Thinking about just scrapping the whole thing. Only two people have paid despite texts, phone calls and fb messages on my hen night page. Nothing can be booked until people pay!!! I keep telling them this!! Now the venues with private rooms are booked up. I'm so bloody angry. £40 each for a recording studio, dinner, a load of drink and a naked butler is a bloody bargain and I spent so long getting the best prices possible. I don't even want to go anywhere now. I never go out so my hen was really special for me.

Yet another bloody disappointment for this wedding. Noone seems to care about a single aspect


Sorry, I'm just annoyed and upset. My MOH was supposed to be planning it but she's busy with her other friends who are getting married and she works a lot. My other bm isn't even coming!! She's going ti Mexico!! :(

I've tried that but everyone would promise they'd pay on such and such a date. I honestly don't know if I can be bothered with it anymore. The recording studio experience is already paid for by my MOH but I'm thinking of just giving her the money back so she's out of pocket and cancelling. I've got too much to worry about with the actually wedding to be stressing about this as well. I'm upset though. It would've been a great night :(

yup, i made a facebook group in may so we could all talk about it.

i've just told them all it's cancelled and they can come out for a drink if they want. they've posted saying 'aw that's a shame'. well, i've been asking for money since MAY!!!!!! what did they all expect?!?!?!?!

my aunt text me saying 'it's a good thing you told me as i was transferring you the money today' eh, somehow i don't believe you. i'm just hurt. i never ask for anything from my friends. the one time i ask for anything and they can't be bothered . well, i'll remember that when they invite me to a party or birthday night.

my moh has text me saying we could have a few people round her flat to play games, eat, drink and have the naked butler, then meet people in town after it. i don't even want to meet them in the town. they can't be bothered with anything, so i don't see why they should be able to share a night out with me. maybe just ask 3/4 people round to moh house

kisywisy - Im having the same problem with my hen party! I also made a book of face page and told them the cost and what there getting for the money! Ive had one person reply and shes payed! Everyone said they were going to go, And the place where im going asked for a deposit for 9 guests so me being me payed it!! Its only £34! Im not thinking about saying its cancelled! I know how your feeling!
Ive found you always find out who your friends are when planning a wedding or hen party! & its always that bit to late! x

This type of night out is always such a pain. It might be nice just to do something with the ones that did bother to pay in time, at least they were thoughtful enough to do so. Don't like them get to you too much, some people just aren't capable of considering other peoples feelings.

Don't let it get you down, you and your moh could still do the recording together and have a girly day before going out?
I think every hen night has similar problems

Me being me I would of put on the group it's cancelled because the people I thought cared about me didn't pay the deposit to spend a special night with me which I was really looking forward too. I now know who I'm important to and thankyou to XX and XX for paying in time

well i've really spat my dummy now. i've cancelled the whole thing. i'm not interested in begging ANYONE to come to my hen night. i text one of my so called friends to tell her it was cancelled due to lack of interest. she replied saying she was coming but wanted to waituntil she know what was happening before she sent money. WTF?!?!?!?!? i had been texting, messaging on my hen night fb page and even face to face asking her for months. i told her if noone paid money, nothing could be booked, so i'm so angry she has used THAT as an excuse!!

my moh double booked herself and was supposed to be going to one of her friend's leaving nights (moving to oz) so said that we could go to that party after my hen night. i just thought to myself, when is the hen night supposed to end?? has it to be cut short because she agreed to go to a party over a month after we decided on the hen night date?!?!

but, it's cancelled now. i'm far happier knowing that it's absolutely not going to happen now, rather than spending 6 weeks worrying about IF it will happen. i'm bitterly disappointed and i don't think i will ever forget this. house parties, birthday parties, christenings, house warmings, weddings, engagement parties, we've been to them all and we've never held a party to invite them to before and only two friends (not even remotely close friends) have bothered their backside

decided to go out for dinner with my h2b that night instead. we've not been out for dinner together since 2009 so i'd prefer spending quality time with him :) screw the lot of them (apart from the two who bothered!! :D )

It's disgusting isn't it? Nothing irritates me more. This is the main reason why I'm not having a stag do. Fair play to you! It's not as if it's costing the earth either!

