I am sorry to have to moan, but I think I just need to get this off my chest.
We have been planning our wedding for about a month now and ever since we started my Grandma has been involved in the planning and has offered to do my dress, my daughters flowergirl dress, the buffet, the cake, the cars and the flowers.
I accepted her offer for the dresses, the buffet and the cake and told OH about it. He joked "is she marrying us, too?" But he was ok with it.
His parents haven't really been excited about the wedding, havent asked us about it, apart from what my Grandma is doing. They are neighbours and have been for years and ever since me and H2B got together, they have been sort of in competition with each other and it has gotten worse when our daughter was born 2.5 years ago and it is getting even worse now that we are planning our wedding, it appears.
So yesterday I got a call from my Grandma who spoke to H2Bs parents about the wedding and first of all, they are now kicking off, because they are not involved in the wedding. At first it was just making comments, but now they are actually really angry with me, apparently. They havent actually said this to me, I have been told by H2B and now my Grandma. They didnt seem like they wanted to be involved, so I didnt involve them.
But also, H2B said to his parents, that we were buying the flower girl dress, that we didnt want the food my Grandma was making and he wanted to make currys and stews instead and that we were looking at changing our venue, which didnt allow to bring their own catering.
I told him about the dress, but he forgot, so I cleared that up, I told him that we had had a conversation about the food my Grandma was making and that he said at the time, that he wanted a curry in addition, which i told him was fine with me, as long as he organised it, which he also forgot and I think he mentioned this other venue to impress his Dad. We did not want to pay for this other venue, which is more expensive and we would lose our deposits at the current venue.
So I told my Grandma all this and she says "she doesnt need all this stress and that we need to get it sorted". She tells me all about how she is only doing all this to save us money, she doesnt have to do it... blah blah blah. What she forgot is, that about 6 months ago she told me she would be upset with me, if we didnt let her do the food and that we needed to find a venue, that allowed us to do our own catering, so that is what we did and now she says she is only doing it to save us money!
And then she tells me about how I didnt budget for my hen do in Las Vegas. Of course I did! I wouldnt go, if I couldnt afford it. We arent poor by any means, we chose to do this wedding as cheap as possible, as we have other things we want to do, such as taking our DD on holiday and visiting my family abroad.
I just feel really down about the wedding now and just want to throw in the towel and get married away somewhere, just me, H2B and our daughter.
I think I just needed to moan...

Aww hun! Don't you just wish that when people 'offer help' and make promises that they'd actually write it down, sign it and give you both a copy so that they don't forget and make it into a big drama!! It's so annoying when they forget & it all gets turned round into being more hassle than it was ever worth!
Sounds like you need a cup of tea, not mention weddings to OH or grandma for a few days - let them have a think (and a remember!?) and then discuss it calmly xx

*big hugs*

I don't see why your future in laws are kicking off when they haven't seemed interested, it's probably jealousy, they couldn't be bothered but now are worried it will look bad because your Grandma was doing a lot.

Also your oh seems to have been stirring a bit of trouble, whether it's deliberate or not I think he needs to realise he has to be careful about what he says about certain things. My oh sometimes pussy foots around his parents and I've told him he needs to just be straight with them as going around the houses only makes things worse as wires get crossed.

I'd speak to them both separately about the wedding again, let them know your happy for any help that they WANT to give and that you don't want anyone to feel pushed out or that they have to do anything they don't want to do, but that at the end of the day, it's your wedding and you will in the end have what you want.

I always find a glass (or sometimes a bottle) of wine makes it look even better Marrying.Ryan! I can't really say much more than the other brides have but I didn't want to read and run. I think you need to have a chat with your h2b about what he says to people about the wedding! I know they are his parents but he needs to get his facts right before he goes telling them stuff. And maybe your nan is feeling a little put out because of stuff he has said to his parents. Chinese whispers is a dangerous game to be a part of and you never know what his parents have been saying to your nan and vice versa xxx

Family's aye hope it all gets sorted x