I had opposite problem I asked people to soon (when I got engaged 2 years ago) and now since having a family and growing up which they have not have gone different ways and are not friends anymore ,at one point I felt reall awkward about having to say to them they cannot be anymore but 'Luckly?" we have had a full on fall out, so its obvious there not even invited. Its better to leave it , if anyone moans, roles of bms are to make things easier,smoother for bride not make thing more hard, so if they moan they obviously are not geared for the job, but If your really worried, say your still trying to work our how many bms you want/can have etc

I am having my 2 sisters, my sil2b and my niece. No friends. If anyone gets upset then tuogh to them. If any of your friends get upset just tell them that the friend you have asked is one of your closest friends who has been there for you through out everything and at the moment you have only chosen one bridesmaid as you know you can afford one. If you can afford more then you wil choose more but it is going to be a really difficult decision...it was really dificult to pick her over them xx

One of my mates got miffed she wasnt my bridesmaid but I had chose my 3 cousins and 2 of my mates girls instead she even went as far to say "when" she gets married she would only have so and so as her bridesmaids I just smiled and said aww thats nice think she was more miffed I wasnt miffed if that makes sense lol but if I started having mates as bms I would of had about 20 luckily in the end I had none lol, I wouldnt worry about it hun theres always someone you wont be to please but remember its your day and the way you want it so if they do go funny let them throw there strop xxx

Any person who is a true friend will respect and understand your decision on who to have as your bridesmaids. I found that the person who gave me the most grief over our wedding was a friend who was not married and therefore would have absolutely no understanding or appreciation of the cost and planning effort for a wedding. She upset my bridesmaids over the hen weekend, inviting one of her friends along to my Hen party without even asking, and me over insisting she had a plus one even though she'd know lots of other guests!

Hold your ground and if you want to add more bridesmaids later because you really want someone and can afford it then do so xxx

I wouldnt worry too much about it, it is your big day afterall. They should just be happy for you. Unfortunately you cant please everyone (im having that trouble!). As lala says, having one as a witness or doing a reading would be a good idea. Youve got loads of time to think about it :)

people shouldn't get angry about it being a bridesmaid is a privilege not a right… luckily i picked my 4 BM's straight away and then over the last year(since having my son) i've really realised who my friends are and added 2 more on if anyone was to get upset by not being asked then they're not real friends they should just be happy for you on your big whether they are stood by your side or sat with family and friends xx

my friend asked me to be her bridesmaid about a year and a half before she was getting married, however she then moved away and i was moving house and looking for a new job etc so we both were busy, then about 3 or 4 months ago she messages me saying she doesnt think i should be her bridesmaid any more as we had drifted apart, this really hurt my feelings as i thought we had the friendship where if we didnt see each other for a while it was fine (she even said this herself) so to then turn around and say she didnt want me, it hurt. I was lucky in a way as we have only had an 8 month engagement but i have just decided to have family xx