my FIL2B died last night after suffering a heart attack Saturday. H2B is handling him self so well, probably better than me lol. how can i make Christmas special for my other half? just want him to have a good time and not necessarily associate every Christmas with his dad dying. H2B has already said he wants a picture of his dad at the wedding which i think is a lovely idea.
CommentAuthorSoon2beMrsHall
Aww hun i dont know what to say. I am so sorry for you and your h2b. xxxxxxx
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CommentAuthorFaeth
That's so sad. It will be hard for him not to associate this time of year with his Dad's death, but it's only natural. My MiL2B stopped celebrating her birthday for a couple of years after her hubby died 2 days before, but time does heal slowly. Just be there for him, which of course you are, and just go with the flow of how he's feeling with regards to Christmas.
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CommentAuthorKaya
Sorry for your loss. Must be awful for you both, especially this close to Christmas. x
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CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
just make sure he knows your there when or if he needs to talk..men deal with grief so much differently than us women so it may be harder or easier to deal with
maybe offer to help with cooking some xmas dinner for mil2b?? make her day as easy as iit can be i spose..little things can sometimes be more appreciated than big gestures....they will be wantin to take it a day at a time with this
sorry to hear ur loss xxx
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yeh, just offer to take the stress off, but don't force it, they may want the distraction. It's best to take your lead from them and give what is needed. It's not something you can plan for as they won't know how they are feeling or what kind of support they want from one minute to the next.
And be prepared to take any bia tchy ness or brunt of anything on the chin. You may find their grief turns to anger and being so close but not close enough you get stuck on the firing line.
Hope things go well and thinking of you and h2b's family. When people go suddenly there is no way to know how feelings will materialise.xxx
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CommentAuthornickers
aw hun im so sorry to hear this my thoughts are with you and h2b at this sad time nothing more i can say than what has already been said big hugs xxxx
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CommentAuthorangelan1986
Hey hun, my nan passed away on the 16th last year and 2bh christmas passed in a blur. I dont remember any of it. I havent been to bad this year, put my tree up and just have to get on with it for the kids. Just let your h2b know you are there. will the funeral be before or after christmas? x
CommentAuthorMrsH2B
So sorry for your loss. Our thoughts r with u n ur family at this sad time! xxx
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CommentAuthorChrissy
So sorry to hear the sad news, time is a great healer as they say but, it is true. Losing a parent is probably the hardest thing, especially if they were close but you're being there supporting him will be a huge help. We lost my father in law (ex husband) on New Years Eve and I lost a baby 2 days before Christmas the same year. It was tough but, we now remember him with fond memories and smile and even have a glass of rum for him at Christmas and on his birthday, he would have liked that. We knew he wouldn't have wanted us to be miserable at Christmas which helped. My thoughts are with you all at this time, much love xxx
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CommentAuthoramie23
thanks for all your support ladies. H2B is only 23 but he is being so strong. doubt the funeral will be until after Christmas, im hoping its before the new year so we can start the new year on a fresh and look forward to our wedding in July. just going to take each day as it comes. H2B started a new job today so didnt want to phone in sick etc and has gone to work. dont know how he does it.
CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
aww huni i am soo sorry to hear that. my MIL2B passed away on 10.10.10 so only a couple of mths ago. we are all still tryng to come to terms with it and try and carry on as normal for the kids but none of us want to do anything for christmas this year. H2B wants to go see a medium. He was so close to him mum and it as crushed him, so he is hoping for anything, any news from her. My advice is just to be there for him through the bad days and the good. whatever he needs do to and dont get angry or 'funny' if he requets something you might dismiss yourself. I am not saying you are going to be like that huni, just letting you know of my recent experiences. I was a bit angry with this girl my h2b knows. when he told her he is going to c a medium, she said be careful with them as they can rip you off and what will you do if yo dont get any news, so also be prepared for peole being insensitive. I told him that she may well be there but you might not hear anything so dont worry if you dont get any news, because you know she is always with us all x
If you wanna talk pm me take care thinking of you and ur H2B and family x
CommentAuthorchezrudda
Im so sorry to hear of your lose, my thoughts are with you and family. Lots of love
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CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
its hard hun
my dad passed away 4 years ago and at he time i was 19...i know its hard to lose a parent at any age but when your still late teens as as ur h2b..early twenties..its hard cause you expect to have your parents around for many many years andlikes of my dad was only 52....i stil get angry now andthink about all the eejits in prision etc that get to live a normal life yet my dad was taing from us so early and he was a v.good guy!
just nudge him to yo when you think he needs to talk but he cant! jst be there like i said earlier ....berevement councelling might help him at some point in the next year x
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CommentAuthorRachie :D
My Granddad died on 18th December 1994 and this 18th December Rich's cousin passed away from cancer she was only in her late 40's. It's very hard loosing a loved one at any time but as Christmas is a hyped time its harder.
Lots of cuddles without being over smothering and little gestures help. Make sure you look after yourself too though as you must be hurting also. Talk openly and you'll get through it together.
Loads of love & thinking of you xxxxxx
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CommentAuthormrsquinn2b
So sorry to hear this sad news. Just being there for you h2b will be enough support for him, as he will know your always there for him.
I love how he wants a picture of his dad at your wedding. My h2b has asked for one of his grandparents at ours, which will be doing.
Thinking of you all. xxx
CommentAuthorMrs Mara Tester
I'm so sorry. I don't really know what to say. just sending loads of huggles. thinking of you
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CommentAuthorloubyscooby
My love and prayers are sent to you all at this difficult time. Just being there and letting him know you care is enough, he sounds like a great level headed guy. We lost someone in September during childbirth and so this year it will be difficult as the family dynamic has changed so much but we will light a candle for her and make her baby daughters xmas as special as we can (well whilst shes awake) but also if we are upset thats ok too. I hope you do manage to have some good times over the holidays and much love to you all. xx
CommentAuthorEmsy5000
didn't want to read and run but there is loads of really good advice on here for you and you are in my thoughts and prayers
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CommentAuthorpennieb-MrsRiley
As has been stated before, go with what your h2b wants this year. My h2b lost two family members over the Christmas period before we got together, and our first Christmas he wasn't interested at all, but last Christmas I invited all of his family round and he found that he really enjoyed himself despite having thought he would never find Christmas fun again. Because of that, we're doing the same again this year! You may find that there's nothing that you can do this year, and possibly not even next year, but it should get better after that. Hugs to you all x
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CommentAuthorKatkin
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss amie. Losing a loved one is a terrible thing any time but at Xmas its really hard as everyone around you seems to be happy and celebrating. I lost my childhood sweetheart to cancer on boxing day 2008 and Xmas was a blur as i was so numb trying to cope with the situation. 2009 was also very difficult as it was the 1st anniversary of his death, but it's true it does get easier. Just be there for your h2b, it helps to share your grief with someone close who loved him too, so be there for him when he wants to talk and take things at the pace he is comfortable with. My thoughts and love are with you both at this difficult time xxxx
CommentAuthorMrsMac2B
Can't really add anything more than what the other ladies have said but just do what your doing by being there for him. So sorry for your loss xxx
