Wedding Forum - Feel really rude putting in gift requests...

We're not doing it because of how rude we feel.. We're going for word of mouth by telling my mum and his dad what to tell people when they ask, like our aunties/uncles cause they will ask.. And they'll hopefully pass that onto cousins xxx

I wouldn't feel rude. We didn't put anything in our range invitations but put on the additional information sheet that we didn't expect gifts but if people wanted to purchase us a gift then here were the gift list details. People will want to give you something but will want to know what you want so it's better to say what xxx

I'm exactly the same, i thought i couldnt do that! but after talking to all the friends that have got married and mil2b people do actually expect to see a list, but because were all set up here at home im putting a little poem inside to say if they want to give us gift which they are not obliged to do, money or vouchers would be best x

We just put a poem in our but people are still phoning and texting us asking what we want. We are asking for vouchers.

We wanted to do a honeymoon fund but a few people said that they wouldn't pay towards our honeymoon so we have changed it and gone for Vouchers instead

We have always been a bit put off by couples asking for money for their honeymoon and we have never put into it and have got them a voucher.

We have combined our gift request if our guests want to get us something. We have gone with JL as they do a combination of a traditional gift list and they are also linked to the company which we booked our honeymoon through so included on our list is vouchers for the honeymoon company too. We felt this way that we weren't being too cheeky with our request and we get the fun of going round a store and scanning things we would like lol.

We are popping a poem type thing into our invite explaining this.

We didn't put anything in with our invites.
If people asked me I just said that we didn't expect anything.
Some people gave us vouches, others money and there were the one's that gave us what they wanted??

I have to say we actually liked the more personal gifts.
Someone actually gave us a kitten!!!!!!

Don't feel embarrassed about it.

:-)

We are including a gift wishes card with our invites which has a poem asking for money for our honeymoon pot, when I asked around at work a few people who are going to weddings this year the couple had done exactly the samething, my sil2b asked for J.Lewis vouchers and included a card with an account reference. I think it is quite the norm nowadays.

I've put it on my wedding website (where they can RSVP) I felt that way it was more subtle. Plus most people have asked what we would like.

The wedding website thing is good, we cut most of the rubbish out of it, so it's not overwhelming and its not got our life story on it, more pertinent information for the day and weekend of our wedding, plus an RSVP facility. I think the "big" things have already been sorted, like inner service and cutlery (the posh ones!) by my aunty and uncle and my parents, therefore everything else is more reasonable. I know as a guest it would have been easier if some of my mates had given me a gift list, that way I didn't have to drag info out of her. Wasn't so keen on the awkward asking, we really wanted to get them a gift, but they were like "ahh don't bother" but I know that's only cos she was shy...she was just setting up a new home too.

It also stops people that may not be in touch with each other because they are not acquainted, buying you the same thing!!!

I don't think it's rude at all, like rennie1989 said... U have to remember what u asked for and even if u don't want anything people are going to want to get u something so why not ask for what u want... Xxxx

I can see both sides; it may seem rude but like Ana said; people want to know what to get you; if you are already living together then you will most likely have everything you need so someone buying you a toaster or something would be a waste of money as you wouldn't use it. You can get loads of different types of money/gift poems on the bay of e; just type in wedding money poems or something like that ;)