You need to do what you want to do honey.... you wont keep everyone happy, you never can do so you need prioritise what is important and decide what you want to do and then stick by your decision.

Divorced families are never easy, we both have divorced parents so i sympathise but you have to do what you want and hope for one day they can be civilised xxx

Both our parents are divorced and I know family members slag each other off, especially in mine as long as I don't hear anything on the day I won't be too bothered about it, but if me or H2B hear anything we'll just tell them to shush in a nice way or leave!

It's going to be difficult for us to sort out the table planning as well because people will want to sit by so and so etc etc, but we can't please everyone.

You need to do what will make you both happy, give and take.

Like Sazzell23 says why don't you have a party when you get back make it like another wedding day.

we've had a few raised eyebrows over things and suggestions to look at other venues, but we're doing what we want. the only thing i feel like i lack any control on is the obligation to invite every single family member lol. Im only inviting my lot to make up the numbers, he has a massive family and ive resigned myself to the fact that he wants them all there, which is absolutely fair enough, im just thinking cost. but i said he can do all the over time for them all haha. other than that though, when it comes to dress/decor/theme etc. people can stuff off and butt out.

i dont think anyone would dare put any kind of ultimatum on me/him 'you must invite so and so or i must be involved in X way or im not coming', because id simply just tell them to feel free to RSVP with a no.

I never done anything that the family wanted, but then again they were good and never questioned or interfered. I just done it the way we wanted it done.

I agree honey, you do what you want to do then come back for a party.... invite everyone and if some poeple feel they cant put their feelings and difference aside for one day for you two then it does show who cares. dont get involved in family arguements/disputes, leave them to sort themselves out xxxx

You can't please everyone unfortunately :(. You need to do what make YOU happy. It's your day after all. Whatever you do, someone is going to be unhappy. Your family should really be coming together, regardless of past to celebrate your big day. I think you should stick to what you and your H2B want. The ones that matter will be there. x

Do whats best for u hun chin up x

You should make the plans for ourself. You are the ones who are getting married not the family.