Ok so thought it was all going well. Choose the date, booked the venue, got the dress, flowers evening entertainment etc. Recently sent out the invites even though it's not till November, due to being on a Friday and people having to travel. Now it seems that a lot of people can not come. The venue has said we need a minimum of 50 and I don't think there will even be that. Just really upset that the day will be a wash out!
I understand being on a Friday is not easy for people but just thought that it was only one day so they might come. Now my family have turned around and asked to change the date to the Sunday. However, some have already made arrangements and booked hotels. Plus I would feel kind of stupid changing things now if even possible in some respects and without incurring more charges. What to do??
CommentAuthorAmyP7
I would not change your day, sounds like to much hassle. I am getting married on a friday, so may be in the same position. If people want to come they will be there x x
CommentAuthorHayley Elizabeth
I wouldn't change the date hun, go for what you want sweets, especially since other people who are making an effort have already paid for their accommodation xx
CommentAuthorJo
Thanks to you both, I can just feel my stress levels rising. The thing is you want people to be able to celebrate with you and hate the thought of tumbleweed blowing across the dance floor. I honestly thought Friday was quite a nice day, to be it makes the whole weekend a celebration x
CommentAuthorKarenB9
I wouldn't change the date as the people that turn up on your day will be your true friends. My sister got married a couple of weeks ago on a wednesday she had lots of people to invite at first then realised that not so many could make it but they had a years notice and her way of thinking is if they like us they would make the effort . at least it saved on the catering costs for the evening x
Don't change the day hun. As others have said there are those that are making the extra efforts because they want to be a part of special day and wish you well. We intend to get married on a Thursday as that day of the week has always been our special day, we make every attempt to be together even if it jus for a couple of hours in the evening. Those that come to our day know this too and we know want to be a part of our celebration. Though we do expect there to be the odd problem for a weekday wedding due to work commitments for some. Stick to your day :-)
CommentAuthorKirstyM3690
dont change hun whoever wants to make an effort will! xxx
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CommentAuthorB2B2017
Ask the venue what happens if there are less people than the Minimum 50? Maybe they'll be able to section off some of the Main room so it doesnt feel so empty if you dont have as many people coming as you'd hoped?! Holding your wedding on a friday shouldnt be a problem, your giving people enough notice to book time off work etc...the people who want to be with you on your wedding day will be xx
We are marrying abroad NOT in the school holidays either which means our guests are having to pull their kids out of school for the week aswel as book a week of AND have to pay to come.... not that we are asking for much though...lol xx
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CommentAuthorShazk
No like the other i wouldnt change the date the people who truely respect ur relationship will be there.
yes being a friday can be tricky and i had this worry but If you give people enought notice houldnt be a problem and like j said can make the whole weekend a celebration xxx
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CommentAuthorJadeE26
Don't change the date chick and I would just take it as who doesnt make the effort to come doesnt deserve to share one of the greatest days of your life x
CommentAuthorSam
Don't change it, the people asking are being cheeky. Could you ask for a smaller dance floor. I was at a wedding with a small dance floor and it was great because it was always full. On the other hand I was at a large wedding in a converted barn and even when the floor was full it looked empty. The venue could keep tables closer to the floor and it will keep everything from feeling too big.
CommentAuthormadhen
I agree with Amy. We're getting married on a Friday, too. We'll give people plenty of notice and then it's up to them. There is always a way to get there if they really want to. Granted, one or two may genuinely have commitments they can't get out of, but the majority should manage. You definitely don't have to change your day.
CommentAuthorRachelM100
the way i see it is those who you are important to will make the arrangements to be there........ i would stick to the date you have set and im sure there will be a reason you set that date..... you have sent out the invites and there is plenty of time for people to book a day off if needed. try not to panic as im sure all will turn out good in the end and sure you will have an amazing day you and your h2b are after xx
CommentAuthorTori
Are there people you wanted to invite but couldn't due to cutting down numbers? Perhaps you could bump them up to the day do? If people want to come they will make the effort. I am attending two weddings on a Friday the same year I am getting married. It does mean booking extra days off work but I wouldn't miss either of them!
