trying to figure out the best layout for people and of course who to put with who ?????? nightmare
CommentAuthorDee37
When I did mine I did a quick initial draft one ages ago and tended to put his family together and my family on other tables and as for friends grouped them with people i thought would get on. But of course all your hard work goes out of the window when you send invites and get some people who can't come :-) Then you start all over again!
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CommentAuthorJill
I'd just put people where you think they'd be comfortable hun, that's what I'm doing... keeping both sets of parents with their other half instead of splitting them, and more recently decided I'm as well keeping moh and bm together, while both best men are together at the other end... just makes for a more comfortable, relaxed meal for everybody I think x
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Henderson
I'm having the same issues. When it comes to me doing seating plan i doing mine with H2B, My Mum, MIL2B and MOH. I'll need all the help i can get with my family lol xx
CommentAuthorJill
ooh just realised you meant table planning in general... my top table plan continues on to all tables - people sitting with people they know or are likely to have things in common with... they're likely to move after the meal anyway so may as well just sit them where they intend to be x
I have let my one bridesmaid sit at a normal table rather than the top one as she was worried her husband wouldn't know anyone. I didn't mind at all, was happy to be flexible.
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CommentAuthorJill
Dee that's not a bad idea - my bm might be better sitting at a normal table as her partner would have to see to their 3 kids by himself if she's at the top table. I'll ask what she thinks x
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorDee37
I suggested it actually as he's only met me many years ago and hasn't had chance to meet anyone else as yet. Its quite daunting isn't it sitting with strangers for a meal. That's a good idea if they have kids, so long as she's been with you for the rest of it that's all that matters. She was really grateful.
It was an added bonus as I found out after the less people on the top table the cheaper the flower arrangement as its shorter ;-) hehe.
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CommentAuthorJill
lol brilliant :) yeah I know what you mean about strangers, h2b was best man at his best mates wedding and all the people I knew were sitting at the top table... my son and I were sat on a relatives table near the top table which was really considerate of the bride but then I felt a bit out of place and like I shouldnt really have been there as it was for nearest and dearest lol x
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Henderson
My top table is only having myself, H2B, my mum and step-dad, H2B's parents, best man and MOH. All the other BM's and ushers are kids and are getting sat with their parents, i ain't babysitting on my wedding day lol. Really stuck with the other tables thou xx
CommentAuthorDee37
I've been to weddings like that, you have to hope the bride/groom think of you when they put their plan together! :-) x
CommentAuthorJill
Would any of you consider just having place cards sitting by the door for guests to pick up and choose a seat themselves? x
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorvikki977
i attempted a rough first draught table plan last nite.... it was so tricky. i have decided to let my BM sit with her hubby and have my daughter who will be 8 on top table as she is a bm too, also my son who will be 3 as page boy will be on top table so w're all together. i dont think i can do that with best man, as he will be needed for speeches so kinda makes sense for him to be on top table - only thing with that is best man and his gf are travellin from usa to uk so wont know anyone, so may be mean to leave his gf alone lol!!! decisions decisions decisions lol! xx
CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Henderson
Na Jill if i let my family chose were thy sat my mum's huge side of the family would be pulling extra chairs to their tables to all sit at one table lol. Plus if my dad does come he'd prob sit himself in direct eyeline of my step-dad so he could draw him dirty looks all day. NIGHTMARE lol xx
CommentAuthorEnny
ya i'm a bit concerned about this things... not just for my wedding also my friends wedding she has decided to put me on the top table but the thing is if my h2b comes to the wedding itself like he probably wants to I dont think he will be pleased to be all by himself on the table of strangers... as he only met my friends h2b once really and only knows her from work... so now i think i really need to speak to her as i'm feeling sorry for him if he needs to be alone...
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
When it comes to the time to do my table plan i have decided to put one family from my side with one family from his side on each table and mix both friends either together or inbetween the family's. This is a time where two family's become one so i want the tables to reflect that!
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CommentAuthorAnnette
I'm having trouble with this as well, family dramas, language barriers, age barriers, it's all messing up my table plan!! lol It'll all work out somehow though...I hope xx
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CommentAuthorWeeMintyMonkie
i have no idea what im going to do!!
My H2Bs mum might not make it i dont know if he wants his dad at the top table if she is there or not!?
So looks like it will just be my parents as he wont want his dads partner at the top table, and well i dont see why she should be anyway..... they dont really have anything to do with each other, Do we have his son at the top table and his sons mum or neither!?
Im getting all in a tizzy already and still have 2 years to go!!
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CommentAuthorKaz
We're having us and our 4 kids on the top table then the next 2 tables will be parents and then filled up as families, Only 6 friends at the moment so they are all on the same table and will have to introduce themselves! lol x
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CommentAuthorEmmaLouise
I'm leaving that till last, it's going to be a nightmare!
CommentAuthorAnnette
haha I'm the same WeeMintyMonkie! I've decided to put just me and Carl on the top table, possibly with our BM and MOH to avoid problems as H2B's parents are divorced and hate eachother, and I'm not very close with my parents so no that keen on sharing a table with them lol. And H2B and his father aren't speaking atm so don't even know if we're inviting him, Carl just keeps saying "it's two years away, I don't know who I'm inviting!!" xx
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CommentAuthorWeeMintyMonkie
I will talk to h2b about his dad being at the top table. Hes already said if his mums there then his dad wont be but if his mums not his dad will be but iv still to think about his dads partner and his sons mum. although i think H2B wont mind if his son is with his mum instead of on the top table. I was thinking of having a kids table but dont know if there is that many kids now and how some parents would feel about it.
Iv also got to think about friends and who will get on with who. my family and his family etc.
Its scary!!
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CommentAuthorKezrick
This is going to be my biggest nightmare! We both have 2 sets of parents from them splitting needless to say they don't speak then I don't speak to mil but h2b does n not many others get on with her, then my dad & brother dont get on with an auntie on mums side or a friend of ours and so on ... Literally dreading it lol xx
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CommentAuthorGazza 122
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Families eh!, because of mine,...we have decided that our top table is just the 2 of us!...very cozy x
then we have seperate tables for other guests who should be occupying the top table, table 1 is my dad, stepmum, s.sister (BM) daughter (BM) 2 more BM's my best friend and her husband
table 2 kevs mum, dad, brother (bestman) his wife their 2 kids and his aunt and uncle
table 3 my mum, her friend, my brother, kevs best friend (best man2) his wife, my son, kevs friend and his wife
then everyone else will be seated in a good mix i think i didnt want to leave anyone ut or make any of our guests feel uncomfortable so this was the easiest option for us xx
