He never usually takes his phone off me if I have it. We know each other's passwords for everything too.
He's upset because he thinks I don't trust him. I'm upset because he feels like I don't trust him.
I'm sorry - it'll be ok x

Possum, all he has to do to restore your trust is show you the messages and stop being flirty. What sort of work does he do? x

I agree it's not a lot to ask if he's not showing you them on principle of trust then you need to say what's worth more his pride or your relationship? xxxx

If he didn't have anything to hide then he would just let you see the texts then make you feel terrible for big trusting him when you see how innocent they are.......I don't think they are though hence his defensive response. Typical making you feel it's all your fault, Stu would let me look at all his texts/emails if I wanted and I fo sometimes not coz I don't trust him but coz I'm bloody nosy but he looks at mine too and cheekily sometimes replies to my friends!!! Honey you need to end this issue now, if you don't desk with it you will continue to be upset xxx

Im really sorry to hear your going through this, but the other ladies are right!

I dont think anyone has said it this way but i really hate to admit it but I was actually doing what your h2b is doing-and looking back i was cheating! At the time i had fallen out of love with my daughters father and i was speaking to another guy on facey/txt. I was addiment i wasnt doing anything wrong but looking back i have never felt sooooo guilty! Thing was i just enjoyed the attention-it made me feel good when really i should have sat down with my ex and told him how i felt-instead of making him feel like an utter ****! Anyway things ended awfully between us-he hates me so much now and its awful as my daughter has to live with it-and it was all my fault! Talk to him-get him to tell you why he feels the need to txt this girl?

I really hope you get things sorted. I have moved on now and could never imagine doing what i did to my ex to my h2b-he makes me feel like a princess and i love him soooo much. He should not be making you feel like this

Possum only you can decide whether to believe him, I ope he pulls his finger out n does as he says... Muchlove n hugs hun, if ya need to chat you now have me on fb so pm me anytime... It seems you have made your mind up, but feel free to chat anytime xx

I'm sorry Possum but I agree with everything Goff's saying! x

Totally agree with goff-i tell my h2b everything! Even if it's huge secrets, i keep nothing from him

Clearly I meant does and not dies!! Poxy iPhone!! X

I thought that was a little extreme Kerry! Good luck Possum xx

Possum hun its your call, please think about it carefully i dont want you to regret this later on. I agree with Goff huni, i think most of us will. You need to make him sit down and talk, why couldnt he do that? I understand how previous relationships make u how u r now, my ex would never talk to me always shout, never listen to the fact he had upset me always make it about how i upset him and now my h2b has to sit there and say Nat whats up i can see something is wrong for me to talk cos im so used to not being able to talk to anyone :( But honestly i think you need to talk personal or not people should respect ur getting married and therefore u will share things with each other!!! xxx

Sorry but I had to come back on the forum even though I aint well as I had to reply to this post. Possum this will happen again and again to you if you dont sort this out with him properly now. You have already lost trust in him from how he has reacted with the texting to this girl and you will continue to have this in your head until it is sorted. Believe me when I say that you really need to sit down with him and have it out with him soon as this is no relationship if he cant be honest and upfront with you. This is annoying me so much that I feel like getting out of my sickbed and driving the 250miles to Glasgow just to get this all sorted once and for all.
I really cant see how you relationship can carry on without this being totally sorted out. Sorry for the blunt post but I had to say something. xx

Oooh Spooney, sorry to hear your still feeling poorly. Thinking of you! x

Oh hun I am so sorry you are going through this, my H2B is going balistic at the very thought of a man treating a woman like this. Please do not blame yourself, you have done nothing wrong apart from let your H2B walk all over you. As Goff said, personal or not it wouldn't matter if you knew, you are his future wife!! Make sure you know exactly what's going on between the 2 of them, you don't want to start your married life on a lie :( xxx

Im sorry but it sounds to me like you're making excuses for him. What he's doing is so wrong and knowing that its upsetting you and STILL continuing is even worse in my opinion!

Im actually disgusted by your h2b but in all honesty, if you're gona always make excuses for him then you're allowing him to continue and treat you badly.

If the texts are in your words flirty then it needs to stop and he should do that if he loves you. If he doesnt, if it were me, he'd be our the door with he's all he's belongings!!

Thats great news.

Im so glad you sorted it and feel happier about it

We all have different views on what we would have done in your situ..... and trust me marks balls would be simmering on the cooker right now if it was me lol

But you know what your doing and we are all here for ya honey x x x

*jumps back out of car now and takes deletes satnav route to Glasgow*

Yeah - I know everyone's advice was meant in the best way, but after talking about it, I know that I know my h2b and that this won't come between us :)
I am happy with the outcome and so happy that you're all here for me too :)
xxxx

Glad you ate happy now, that's the main thing xxx

I am so glad you both got things sorted out hun, now you can concentrate on the wedding again without any problems :) xxx

Im with Linzi. I think hes got off very lightly. But glad you're feeling ok about it all now