h2b parents have been divorced for around 20 years, was having a nightmare trying to sort out the table plan, he remarried, mil2b didn't. sadly, FIL2B died at Christmas and i have no idea what to do now about the top table.
do i leave the space empty where his dad would of sat? do i put his step mum there?
have no idea, any suggestions greatly appreciated
CommentAuthorBee
if he is close to his step mum and wishes to have her at the top table i would put her there, if not just have his mum at the top table. Sorry for his loss x
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
hmmm i wudnt leave it empty cos mayb h2b will look n b rite upset! dont mean to be nosey but wat did he pass away of? if it was sumting wiv a chairty i wud put a donation in his name to it and hav like a card printed out frame it and put it on show ( mayb by guests book/card box) or a table 2 itselfs wiv few little things that he liked
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CommentAuthoramie23
he died of a sudden heart attack
CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
I agree with Becky - dont leave the seat empty as that is a constant reminder of the loss and can be quite upsetting.
I would most definetly have something though, like a mention in the speech, or maybe on the order of service - just a short line somewhere - maybe there are some words/sayings/poems that you can find online.
We had some people absent from my brothers wedding and the best man mentioned them, it bought a tear to our eyes and we were a little sad for the moment, but then it all got ok again and we enjoyed ourselves, and we really appreciated the mention in the speeches.
And as bee said if you're close to the step mam then yes put her there, otherwise just take the chair out.
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CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
but you need to be careful and remember that it is a wedding and not a wake/funeral.
and though the absent ones mean a lot to us still, we shouldn't dwell on them too long on your wedding day.
Enjoy your wedding :)
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CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
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the charity thing is an awesome idea though! because its turning it into a real positive thing!!
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
and if i dont say so myself is a TOP charity lol they do loads 4 patients n their family!!
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CommentAuthorKimi
I lost my mum just over a year ago and I am having my eldest sister taking her place. My other sister will be a witness as she has told me she doesnt feel comfortable being a bridesmaid which is fine with me. :)
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CommentAuthoramie23
i do like the idea of the charity thing. my concern is that by taking a chair away from the top table, we will still have the empty space as such. thinking about it, step mum may prefer to sit with her family. hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
i no u girls suggested not to leave the seat empty..but ive heard of brides leaving it empty as a mark of respect for the lost one and almost like they wil be able to still take "their seat" at the table if u get me!
i had a humanist ceremony and my celebrant mentioned my dad (who i lost coming up for 5 years ago, aged 52) i was 19.hit me so hard...and had him mentioned briefly in the ceremony i.e we just want to take a moment to think of those that are no longer with us..especially becky's dad...he's no longer here but will always be rememebred and loved ((hubby thought i would cry at that part but i didnt...my vows set me off)
then my brother who took my dad's place in giving me away had him in the speech and it ws perfect..then i put my bouquet on his grave the next day!!!
how about having a table named after him? or a candle on the top table?? xx
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
awww i like the table named thing x
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CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
its just whatever you feel you want to do..dont feel pressured into doing anything..
speak to h2b and see what he would like to do ..he might come up with something? xx
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CommentAuthoramie23
h2b has little interest in the wedding at the moment so is leaving it all up to me, obviously i am consulting him but he just goes you choose. men1 i know the day will be really hard for him and just want to do what i can to make it easier
