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    • TotallyLovedUp
      CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 21st 2014
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    I am so relieved we didn't get married this August. My cousins wedding was a week before our date before we put it back and all I hear is how wonderful and perfect it was. Don't get me wrong I am over the moon for her and so, so happy she had such an amazing day, but all I now have on my mind is that the family that went to hers are going to compare it to ours no matter how far in the future it is :( I am sorry to have a little rant and I know that ultimately I am being a little pathetic but if I didn't get this off my chest I would scream! I want our day to be perfect for us without the stress of worrying about silly things!
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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 21st 2014
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    How many people will be at both. Keep in mind that hopefully it's only a small proportion of your guests that will be comparing it. Also if you do the day you want it will be perfect no matter how it compares to your cousin's. My brother's wedding was not long before mine, but although both were similar each one had it's own little touches. It's the unique little touches that make it special.

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    • sarah
      CommentAuthorsarah
      Got married 17 months ago
      Posted: Sep 21st 2014
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    I just want to say that I've never compared weddings. Weddings are about the couple and the love they share and I feel that you really can't compare one wedding to another.




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    • TotallyLovedUp
      CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 21st 2014
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    thank you, like I said I know I'm being silly. I think the thing of it is, is that our taste are very similar. I am re thinking the scheme now so at least it wont be a like for like thing if you know what I mean? x
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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Sep 21st 2014
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    each wedding is special in its own way and if people are going to compare them it shows just how shallow they are

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Sep 21st 2014
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    • sALLY
      CommentAuthorsALLY
      Posted: Sep 21st 2014
     
    Totallyloved up have you had your wedding day?

    I really dont think people compare as every wedding is different
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    • TotallyLovedUp
      CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 5th 2014
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    No, we haven't Appy89, I haven't updated my info for a while. We kept putting it back because of money issues. I appreciate the comments and it did make me feel better! :) We have had a good talk about what we really want and have decided on getting married in Lapland! eeeeeeeeeeeeek! How excited am I! Really need to start the planning process now... first thing is save like there is no tomorrow lol It will be so much easier now that we are both working. :D
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    • ZaraF70
      CommentAuthorZaraF70
      Posted: Oct 5th 2014
     
    I would agree with others in saying that some people dont make comparisons.

    I know you will be thinking about it despite anyone saying dont. but the reality of it is that it will be your day. What people think doent really matter. What matters is what you think. It's the day that will never come again. you need to be content with the choices you make and forget people as people will never be satisfied. This is how i feel anyway. I really hope that you dont think about this because it will be your wedding so it's special as it stands. Just enjoy preparing each moment and enjoy doing things to make you happy and not others.
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    • Becky1608
      CommentAuthorBecky1608
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Oct 7th 2014
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    As long as you and your H2B have the perfect day for you then that is the main thing. It shouldn't be a competition, it's about 2 people in love starting a new journey together xxx

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    • NikkiE58
      CommentAuthorNikkiE58
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Oct 15th 2014
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    It's a bit weird, but when I went to a close friends Wedding last year, I did keep comparing it to the one I went to a couple of years before, as the first one was rubbish, and they broke up shortly after..but then this year I went to another friends one and didn't compare it at all to the other two, as they were so different, even though they had a lot of similar things, hey we're just done with special touches! I think it was because you could see how much the two couples really loved each other, that you just felt so wrapped up In the 'Love' that nothing else mattered, but in the first one, it all felt a bit strained, and we all knew how rocky their relationship was.. What I'm trying to say is, no matter how 'perfect' you want your wedding to be, if the love between you both is as overwhelming as I'm sure it is, then your Guests will be sucked into your Wedding bubble too, and believe that it was also just as perfect as your cousins wedding, but incomparable!
    I hope you don't stress out too much about comparing your wedding, as sometimes when I'm planning, I think about how perfect my friends one will be in Italy next year, compared to my Uk one, but then I have to remind myself that even if I had the choice, that isn't MY dream wedding, it's hers, and she will make it beautiful and perfect for them in her own way, just as we will do for ours! Xxx
 
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