I have said all along that I wouldn't stress, I wouldn't cry and wouldn't get upset over anything to do with my wedding. However, with three days to go, I have cracked.

This summer, three of us who went to Uni together have got/are getting married. We invited each other and co-ordinated dates to spread them out. I have been to the other weddings and it is my turn this weekend.

My h2b and I don't have the biggest budget in the world as we have enough things to be paying for (don't we all), like maintenance for his ex and are only having a small formal do after the service and then a gathering later for everyone. The other two have now pulled out of coming to my wedding. One I knew about a few weeks ago as she couldn't get work cover, but the other one only let me know today. I suppose I should have seen it coming as when I asked her about it in June, she wasn't exactly firm but led me to believe that she was coming. She has cited not being able to get accomadation as one of her reasons but I happen to know there is plenty of hotel spaces available. Out of the three of us, I am the one who has kept in touch least over the years I suppose and have been back least of us as well (again, budget constrictions).

I don't even really know why I am getting upset as I was worried previously that my wedding would be 'judged' against theirs, not as glitzy (not that that bothers me anyway as it's what WE want) and I'm definitely NOT as skinny as them.

Should I be this bothered?

Awww don't get yourself so upset hun. If theyre goin to give rubbish excuses then there not very good friends anyways.
You should turn it into a positive and now dont need to worry about what they think and might even make a saving as two less people to cater for. You shouldn't be upsetting urself and comparing your day to other peoples. It is not about the money you spend or how glitzy it is, it is about you and your husband, focuss on the positives! Your day will b brilliant cos its what you planned for your day!
x

Well said Ziggyboo and to the point!x

Thanks guys, I've calmed down a bit now and come to the same conclusion. Its actually a bit of a relief to know that I can get on with my day and not care about what anyone else might think/say. I fully believe what one has said, but for some reason cannot make myself believe the second one as much, maybe because she left it so late to let me know. That's just rude IMO. All the people I REALLY care about are going to be there, including my really good friend from Uni, my version of a best man TBH, and he gets to come to the posh do, so there :-)

bless u try not 2 worry bout the little things u dont need em as long as uv got people there who loves u stuff em.like mrs brammer says enjoy n try n chill n relax for the next few days n get excited : ) xx

Its definitly their loss hun, you probably wont even miss them on the day and find you relax more now because you're not bothered about how theyre judging you in the background xx

Sometimes A Person just can't make it to a wedding, for what ever the reason. You will have a wonderful day with out them, it will go in such a blur the will not be missed. I am sure they still wish you all the very best