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    • Becky1608
      CommentAuthorBecky1608
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Aug 14th 2014
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    Hi ladies. Just need a bit of cheering up as I'm feeling so stressed at the moment! I've been worried about my mum healthwise recently and she seems to be on the mend now luckily. Having a lot of issues with a few people regarding the wedding. We've had 2 people who'd RSVPd yes who are now declines on top of about 5 other declines. Some have very valid reasons but others I feel just can't be bothered even though they had a save the date a year and a half ago! I'm getting so worried that more people will drop out. I found out about one of them in the middle of my hen do :-( on top of this, we found out on Tuesday that one of the best men doesn't want to be a best man anymore as he's got too much going on. Absolutely gutted as we've already paid to hire his suit and also means that everything falls on the 2nd best man when the idea was that they would share the role. I feel like I'm just waiting for something else to go wrong at the moment! I've already had dress issues and a few other bits go wrong. I've completely lost all of the excitement and am worried that it won't come back xxx

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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Aug 14th 2014
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    Is there nobody else who could step in as the other best man?? As for the RSVPs, I think so many do that. We had it with one of hubby's Aunt and Uncles. They said yes they were coming, then about a month before hand we saw his Uncle who mentioned about going on holiday forst two weeks in October. As we walked away I said if he is going on holiday then he's not coming to the wedding even though he said yes. Hubby mentioned it to his Mum (it's her brother) and then turned out they had booked the holiday, if they could get a later flight they would attend, in the end 3 weeks prior they said they could not change anything so were not coming. I had friends though who I asked to step in for them who were more than happy to. I also had 5 people who said they were coming to it and then on the day three informed us they could not attend 3 hours prior to the wedding and two just did not even bother.

    I'm sure it will all come together in the end though. If you cannot get another best man, chat to the hire place and see what they can do.

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    • **MrsFarrelly2B**
      CommentAuthor**MrsFarrelly2B**
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Aug 14th 2014
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    Hi Becky
    I was gonna start a thread then read yours and thought "I feel exactly the same"
    It sucks doesn't it? Then v people say don't worry it happens all the time - people will even cancel on the day! To me that doesn't help how I feel. I have a small family and in the last week 5 who rsvpd yes have dropped out. It's really upset me - I feel like I'm just totally unimportant. People say " the most important thing is you and Paul get married" : yes it's important obviously but so is sharing the day otherwise why would anyone ever invite guests?
    Just over 2 weeks to go and it p##sees me off!
    I feel like you Becky - an just waiting each day for someone else to cancel. I am not excited about things anymore.....I don't think people can understand until v they get to 2 weeks before, having paid for people and they all start dropping like flies :-(
    So I still can't get table plan done - am too scared incase someone else pulls out. Why do people think it's ok to RSVP yes but then v don't have the time off work?!

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Aug 14th 2014
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    It's such a pain, and I think it does happen to everyone. We've had a few pull out, but all with valid reasons. One is in the states, and at his work they're negotiating a pay rise. It's taken so long that when it comes it's going to be quite a big lump sum of back dated pay, and he's been banking on that lump sum to afford the trip, but it won't come in time now. Another couple bailed because her father was in a home and it wasn't working out, so they're taking him to live with them, meaning a weekend away so soon isn't an option. Another left her husband, so he was out quite quickly. We hoped that she might come with the little girl, but she can't manage on her own and she couldn't get anyone to come with her. Neither her or her husband felt that coming down together was appropriate, even though they are on reasonable terms still, which I can understand. Fortunately these happened mostly before we'd paid, so we've just bumped up one couple as we had to get it to 100. The frustrating ones are the ones that don't even bother to try to come, even if they live nearby, or leave it really late to tell us that they can't come. There's also H2B's uncle who is incredibly difficult, and said no then yes then no then yes. We have to take it as a yes as he would not understand if he came at the last minute and we couldn't fit him in to the reception, so we just have a few evening guests in mind who we think will be able to step up at the last minute.

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    • Becky1608
      CommentAuthorBecky1608
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Aug 15th 2014
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    Thanks ladies.

    Mrs Farrelly - that's exactly how I feel! Everyone is saying that to me too and I honestly wish we were just eloping with a handful of guests!

    Hopefully the excitement will come back but at the moment I'm waiting for more things to go wrong! Xxx

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