the thing is luvvie, that is just a clear illustration that he couldn't care less unfortunately;-( we on the other hand, do care:-0xx

I can just imagine what you're going through hun. The fact is, him walking away, without making some sort of effort says it all, it really does xxx

Clive your so right, he's got a messed up head and don't know what he wants i don't get it, xx

lala not really hun, and 2 of my daughters are too old and they know what happening Im afraid though if i do feel myself filling up and can't stop it i go to bathroom or my bedroom for a few mins so they don't see it but 12yr old knows i think cause she keeps asking if Im ok, but they have all took it ok so far, but when he left earlier our 3yr old was telling him not to go x x

Thank you kaytee yeah i know i probably am just wish it was easier the girls keep me going Im lucky to have such wonderful kids xx

Hiya i just wanted to let you all know im doing okish, its hard everyday to just carry on but have to for my girls, im staying strong and can say i missed coming on here talking to you all. But couldnt even face that!! Didnt help when my receipt for my deposit for make up lady come very upseting, but im getting through xx

No hun havent seen the thread, and thank you i think its gonna be a long road but hopefully will get there in the end it is heartbreaking xx

Thanks hun the thread made me fill up!! I have made some good friends on here and in time it will be sad to say goodbye but not ready to yet!! Thanks once again xx

Oh glad you're ok hun, you'll get through it, just take one day at a time and know we're all here for you, big hugs xx

Dont put too much pressure on yourself just get through the day and dont feel bad for having a hard day
I dont think you are wrong to say that - i think you need closure to move on, but he may not reply and you have to be ready for that too
I agree theres no point in dragging this out xxxx

Yeah hun im trying to take it 1 day at a time. Thats what i thought hun i cant get on with things why ive got the wedding stuff hanging over my head and dont worry i know he wont reply to it thanks hun xxx

Exactly hun you, the girls and your family can't be left hanging on for weeks on end. A weekend is enough time for him to clear his mind and realise how silly he's being xxxx

Yeah definetly hun you need to no so you can get over the hurt and upset and move forward with your lives. Would you still take him back after this though? xxxxx

Yeah thats the first thing you need to no and also why he went funny on you after you get answers to that either way you could move forward. I really hope everything turns around for you, you definetly deserve it! But he would have SERIOUS making up to do! xxxx

Either way babe you will work it out and like you said it will hurt at first but you will get past it. I still hope he comes to his senses and makes contact because you deserve an explanation if nothing else. Communication will have to take place at some point coz of your children so it's a bit silly him ignoring you. Take care though huni xxx

Sweetheart, take the pressure off yourself for a minute. The most important things right now are you and the girls. Having been married before I know its really difficult when the person you care about decides they "need time to think", especially when they wont talk. I spent quite a few weeks in turmoil wondering what was going on and hoping an d praying it would work out and we would get back together - a few weeks on I knew it was ended for good, but do you know what the relief of that decision made things so much easier. Once my mind was made up he suddenly realised he had made a mistake - Yes mate you waited too long and I realised I was better without you. Still hurt for a while but I got stronger.

No more stepping on eggshells waiting for the next disappointment. It looks bleak now but one step at a time you do see things clearer and begin to realise that one person putting 100% in do not make a relationship. If he can't talk to you now, no wedding ring will miraculously make him open up or treat you with the respect you deserve.

Take the joy in small things at the moment. Forget about housework, have a girly make up party with the kids; an afternoon with a DVD, pinic in the garden for tea.....

See if someone else can do the un- arranging of stuff because whatever happens in the future this wedding would only cause more problems.

Love and hugs xx

my darling I can only imagine what you are going through...I can't believe he has walked away without even an explanation to you of why...I think you should cut all ties with him and move on...one step at a time and concentrate on you and your girls. I know these are only words I hope they can be of some comfort to you. If you ever need to chat just send me a message babe I'm a good listener xxxx I'm sorry babe keep strong for your girls xxxx

Littlegerald thank you hun that is the plan now will ring round monday sorting this wedding mess out and then move it all to my moms so i havent got it in my face then i can start building my life back up his loss at the end of the day!!

Kaytee yeah she is right when this happened before he was in and out of my life like a yoyo i refuse to go through it again as i lost too much weight i went down to seven stone and at 5'7" thats not good ive already started to lose weight again. Btw hun tried to add you on fb but said couldnt find anyone

Same as here hun maria louise still pic of me an him xx