So sad to read this :( I can't believe your 'friends' would let you down so badly!
Just try to have a fantastic time with your h2b instead and concentrate on the wedding :)

That's what I'm planning to do. I'm just going to focus on the wedding and holiday now. I honestly would uninvited the lot of them to the blessing if I could but some of them are partners of h2b's pals. Maybe it's time to stop being so nice to others who don't take a second to think of my feelings

No more!!!

I have already stopped making ANY effort with certain family and friends because of their blatant lack of interest about the wedding. There are certain people who I will NOT text first anymore because I'm sick of being ignored until the next 'drama' in their life. No, I don't care if you are worried about looking fat in the swimming suit on the holiday you are going on instead of my wedding and hen night and want diet tips!! I mean, honestly, how insensitive is THAT?!?!?!

I can totally get where you are coming from chick. I have planned my own hen night from the word 'go'. Ive sussed the best prices on limo's got great deals on the alcohol packages, guest list for the niightclub plus goodies etc in there, and even said i will provide nibbles and cocktails for everyone before the limo arrives!.........all in for £40
Flippin awesome i thought, i had a lot of initial interest with ppl saying yes count me in etc..then as soon as i ask for the money...its been one reason or another..ppl are annoying lol.

i have given deadlines to a few people and said if you havent paid by such n such date, then i will offer your seat to someone else, Ive even had 2 people say (after they have paid) that they can no longer come, ffs! i did say well im sorry but yourve lost your money otherwise i would have to fork out an additional £80! one week before the date!

Loads of people initially dropped out of my hen do, but the ones that have stayed, paid and are lookng forward to it, are the ones i will remember.
In your case tho chick - i recon youuve done the right thing, Spend your evening with your lovely H2B xxx enjoy your meal and not worry about the others, they should think twice next time about asking you for help etc, xx

I would rather go out for a meal.
Better than wasting time on others who can't be bothered to give you a bit of time once in a while.
x

I was sooo looking forward to it though :( most of them haven't even bothered to text back today.

Fmm I am annoyed at my MOH about that party. Not just that she suggested we went along once 'my hen night had finished', but that she agreed to go when she knew what date we had arranged for the hen night. I'm also annoyed that she basically did nothing and I ended up doing all the legwork. We had agreed that it was her 'duty' to arrange it. I'm just very bitter about it just now. I don't know how I'm going to look them all in the face. I knew I had few friends left since the kids were born, but I didn't think it was as bad as this :(

...Only on their part luvvie-promise. xx

I second that Elle23

i third that elle23:-) kiswisy your getting married in a beautiful place on a beautiful island you will have beautiful day, you could have a night out with all the women going to your wedding when you get to cyprus, thats what we did at my friends wedding in paphos as she didnt have a hen night here in england :-)

I know exactly how u feel. My MOH is constantly letting me down and i told her sister (1 of my BM's) the other day tht i wasn't having any BM's because I was sick of being let down by my MOH. I have asked loads of girls on my Hen Do n no 1 has a paid a deposit. My wedding is hanging on by the skin of its teeth, and i thought i could count on my MOH for support, but so far, not so good. So at the moment, I have no Hen Do and no BM's. My thoughts r with u xx

Kisywisy i think you should call your MOH now and explain that. I can't believe how incredibly inconsiderate she is being about it all. Just tell her you'd appreciate if she booked by "X" date as you're concerned about availabilty on her part and if she doesnt make it you don't have any witnesses therefore you can't get married and after all the hen night stress you don't need that stress on top of everything else. You need it sorted NOW, unlike a hen night its not something people can back out of without causing MAJOR problems.

Sending you huge hugs and love xxxxxxxxx

Aww yay that's a pretty nice comeback from them... Well done friends. I hope you have a good night, you definitely deserve it lady xx

Awesome looks like your h2b got them to get in gear! Xx

I do feel sorry for you.... its rubbish when your friends dont make an effort.
Im just going to have a quiet hen do i think with food games and drink and supply the lot. I dont want anyone to spend money on me. I know from past experience how expensive hen do's can be and how much i struggle myself to find the money. This year alone i have been invited to and gone on 6 hen do's and we are only in July, these have each cost £150 plus. Ive had to start saying no because i just can't afford it. However im also going to make sure i say no from the start so i dont let people down.

Im sorry your having alot of problems and i think £40 does sound like a really good price.

yay! glad they have had a kick up the arse and are sorting something for you xxx