**RANT ALERT** I've had such a stressful day today. I work in a hospital and have done for several years now and my FIL2B has just dropped the bombshell that he's been fiddling with his meds today to try out an 'experiment'. His words, not mine. I'm absolutely fuming and so angry! He's tried this before and completely ruined his other daughter's 18th birthday and despite knowing what a nightmare it caused for all of us, not just him, he's doing it again because he's determined that he knows best.... I mean FFS, it's so frustrating watching him do this! Just because he's read things on the internet, he really does genuinely think that he can self-medicate and do better than the bloody doctor. The doctor which has had at least 7 years training and not to mention the many years of experience but that obviously means Jack **** to him. I'm medically trained and know what I'm talking about, it's not like I've gone onto the internet and plied him with a load of crap! It's so demeaning to me.... Heaven forbid he listens to anyone else but his own voice. When he told us all what he'd been doing, I actually had to walk out of the house and scream before I said something I regretted. He's in real **** mode atm so D and I have escaped up to our flat..... I'm trying to finish off 2nd year and I can't concentrate to do any work despite 6 deadlines looming that I haven't even started! He's driving us all to distraction, had us all in tears today and from him I quote 'it's been like walking on egg shells today'........ Unbelievable! I love him to pieces but he's not a saint and can act like a complete *****r sometimes!!! It's like he can't deal with being well and needs to find an excuse not to do things. All he does is sit in his chair, dictate from it and order us all around particularly his wife then had the nerve to say after walking the 10 paces to the toilet 'that's really exhausted me, can you get me a cup of tea so I can recover'..... Really, COME ON!!!!!!! Sorry ladies, I'm literally at breaking point with him and ready to scream again. The problem is, I can see him doing this next year near the wedding because he will realize that he's going to have to a) drive down to Devon, b) stay somewhere he doesn't know, c) socialize with people he doesn't know, d) keep it buttoned around my mother, e) not think of himself for change and put his daughter first, f) not flip out over new situations, g) get over himself, man up and just do things and well, the list is endless but you get the picture!!! ARGH!!!
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CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
Hi Hun, feel for u... Who put him on his meds? I'm confused, only with you saying your medically trained... I've done a 12hr shift today split between 3 services... Knackered xxx
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
My doctor 'googled' my symptoms ... I blatantly see her do it, I could do that from home on her wage!
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CommentAuthorCatherineR
Sorry hun, I think the keys ran away with me in my frustration! Bascially, the doctor prescribes him many meds but now my FIL2B is fiddling with the dosage because he thinks he knows best! He had a jippy tummy 2 days ago like we all did but he's just making a mountain out of a molehill thinking he's actually ill.... The reason he's a bit under the weather is because HE cooked a dodgy tummy! He thinks he can do a better job than the doc, refuses to go to anyone other than 'his' doctor which takes weeks to get an appointment yet he's quite happy with that despite the fact that he's supposedly ILL!!!!! Argh!!!!!
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CommentAuthorclair
It's so frustrating when people are like that, there is just no telling them some times. What dose your partner think of it all? Is it worth getting a appoiment with your FIL2B's doctor even though it takes weeks to get a appoimebt, he may listen to the doctor when he finally sees him. I am a support worker and I find some people don't like the idea if getting better because it means they will have to 'change' and fine it scary. They will have to be inderpendant and all that they have knowen for years or months is changing. It's very frustrating I know! Just take some very big deep breath, have a bath some chocolate and try not to let it worry u too much. It's not what u need after a tiering day at work. Xx
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You've hit the nail absolutely on the head. He knows he is starting to get better and just can't deal with it so is almost trying to find some excuse to be ill. It's sickening because my MIL2B is a carer for my her Mum who lives with them and she is literally run to the bone and on the verge of a breakdown! She's gone and booked an appointment with the said doctor but it's not until 20th April.... The whole family is so angry with him and don't know what to do with him or what to do. We've all come upstairs to our room to escape. He doesn't even realize what a nightmare he's being and that he's driven everyone away again!!
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
i wouldbe calling his doctor and saying what FIL is doing
I would second Lala's post. I work between a dental clinic as a dental nurse, and my gp surgery as their dispenser and receptionist, and if someone phoned up and said so in so has been mucking about with their meds, I would say to the person that I couldnt speak to them about it, however I could pass the information onto the doctor. If a review of medications is imminent, we can then use that as an excuse to make contact with the patient and discuss his current medication. The problem with the idea is that there is a thing called informed consent. We have to have a relevant reason to phone the patient and are at risk of being sued, or severely reprimanded if we contact a patient out of context. It is a really awkward situation. I have several patients who think they know better, but we manage them with regular input appointments with the doctor so they are reminded of the importance of each tablet. I have several on dosette boxes who know what every pill is for too! lol
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
I was gonna say what Susie said, you can't really interfere :(
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CommentAuthorclairenina
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There's no need for him to be self-medicating. How frustrating. In 2014, doctors now listen to patients, and work with them. If he feels his meds need to be changed, or dosage to be changed, he can discuss his concerns with his GP. I had an issue with a medication I'm on, and my GP listened to me, and agreed with me, and my dosage was changed. (I wasn't looking on the internet, and self-medicating, I was going by symptoms and went straight to my GP). It must be awful having to watch this and biting your tongue.
CommentAuthorCatherineR
His wife phoned after he told us then couldn't get through so walked round herself and got him an appointment for 24th April not 20th sorry, 20th April is their wedding anniversary which he is on track to ruin for the 2nd year running..... End of next week for goodness sake! The problem is that if it's not with 'his' doctor, he refuses to go and if he arrived and discovered it was with another doctor, he'd just walk out even though someone else could take his appointment if he wasn't so selfish. His wife can't even drive him there herself because she doesn't have a licence. He won't listen to me when I tell him how dangerous this is and thinks he knows best, there's a reason medical school is so long ffs! He's just read stuff off the internet and thinks he's learnt even to do this himself. It's maddening!
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