I have said all along that I wouldn't stress, I wouldn't cry and wouldn't get upset over anything to do with my wedding. However, with three days to go, I have cracked.
This summer, three of us who went to Uni together have got/are getting married. We invited each other and co-ordinated dates to spread them out. I have been to the other weddings and it is my turn this weekend.
My h2b and I don't have the biggest budget in the world as we have enough things to be paying for (don't we all), like maintenance for his ex and are only having a small formal do after the service and then a gathering later for everyone. The other two have now pulled out of coming to my wedding. One I knew about a few weeks ago as she couldn't get work cover, but the other one only let me know today. I suppose I should have seen it coming as when I asked her about it in June, she wasn't exactly firm but led me to believe that she was coming. She has cited not being able to get accomadation as one of her reasons but I happen to know there is plenty of hotel spaces available. Out of the three of us, I am the one who has kept in touch least over the years I suppose and have been back least of us as well (again, budget constrictions).
I don't even really know why I am getting upset as I was worried previously that my wedding would be 'judged' against theirs, not as glitzy (not that that bothers me anyway as it's what WE want) and I'm definitely NOT as skinny as them.
Should I be this bothered?
CommentAuthorMorgsysGirl(kempy)
aww hun didnt want to read and run... My theory is you wont even notice they are missing on the day... the night before my wedding my dad phoned my uncle as we hadnt heard off him and he said he wasnt coming as he didnt have an invite... he had one and had known about it for a year! he knew it was jsut after he came back off holiday. I havent heard anything from said uncle either and i will see him at my other uncles wedding at the end of the month i wonder if he will say anything, as both my brotehrs got cards and presents for 18 and 21st bdays of this uncle and I didnt.
But I didnt miss him, didnt even really notice he wasnt there!
Its your day dont let it spoil it all that matters is that you and hubby are there no one else will matter! x
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CommentAuthorPrincess2be
Awww don't get yourself so upset hun. If theyre goin to give rubbish excuses then there not very good friends anyways. You should turn it into a positive and now dont need to worry about what they think and might even make a saving as two less people to cater for. You shouldn't be upsetting urself and comparing your day to other peoples. It is not about the money you spend or how glitzy it is, it is about you and your husband, focuss on the positives! Your day will b brilliant cos its what you planned for your day! x
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Hun, you're getting married in 3 days! dont worry about these silly ladies who are going to miss out on their pals wedding! You are going to have the most amazing day with your h2b! its their loss not yours! Enjoy it xxx
met the man of my dreams 22/09/2006,
Had our amazing twin boys 16/05/2008
Finally becoming Mrs Davies on 31/08/2012 will make me the
happiest lady alive :-)
Dont be sad. Your marrying the man you love in less then 72 hrs!!!! you will have a great day and you will be kept busy with all your true friends and family, that you wont even notice that they are not there.
CommentAuthorringerone
Thanks guys, I've calmed down a bit now and come to the same conclusion. Its actually a bit of a relief to know that I can get on with my day and not care about what anyone else might think/say. I fully believe what one has said, but for some reason cannot make myself believe the second one as much, maybe because she left it so late to let me know. That's just rude IMO. All the people I REALLY care about are going to be there, including my really good friend from Uni, my version of a best man TBH, and he gets to come to the posh do, so there :-)
CommentAuthorShazk
That the way to look at it ringerone as long as those who u really care will be there thats all that matters i understand why u are upset but it is there lost xxx
Enjoy ur day and try and chill out as much as u can for the next few days xxx
Away with the flutterbys xxx
CommentAuthorShelleyM46
bless u try not 2 worry bout the little things u dont need em as long as uv got people there who loves u stuff em.like mrs brammer says enjoy n try n chill n relax for the next few days n get excited : ) xx
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CommentAuthorfiona
Its yours & h2b's day if they cannot make it, then feel sorry that they missed such a special day!x
CommentAuthornatalie2614
Its definitly their loss hun, you probably wont even miss them on the day and find you relax more now because you're not bothered about how theyre judging you in the background xx
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CommentAuthorHayley Elizabeth
As long as they send you their best wishes, i wouldn't worry about it and stress yourself out too much hun, not long now till your big day xxx
CommentAuthorWapsoid
Sometimes A Person just can't make it to a wedding, for what ever the reason. You will have a wonderful day with out them, it will go in such a blur the will not be missed. I am sure they still wish you all the very best
