I am completely on 1 this evening so sorry if I go on!!! There's a few things that have hacked me off this week. . . It's my bday tomorrow and all I want to do right now is sleep until Monday-so fed up!!! Where to start . .
Arranged a night out with the girls for my bday last night (gaz from Geordie shore happened to be in this club for a meet and greet) texted moh who's my best mate,asking if she wanted to come,she replies as it's her and her boyfs 1 year anniversary they might go away,prob to London so she's sorry she can't come out!! So I tex her Friday saying have fun and she replies she hasn't got a sitter so she's not going!! Nothing from her saying change of plan,can come out with you while the boyf looks after the kids! So I thought that's abit rude as she could have been straight with me?!?
I'm ment to be going for a meal out tomorrow with paul,my daughter,my ex (we really get on and he's the father of my daughter and it is NOT weird for us) and my mum!! Asked my mum 2 weeks ago and she says she might come but her friends husband (who's dying of cancer bless him) has his bday on the same day but he might not be here so she'll have to see-whatever that means?? So I ask her again the start of the week and she now says she doesn't have any money to come (it's only been my bday on the same day for the last 28 years and I know she's not got me a present because she's getting it next week on pay day) I triple check today and she's still maintaining no money!!! I find it unbelievable the people I want to go out with really couldn't give a crap about me!! And my ex makes more of an effort than them two!!!
Which leads me to the last thing . . . My moh is useless an I'm really contemplating wether to just tell her to p off and I won't bother having an older bm!! I feel like I'm losing the plot!! The only thing she's helped with was picking my dress (although brought the exact one from eBay not the shop I tried it on on) I've brought bm dresses,girls jewellery,sweet buffet stuff,day invites,evening invites with the help of paul not her not a thing!! About 2 weeks after her giving birth in jan,I asked if she still wanted to be moh/bm as she's not helped me and I didn't mind but I'd rather know-her reply,I've just given birth!! I said I appreciate that but she's been pregnant for 9 months!!! Am I out of order thinking that she could have helped me look on a few websites and mags whilst pregnant?! She doesn't work either so it's not like she never had time-infact she could have looked whilst I was at work and suggested ideas to me!! She finally come round in feb to see EVERYTHING and that was only because we brought her over!! We live 5 miles away from each other!! So we've had chats about it but I feel she's just constantly taking the piss?!
And to top it off because I'm so stressed I'm taking it all out on paul and he really is getting the brunt of it-bless him!!
Any ideas on what to do? Because I am well and truely ready to say sod it lets elope with just is an my daughter!? Sorry for the long rant!!!
CommentAuthorCatherineR
I think texting 2 weeks after giving birth is a bit much especially if she had a traumatic birth but even she hadn't, she still needs a bit longer than 2 weeks as dealing with a baby and getting back to a 'new' normal is hard but, it's not like it's difficult to chatter on bookface or the odd evening during a pregnancy, and if it is, she should have said something! Can you try meeting up for a coffee and seeing what is going on a) with her and b) if she wants to be a MOH. Advise is don't do anything too hasty as many girls will tell you on here! Heat of the moment and all that jazz! Try and relax about it for a few days for the dust to settle then speak to her .... At the end of the day, if she's not interested then get rid.. You want people that care on your wedding day! Downside... Have you forked out on her dress?? xx
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Honeymooned on the Isles of Scilly :)
CommentAuthorAllishiaW
Sorry Catherine should have re worded it better!! It wasn't like I just texted her that-I asked if we could meet up and we had things to discuss (I'd had people asking about my hen do and she/we have not organised anything or even mentioned in) and that's how it come about-I said I was stressed having to organise things and she's ment to be my 'wing woman' and hasn't helped at all and that I accept she had been pregnant and had given birth previously but if she didn't want to be a part of the day it was fine (because she hadn't helped and could have been too much for her) I've not gone in guns blazing just tried to shorten the length of convo down!! And yes brought the dress as she had wanted me to when she was 7 weeks pregnant-gone for the size she was then (she hasn't put any weight on and this was her normal size) on her command!! It's not a super fitted dress-more of a boutique evening maxi dress,with 1 shoulder!! So regardless if she had put on abit of weight then it wouldn't matter!! Had the dress shipped out and it couldn't do the zip up!!! She thinks it's because of weight I think it's coz she's broad backed!! She told me not to worry as she'll lose weight before then after she had bubba-6 weeks after having him and we still have the same problem,altho she insists it's weight related an she WILL get in it!! I have said if she can't for whatever reason get in it as she's messed around sayin she will get in it blah blah blah wen I coul have just changed it from the off,then she'll have to buy her own dress!! Luckily the dress fits me and I can always take it on honeymoon for a lovely evening dress!! X
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
The first thing I'm going to say is a bit harsh ... You moan that your MOH hasn't helped you out while she has been pregnant and the feeling that come a roos from that is " she has only been pregnant but this is my wedding so why hasn't she spent her time looking for stuff for me ....." This answer to this is prob because she has been spending time looking for stuff for her baby , Hun I know you wedding is the most important thing to you but I guess her having a baby was prob the most important thing to her.
Now we turn to your birthday...it hurts when people let you down and this always seems heightened if it's your birthday or something ..I hope it has turned out better today than you thought but at least you are doing something... I spent last years birthday ( my 50th) on my own and will do the same this year . So Hun enjoy your birthday for what it is
that very true Carla, when I was pregant all I had room in my head for was baby related stuff, watching OBEM, 16 an pregnant and constany on the bounty baby forum and looking at prams, cots, car seat and clothes for baby.
Once engaged now I think about that alot watching Don't tell the bride and 4 weddings and on here.
Met June 2009 on my Birthday,Met again July 2009 and got
together, May 2010 Moved in,Jan 2011 got pregnant,
August 2011 Got our own place, 2011 Had our Baby Girl,
Dec 2011 Got engaged, July 2015 Getting married! Yay!
that very true Carla, when I was pregant all I had room in my head for was baby related stuff, watching OBEM, 16 an pregnant and constany on the bounty baby forum and looking at prams, cots, car seat and clothes for baby.
