Wedding Forum - F**ked off......

**RANT ALERT** I've had such a stressful day today. I work in a hospital and have done for several years now and my FIL2B has just dropped the bombshell that he's been fiddling with his meds today to try out an 'experiment'. His words, not mine. I'm absolutely fuming and so angry! He's tried this before and completely ruined his other daughter's 18th birthday and despite knowing what a nightmare it caused for all of us, not just him, he's doing it again because he's determined that he knows best.... I mean FFS, it's so frustrating watching him do this! Just because he's read things on the internet, he really does genuinely think that he can self-medicate and do better than the bloody doctor. The doctor which has had at least 7 years training and not to mention the many years of experience but that obviously means Jack **** to him. I'm medically trained and know what I'm talking about, it's not like I've gone onto the internet and plied him with a load of crap! It's so demeaning to me.... Heaven forbid he listens to anyone else but his own voice. When he told us all what he'd been doing, I actually had to walk out of the house and scream before I said something I regretted. He's in real **** mode atm so D and I have escaped up to our flat..... I'm trying to finish off 2nd year and I can't concentrate to do any work despite 6 deadlines looming that I haven't even started! He's driving us all to distraction, had us all in tears today and from him I quote 'it's been like walking on egg shells today'........ Unbelievable! I love him to pieces but he's not a saint and can act like a complete *****r sometimes!!! It's like he can't deal with being well and needs to find an excuse not to do things. All he does is sit in his chair, dictate from it and order us all around particularly his wife then had the nerve to say after walking the 10 paces to the toilet 'that's really exhausted me, can you get me a cup of tea so I can recover'..... Really, COME ON!!!!!!! Sorry ladies, I'm literally at breaking point with him and ready to scream again. The problem is, I can see him doing this next year near the wedding because he will realize that he's going to have to a) drive down to Devon, b) stay somewhere he doesn't know, c) socialize with people he doesn't know, d) keep it buttoned around my mother, e) not think of himself for change and put his daughter first, f) not flip out over new situations, g) get over himself, man up and just do things and well, the list is endless but you get the picture!!! ARGH!!!

My doctor 'googled' my symptoms ... I blatantly see her do it, I could do that from home on her wage!

It's so frustrating when people are like that, there is just no telling them some times. What dose your partner think of it all? Is it worth getting a appoiment with your FIL2B's doctor even though it takes weeks to get a appoimebt, he may listen to the doctor when he finally sees him.
I am a support worker and I find some people don't like the idea if getting better because it means they will have to 'change' and fine it scary. They will have to be inderpendant and all that they have knowen for years or months is changing.
It's very frustrating I know!
Just take some very big deep breath, have a bath some chocolate and try not to let it worry u too much. It's not what u need after a tiering day at work. Xx

i wouldbe calling his doctor and saying what FIL is doing

I was gonna say what Susie said, you can't really interfere :(

His wife phoned after he told us then couldn't get through so walked round herself and got him an appointment for 24th April not 20th sorry, 20th April is their wedding anniversary which he is on track to ruin for the 2nd year running..... End of next week for goodness sake! The problem is that if it's not with 'his' doctor, he refuses to go and if he arrived and discovered it was with another doctor, he'd just walk out even though someone else could take his appointment if he wasn't so selfish. His wife can't even drive him there herself because she doesn't have a licence. He won't listen to me when I tell him how dangerous this is and thinks he knows best, there's a reason medical school is so long ffs! He's just read stuff off the internet and thinks he's learnt even to do this himself. It's maddening!