Hi, I need your help and advice, my father is not coming to my wedding at all , as he lives in France and can't travel due to being 24/7 on oxygen, I even tried to organise the wedding over there but he says no matter where it is he will not attend. I have my mother who offered to walk me up the aisle, but I was wondering if I should replace my father with another father figure to sit next to me during the meal, and take over for the father/daughter dance? please let me know what you think
Soon to be Mrs Gary Doublé
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CommentAuthorMrsOwen
have you asked your dad if he will be ok with somebody else doing the father/daughter dance?xx
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CommentAuthorTrish Goddard
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Aww so sorry your father cant be there.....
as far as replacing him (on top table etc) thats a good idea however maybe ask your dad if this is okay first so not to upset him...
Good luck!! xxx
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CommentAuthorUnknown
i would ask your dad if he is ok with it first but i think it is a great idea! xx
CommentAuthorsarahuttley2b-[keera
my dads not coming either [ long story-but fallen out ] ad my mum is taking over she is giving me away and doing a speech,my uncle offered but my mums always been there for me and it felt right her doing it.go with what feels comfortable to you.xx
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I didn't think of asking him, as he won't really talk to me much now, and mentioning the wedding might really upset him, but you're right it would be decent to ask him if I can replace him but that's the ick as I don't really know that many people closely who could do it, I am fairly new in the UK and the only people I know are my in-laws
Soon to be Mrs Gary Doublé
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Getting really stressed and excited now
CommentAuthorVicky
That is really sad, one of my really good friends cant come she was cheif Bm and we are setting up skype it might be nice for your dad to see you get married, also if you are vidoeing he can watch it later..
CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
What about any friends? There's no rule that says that you have to have a parent give you away.
CommentAuthorMel D
My father is not invited. My god father is giving me away and making a speech, and we're not doing a dance. I asked my mum to give me away, but she didn't seem to want to :-(
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CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
I guess it depends on you and your dad....he may be someone who may be totally irreplaceable so why try? I know there will be a sadly odd number on my side as i wont have my mum, but i could never replace her and nor would i want to try. If there is a father figure who you would be happy to fill that role then that is your decision, but i think to say "take his place" may sound a bit upsetting like there isnt room to miss him if you get what i mean? and you dont want it to appear like that do you? you want your dad thought of and missed i would imagine. Ultimately its up to you.
CommentAuthormegs
my dad is NOT coming, my younger brother is giving me away and doing all those bits and bobs..as soon as we got got engaged I rang my brother to tell him and asked him then even though we arent getting married for 2 years!lol its such a shame that your dad cant be there..maybe you and your h2b could walk down the aisle together? or your moh? x
CommentAuthorJilly17
Would your mum not be upset if neither your dad or her walked you up the aisle? I would personally have your mum...and I cant see why you could not even do a mum/daughter dance together. I think if you had another strong male figure in your life such as a god father or brother it would be more feasible but dont think this person has to be male.
CommentAuthorRachie :D
If anything happened to my dad did forbid I would have no hesitation on gettin mum to stand in x
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CommentAuthorDi B 83
My dad is no longer with us, so my eldest brother is giving me away, we wont be having a dance though, but he will be doing a speech x
CommentAuthorJilly17
My dad said last week he has not slept since we got engaged because he is ill and so worried about walking me up the aisle and the speech so he asked if he could be a page boy!!!....he meant an Usher bless him!
CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Doublé
My mum will walk me up the aisle but I meant at the table the father is supposed to be sitting by his daughter, as for my godfather he won't come (too old to travel overseas), and my brother won't afford to come either I reckon so maybe I'll walk up the aisle with my mum and dance with her and have one of the usher sitting with me
Soon to be Mrs Gary Doublé
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Getting really stressed and excited now
CommentAuthorRachie :D
Or your best friend?
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CommentAuthorHunny Bunny
My dad nor granddad will be giving me away - long story and very upsetting so wont go into it - but I'll be walking myself down the isle and giving myself to my h2b, We have talked and talked about this and I know if I just can't do it then his dad will step in but for now, I'm happy to say I'll be doing it by myself. What about your father in law?
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CommentAuthorJilly17
Ah I understand now! If you want a male sitting next to you at the top table to keep the 'boy girl' thing how about sitting the best man next to you?
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
id have my mum walk me down the aisle and have mother/daughter dance etc x
CommentAuthorsoon 2B Mrs Sweeting
my dad is NOT coming to my wedding either as he is not invited after he made me choose between going to uni and him...............long story lol my 18 year old son is giving me away, we plan not to have a top table but a table for me and my H2B and my 4 children in the middle of all the other tables!! we won't be having a "father" daughter dance as my son says he will have enough thinking of a speech without thinking of dancing with his 2 left feet!
CommentAuthorsuzky123
check with dad but i think u will notice his absense too much if u dont have anyone fill his shoes.
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CommentAuthorsarahuttley2b-[keera
if its just about the top table,then its just about how you feel,loads of people av relatives missing from there wedding for various reasons these days,no one would really notice.if you would personally prefer someone next to you why not sit one of the ushers/best man/page boy next to you? xx
i sarah louise duncan do take thee daniel paul uttley to be
my AWFULL wedded husband!!!!!!!!!!!!!lol
my heart is overwellmed with the love i feel for him,
my life,my love,my soulmate...forever.xxx
CommentAuthorKatya
well, im kinda in the same sort of situation, my dad died when i was tiny or so im told.
my grandad has been the closest person i have had to a father figure in my life, but he now has bellpolsy (sorry cant spell it) which is a form of stroke and means its almost guaranteed he will have more and its not too likely he will survive past the next 4 months let alone 24 months!
if my grandad does not make it i will ask my mum as my stepdad has not been there my whole life but my mum has
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CommentAuthorsarahuttley2b-[keera
oh really sorry 2 hear bout ur grandad hunni,such a shame.xx
i sarah louise duncan do take thee daniel paul uttley to be
my AWFULL wedded husband!!!!!!!!!!!!!lol
my heart is overwellmed with the love i feel for him,
my life,my love,my soulmate...forever.xxx
CommentAuthorKatya
thanks, but iv been preparing now for a few years. he had 3 heart attacks about 4 or 5 years ago now so im now kinda prepared for the inevitable but thanks hun