Hey ladies.........

Dont know if anyone else has had this from their mates but...a while ago i was planning my hen night (yep..planning it myself :( as my bridesmaids all have other things to do) so i put the feelers out of what we could all do, once decided i started a book of face group so everyone can keep up to date of the goings on etc...ive included the costing etc etc....eeryone said yep - they're in etc, as soon as i have asked for some money towards the deposits (i have told everyone from the start that this would be the case) i get ignored....its feels like they are quick to jump on and say they will come etc etc...but as soon as i ask for either help with something...or a deposit they cant be ar*ed!
Now im feeling like i cant be bothered with any of it.
:( xxx

i had the exact same thing with my hen and now i am helping plan my best friends wedding and it is exactly the same!

look at it this way though... the people that will be are your true friends and those that care x

Hi, I just wanted to say that I totally sympathise. This has been the one thing I have dreaded about getting married as I already know I'll have a poor turn out for my hen do. I was just discussing this today with my BMs and they were coming up with some really good ideas, things like going away for the night, and all I kept thinking was "what's the point cos nobody will be there". I have always had poor turn outs for my birthdays so I have no reason to think my friends will do any better for my hen especially I'd it involves spending money. It's so hard not to take it personally particularly when h2b is organising a long weekend abroad and has 20 confirmed so far! Anyway, just wanted to let you know you're not alone on this. Might not even bother with a hen at all, xx.

They dont sound like very good friends to me, your true friends will be there for you xx

I havent even thought about the hen nights/partys.
If money is an option for them, how about doing something fun.... if you have a jump or something like it near you, hire it out in the evening for a few hours.... will be great fun, then maybe out for a few drinks after?
xxxx

Thanks for all of your messages :)
I have already detailed every little thing so ppl can see where there money is going....im only asking for £50....thats complete transport in a wkd limo there and back to the centre of London! (you wouldnt even get a cab for that!) the club entry is £12. Im providing food and cocktails round mine before hand and throwing in free bubbly for everyone in the limo...so really think its a blooming good value.
I have detailed why and when i need the money by...ive heard so many flippin excuses....then one of my mates asks me to go to her b-day weekend in Nottingham....and dont even mention the Hen do money (she has plenty of money when it suits her)....grrrr! ive even said to a few other mates, why dont you give me £10 a week till the £50 is paid, ...i couldnt be any more accomodating i dont think???
You are all right - i will soon find out who my real mates are....thats for sure. It just upsets me as i am the sort of person who would go all out for someome else i classed as a mate :(

aww hun i know how u feel but like some others have said your true friends will be there and id be happy even if it was just 1 true friend opposed to 15 fake, 2 faced friends who are just there for a wild night not the bride! xx