Hey ladies

I'm having a dilemma... I'm just about to send out my hen party and wedding invitations and having the usual 'where to draw the line' problem.

I have a couple of aunts and cousins who I see quite a bit of and who have been really good to me recently and over the years, so they are definitely invited. The trouble is, I have a pretty big family and there are others who I do see now and again but don't really want them at the hen party or the daytime wedding. Three of the said cousins have 12 children between them (yes really!) but we are thinking of applying a 'no children' rule anyway. How do I get round the 'if you invite that person, you have to invite them' thing, especially with my mum! Should I just be brutal and risk offending people?
We don't have a huge budget and only wanted 50-60 people to the day... the rest can come to the evening but to be honest, there are some family members who I don't want there at all!

#Stressed

We were exactly the same, and only wand fifty.

We are only inviting family we see regularly to the day do, then the rest to the night. Everyone lives close by so it's not like they need to travel just to get to an evening reception.

There was a bit of resistance from mil2b who said that hardly any of her family were invited, then I pointed out that most of the family coming were her side, she was just a bit peed of because we said we weren't inviting her cousin (not h2bs cousin, her cousin)
But she got over it xx

or tell them that they are miserable ******* who you dont want to waste money on by inviting them to the day do when you have people who would rather have there ?


NO ??????

Yeah, I'm having a smaller 'special' hen then a generic night round town for people who might want to come xx