Sorry ladies i need to get this off my chest,
I asked my friend to be my bm and she said yeah, since asking i haven't spoken to her and seen her, the other night while i was at work she rang me having a major go at me telling me that my wedding is going to be rubbish, the dress i am putting her in will the bad and so will her hair, she also told me that me and h2b are only getting married because she got married in june and we are doing this out of spite making sure our wedding is going to be better than hers, she also made comments that i don't include her in anything and she should be my moh as i have known her for years ( my sil is moh). i explained to her that i have had enough of trying to please everyone and i am thinking of cancelling the wedding, she apologized and said she felt v jel and my wedding is going to be good, i thought we had cleared it up until she rang again ranting the same as before but was saying it in a nasty way i told her i am not having this convo with her again as i was at work again but she still carried on arguing with me. i hung up and thought that this was supposed to be a great thing planning my wedding but it feels its not. i am already dreading my wedding day and this is has made it 100% more harder,
I just feel i cant do anything right

Honestly she isn't worth being bm cancel her and do only what u and h2b want

sack her, n dont even invite to weddin actually

Seem's a lot of BM's tend to get really jealous and bitchy when their friends get married. Least it makes it clear who your friends really are! Why can't people just be happy for the couple instead of making everything about them! Urgh some people need to be hit with sticks!

dont take her calls
sack her as bm
SLAP HER

I met up with my friend today and told her that i was thinking of cancelling the wedding as i cannot cope with the stress, she apologized constantly and explained that me and chris are having the wedding she wanted ( she was on a very tight budget) and felt i was doing it out of spite, i explained that i only plan on getting married once and want to do the wedding properly and have the church and sit down meal. I also apologized to her that her wedding wasnt how she wanted and that it wasn't my fault they couldn't afford it. she then went on a big rant on how her wedding was what she kind of wanted and i shouldn't of made that comment and she feels its best we didn't talk for a while. i agreed and said i feel we are going to fall out over this and maybe it was best she wasn't bm but was welcome to the wedding, i must admit i was waiting for her to have a almighty go at me but she didn't she sat there in shock as she thought she could talk to me like something off the bottom of her shoe. she then said actually maybe we should continue being friends and still be my bridesmaid, How cheeky can she get after saying nasty things and telling me we shouldn't talk i mention about not being my bm she automatically wants to talk to me, I thought i am going to stick my ground and reexplained to her that no i didn't want to fall out with her and not being a bm was a good idea, with that been said she got up and told me maybe we shouldn't be friends anymore but will still come to the wedding as her husband is chris's best man,
I just felt soo annoyed she changed her mind but i thought about it after and realized that she couldn't of been a true friend, she didn't invite us to her wedding or be her bm (chose a girl she knew for about 2 weeks and also because i am a larger lady she didn't want me to embarrass her). I felt really good for standing my ground and saying NO.
My wedding is gonna be the best thing that has happened in my life and i am not going to let her ruin it!!
xx

good on you for sticking to your guns, am glad your feeling better about having a fab wedding and if you still have to invite her to the wedding because her husband is best man make sure you stick her at the back of the room out of the way lol xx

omg its ur day not hers! dont bother talking to her anymore! shes wasted enough of ur time and been mean when she should know what its like and shes getting jealous when she didnt even put u in her bridal party! i bet it will do her head in not knowing what ur planning and not being there lol that is jealousy if ever if seen it! have a great day with the ppl that will be happy for u and not try 2 steal ur limelight x

good on u lass!!!! i wudnt even invite her to day do cos best man will be at top table so she be sat alone x