitting at the top of a long table facing all the guest (14 of them) No official speeches, if some-one wants to say a few words they are welcome No evening do, just having our meal in a private room in hotel and staying there for evening with CD's and some games and trivia No bridesmaids or official Best Man, tho H2B's best mate will look after the rings and be witness with my Best mate. No throwing of the bouquet or garter Probably some more that I haven't thought of too LOL
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CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
my cousin had a "sit where you wna t" and it was chaos!!!! so were deffo having a seating plan for the day! im pretty trad tho, i want it informal but still with lil trad stuff xxxx
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CommentAuthorkrissy905
we aren't having a top table either h2b wont be making a speech i might do one instead my brother in law is walking my down the isle no garter or bouquet toss
cant think of anything else at the minute but I'm sure there is some xx
CommentAuthorHa_x3
What a good thread, only just seen it...
Like you Stevie_Dee we are also ignoring alot of traditions..
1. We are spending the night together before our wedding. 2. I wont be having anything old, blue or borrowed. Only something new (most things lol) 3. No speeches or top table (No wedding reception or meal infact) 4. I am walking myself down the isle. 5. My H2B helped me pick & order my wedding dress (he hasnt seen it in person though, but he will a week before the wedding) 6. H2B isnt wearing a suit. 7. No bridesmaids or best man etc (no guests atall accept witnesses that my wedding planner will arrange) 8. No hen/stag do i dont think.. maybe more of a pre-wedding meal/night out for both of our family & friends
There are probably more but i cant think atm.. We are having the wedding day WE want & i couldnt be happier about it
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CommentAuthorKate_B
I think ours is fairly traditional ish but we aren't doing the following: - No standing line (or whatever it is when you're all supposed to stand up and greet the guests after the ceremony) - Not throwing my bouquet (cost too much to go chucking around lol) - Not having full names on place settings, invites, table plans etc... Just how we know them by - No formal dress code - After the wedding we still wont be living together officially as such as still waiting for our house to be built so will be moving in to our 'marital home' a few months after Probably a lot of others but at end of day we're having what we want, I can imagine some people not agreeing to some things but nevermind eh?! It's our wedding not theirs :) ...xx
CommentAuthorJill
Kate I'm not sure of the receiving line either, it says somewhere on here you should if you have a big wedding incase you dont have time to get round all the guests and speak to them personally but my god, it could go on forever lol
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CommentAuthorXbox widow
We are not having stag/hen do's we will be spending the night together and travelling together to the registrar There will be no best man (he cant be bothered) No photographer (budget wont allow) No sitdown meal or speeches (buffet) No garter or old,new borrowed thingy may or may not be a honeymoon (going to do our best to save it) There is no dress yet (I dont care if its a bin bag, I'm still gonna marry my man)
CommentAuthormadhen
also not having a top table - i hate them with a passion! and i'd really love h2b to come dress shopping with me but haven't convinced him yet...!
CommentAuthorBrideInTraining
i think its should be the way you want it as its your big day :) so go for it x
CommentAuthormym72
We didn't have stag and hen nights either - really couldn't see the point of them as we go out with mutual friends usually anyway. My dad did walk me down the aisle, and actually made a speech as well - but we hadn't planned speeches. In fact husband surprised me with a speech all prepared as we had agreed we weren't going to do that. We stayed in the same hotel the night before - but did have separate rooms - and we kept out of each others way on the day of the wedding til I arrived at the ceremony. We had our wedding at Gretna so didn't have our evening reception til after the honeymoon - 4 weeks after the actual wedding lol. On the day of the wedding we had the reception then into the hotel bar for the night so it was very informal. We didn't have a top table as such - but a table for just the two of us - then the rest of the guests on two long tables either side of us. I didn't throw my bouquet because I wanted to keep it (artificial flowers). We didn't have favours because we couldn't see the point of them. We didn't cut the cake and hand it out at the wedding - but did have official pics of us 'cutting' the cake. We gave the cake out after the hotel cut it up for us, then took the rest home for everyone else (colleagues, friends etc). We didn't have any silly rules on what guests could wear - they knew it was formal or smart - but no colours were off limits. And even though some people wore ivory they didn't look out of place and didn't overshadow me lol.
CommentAuthorMrs Badger
I think were flouting most traditions, only incorporating things that we want to do. I'm not wearing a wedding dress, though still wearing a dress, Nobody is walking me down the aisle, in fact there isn't an aisle. There will be no chairs for the guests. No formal reception, no three course meal, instead a BBQ and guests will be free to come and go as they please. No evening do, no first dance. We will have some kind of speeches, but probably just h2b and me and we will be cutting the cake. Our evening portion will consist of watching a movie and eating too much popcorn, candy floss and sweets. We are not leaving straight away for our honeymoon, we will be booking after the wedding. We really wanted a day that reflected us as a couple.
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CommentAuthormelvis
were spending the wedding night together as we will be in Kos and are getting legally married just the two of us in the town hall in the morning, so whats the point in spending the night apart and then having to make our way to the town hall together anyway!!
then were having the beach wedding with all the family at sunset, h2b is wearing chinos and a light shirt so no shirt, bridesmaids will be in summery maxi dresses not formal bridesmaids dresses. No first dance on our wedding night as we are in a taverna, maybe informal speeches, no seating plan or top table.
pretty untraditional tbh!! xx
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