A Sunday wedding would be no better as folk would need to book the Monday off work if they wanted to let their hair down. At least with a Friday do you would have two days to recover!
People do like to moan when it comes to weddings and you will probably be suprised with the amount that do come xx
CommentAuthorPrincess2be
I dont think it matters how many people will be there, as long as the most imporatnat people to you are there. x
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
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I wouldnt change the day hun, I would just wait until you get your RSVP's back and then see how many short you are and maybe look at your evening guest list to see if there is anyone on there you could move to the day time aswell.
I do just want to say though that it is a little unfair saying that those who truely care etc. will be there as you dont know their situations. My mum is a teacher and would therefore not be able to attend a week day wedding as she doesn't have holiday to take from work and cant just take a day off. I am a student and have just had to tell one of my friends I will not be able to be bridesmaid for her or committ to attending her wedding next may on a friday as it is slap bang in the middle of exam season and I wont know whether I have an exam or not on that friday so will not say yes and then have her waste money is it turns out I in fact do have an exam on that day (which I will not find out until mid April!). It doesn't mean that we dont care about the people getting married or that we can't be bothered to go though. I accept that there will be some people who could do it and wont, but there will be others who would love to be there but logistically cant. Unfortunately these are the risks you take when having a week day wedding xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsSteenie
^^^^^^^^^^THIS!!!!^^^^^^^^^^ I agree that it is your wedding, your way, but feel the need to stick up for some of the people who may really want to be there but not be able to.... We sent our day invitations out 4 months in advance for a saturday wedding, and it seems that is about the norm. I have to say, for myself, if I received an invitation now for a wedding in november on a day when I was working, it's highly unlikely that I would be able to book it off. I know for a fact that my brother, who works for a very well known national retailer, has to book ALL of his leave in april, and can't change it. For many people it is just not possible to book time off work at such short notice... Plus if people have children it throws up further complications, especially if they have to travel, as it is a school day. As Linzi-jo says, this is a risk with a weekday wedding, but it in no way means that people don't care about you or your wedding. I really hope you have the turn out you want and that your wedding is everything you hope for :) xx
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CommentAuthorSam
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Good point Mrs Steenie. I've had to miss a wedding because it was a Friday and I couldn't book the day off. I don't think the guests should be asking to change the date though.
CommentAuthorVickyS19
I really wouldnt worry about it. Try to look at it in a positive way....those who do come will probably be those that mean the most to you and you probably won't even miss the people that don't come on the day. It is your special day and as long as those closest to you are there you will still have an amazing day. I wouldn't change the date....you would probably just find that there would still be people it wouldn't suit!! x
CommentAuthorClareS
If you've picked your day then stick to it. tI'll be a shame they can't make it but as you say, you may fall for charges in changing days, and some of your suppliers may not be available on the Sunday.
I work shifts with the emergency services as do a lot of our guests. Knowing we have to book our leave at least a year in advance, we sent out save the dates as soon as we set the date so everyone knew. Invites for our november wedding went out about a month ago and quite a few who had the std's have replied already. By nature of the job we're having to turn invites down left right and centre as we only get to find out about parties/occasions a month or two beforehand and there's not a chance of us getting leave. There's some really close family that we've had to say no to that we'd love to have gone but we just had to accept that we can't go. It's nobodies fault. It's one of those things. You can't get a date that every guest will be available for. Good luck xx
CommentAuthorClareS
With regards weekday weddings, my friend got married on a thursday in Dublin and it was sucha fab occasion. Tooka bit of planning, but again as soon as she set the date she let me now so I could get my leave as I needed a few days off. I think the issue is try to give people as much notice as possible. You do what's right for you hun and don't be pushed into doing somehting you don't want to do x
