Hi would just like to have a bit of rant, feeling a bit down.
I went to my step sisters wedding reception on saturday, during the wedding reception my step mum told me off (i'm 35 years old not a child) saying that i'm trying to rush my wedding planning and i have plenty of time, then my step sister and brother also said things along the same line - i don't get married for another 17 months but in the middle of a highly intensive course that will be taking most of my time for the next 6 months. All i have done is booked the venue, photographer and registrar and have been looking at dresses so that i can keep an eye out for it when and if it goes on sale.
I just feel a bit fed up by it all,
What are your thoughts?
CommentAuthorLauraY27
Ignore them!!! I've got the same length of time and I've bought bridesmaids dresses, commissioned my dress and started making my bouquets.
You'll be glad in the six months before that everything is all done and you can relax.
Another way to look at is, in 6 weeks we'll be saying, "I'm getting married next year" and to me that's a scary thought.
Do it your way, oh and who does your STEP mother think she is?!?! Lol xx
CommentAuthorRoxanneV
I dont think your rushing it, youve got 17 months but thats not that much time in terms of planning a wedding, theses days you need to try and get the venue etc booked straight away! to be honest the best advice i can give is just ignore them, its your life, your wedding so just dont worry about what other people think x
CommentAuthorChristinaB38
ahhh thank you, just what i wanted to hear.
That's the thing i take after my mum (who unfortunately isn't with us anymore) she was also organised. My thoughts were to get the big stuff booked i.e venue and registrar and photographer to ensure that they were all available on the same date, then we have time to do the finer details i.e make (or try to) the invites, centre pieces etc
Yes can't wait until 1st Jan!!!!
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
We got the big stuff booked early too, because we knew that between 12 months to go and 8 months to go we would be too busy with a Christmas project. I'm looking forward to saying I'm getting married this year too. It was great when we got to the point where I could say I'm getting married in August rather than next August.
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Just don't keep them updated with everything you do. What happens between now and then doesn't really matter to them unless they are helping you in some way, the net result is a great day which you have project managed in your own time in a way you can cope with. You're doing the right thing for the way you are wired, keep your chin up x
CommentAuthorBeckyU98
i had all my suppliers etc booked with a deposit within a month of getting engaged and we still had another 14 months to go. theres no harm in being organised i feel the same. just ignore them and like karen said dont share everything that you do with them and then they've got nothing to talk about x
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Don't tell them anything Hun ..... What they don't know they can't comment on !
yes definitely will keep them out of the loop now x
CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
I don't get married till August 2015 but i'm trying to get as much sorted now as possible, leaves less to sort closer to the day. I like to be really organised and at the end of the day it's your wedding not theirs so do as you please :) x
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I say ignore too, we booked our venue, photographer and cars 20months in advance because they were the things we knew were going to get booked up quite quickly and even doing it that far in advance we still had to ring 3 car companies!?! I think sometimes family are not particular in what they say or the way they say it, but if u want the things u want then book them rather than waiting to find you can't have them down the line just because of what your stepmother and step sister say x
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CommentAuthorKatieA72
I have booked almost everything and I am so grateful now! I worked out that we have paid over £1000 in deposits that we havent even noticed spending and thats £1000 off the total bill. And it means we can now manage to buy a house before our wedding so I am grateful everything is organised otherwise I would be stressed to the max. Oh and I am doing the last year of my law degree. Did someone say stressed ? lol
CommentAuthorChristinaB38
ha ha yes i know that feeling am currently doing an intensive course (prescribing) which will keep me busy until may (a year before the wedding) and have a 15 month old running around. I agree, it seemingly spreads the cost a bit, we have also ordered my ring as it matches my engagement ring and it is only likely to go up in price (or get discontinued) nearer the time. Not enough time for everything!
CommentAuthorMrsL2be
Hi Christina,
I don't get married until March 2015 but have pretty much got everything planned if not booked. I see it as the earlier I get things booked and arranged the easier it will be to confirm my date with suppliers and not get the dreaded "sorry that date has been taken" plus it means I have alot longer to save and pay for everything. I started planning with around 17 months to go and everyone i know thought I was daft and getting way ahead of myself but would you rather get everything confirmed early then sit back and enjoy the run up to your wedding day or wait until nearer the time and cause yourself unnecessary stress.
I too got a bit down when everyone was saying it was too early to start planning but now I am so glad I did. Xx
CommentAuthorChristinaB38
Thank you Natalie, i'm pleased i'm not the only one x
Thank you everyone for the reassurance - now when do i think about ordering cake? As i gather they get booked up quite early
