Me and HTB have decided to get married in Gretna Green with Just close family, I have been spoken to my mother in law and telling her how much hotel room will cost for her sisters HTB Aunties the room is £180.00 but we r gonna pay the £70.00 deposit and it than leaves them to pay £110.00 for their hotel room and about £20.00 for the mini bus, mother in law is saying 'oh people wont be able to afford that' we not getting married until 13/12/2012 its like 14mths away they could save £10.00 per month, we cancelled Gretna Green in first place than booked someone local and thought hang on a min we dont want a big full on wedding with people their that never really make the effort so we have gone back with original plans of gretna green, I really only Just want our parents , grandparents and siblings their why should I be made to feel guilty cause someone cant afford a hotel room, Ive said all along if they cant afford to come ' we wont be offended' infct it will be cheaper for us not paying for their hotel room deposit or the £52.00 for their sit down meal

Is there no alternative accomodation like a travelodge etc? I admit 180 does seem a bit steep for a hotel room...plus the additional expense of a wedding gift, new outfit, getting to Gretna etc...

No hun we want to go Gretna Green to comlongon castle, Its only once we will be getting married lol (hopefully) and its our dream to get wed there, there r loads of travel lodges etc, I was trying to accomdate everyone under one roof so they dont feel left out, they smoke and go the pub every sunday so if they can do that surely they can save £10.00 per month, also we dont and wont expcect any gift of them and I will tell them that, and a taxi in UK from a to b costs nowdays on average £10.00 were only asking for £30.00 each for mini bus hire xxx,

That sounds reasonable to me hun. Like you said if people cant come you wont be offended lol. Tbh though I must agree, I wouldnt be paying for deposits on rooms, espec seeing as i am paying for the who ruddy day. If they want to come they will miss out on a couple pints or packets of fags x x

Stick to your plan hun!!! We had a nightmare deciding where.... Me and H2B live in Suffolk (East England) but H2B is from Edinburgh (He's a soldier so based down here) either way you looked at it someone had a plane ride or 9 hr drive so we just had to pick and hope his friends and family make the effort. £180 is nothing for a family wedding, we've been to many in Edinburgh and your looking at £300 at least everytime. If it's what you want do what makes you happy xxxx

do what you want hun, its your day no one elses :) and i agree with janetx71 the people who care will be there and thats all that matters xx

I know hun they can stay anywhere I was Just thinking about them again but if they huff and putt they can go any other hotel there r loads in the area, still pissed off tho at the fact that the mother in law is trying to put us off going Grtena Green I think its jealousy cause im marrying her son, weve been together 6yrs lol she should be excited for us and giddy and helping out not sat on her throne saying ' why u going there your not scottish, my side of the faimly cant afford it, ERM hello my family arent rich either love but they have got 14mths to save OMG

I don't think that's too demanding of everyone...you are giving people a long time to save up after all. Is there anywhere cheaper that the complainers could stay in Gretna Green while the other stay in nicer place? My mum keeps going this to me re. hen night and I keep having to hang up on her on the phone. Some people are just stinges who will always moan at having to cough up anything, however celebratory it's meant to be. Just do what you want to do, if you think people can manage, and let them worry about finding somewhere cheaper if they can't be bothered to save. xx

My sister got married in gretna greeen back in 2008 and we all stayed in Carlisle it was much cheaper think i paid £60 for a family room. I am not sure how long it took but am sure it wasnt far to drive in the morning. I was wedding chauffeur for the day, but meant we could all stay in the same place for a fraction of the cost, worth a thought

I have a friend that a bit like that at the moment. whinging about the cost of my hen well if you cant afford it dont come i am not forcing you. She even put messages on facebook slagging my sister off about organising it

If its just family and really close friends they should be more than willing to save the money and like you said if they don't come it saves you money in the long run. At the end of the day its your wedding so stick with what you want! Anyone that is invited should feel extremely honoured!