Hi, I'm new on here but I wondered has anyone else had family members falling out with them over not being asked to be bridesmaids? I'm not exactly close to some of my family so I don't see why I should be made to feel so bad :( Also now that one of my sisters has fallen out with me should I actually still invite her to the wedding as it will probably cause another argument amongst other family members xx
CommentAuthormillz090
Welcome firstly and congratulations !!
Yes, my H2B's sister is still not talking to us and we got engaged in January. I dont have any sisters whereas H2b has 2 and a sister in law so i decided to have my best friends who i have known since i was little and h2b's 2 neices.... well his sister was livid and apparently should have picked her. Fair eenough if we were close but we are not, she is lazy, lives off beneifts and not my cup of tea so why have her as a bridesmaid?! I stood my ground and said my Wedding my choice and H2B backed me up and she realised this so still sulking haha !! Stand your ground honey.... dont feel guility who you have but remember a bridesmaid is there to support the bride, organise the hen do, go to dress fitings, etc so make sure you pick someone who will do this and not someone you feel you have to have. Good luck xxx
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CommentAuthorLulu1388
Hey, welcome and congratulations! You'll love it here!!
Everyone has some sort of family drama going on surrounding their big day don't worry your not alone! Mine isnt exactly to do with bridesmaids but has resulted in my side family not talking about the engagement or wedding for 9 months so couldnt make it public or anything! Now its all good, and booked etc and going ahead, but most importantly, unfortunately long story short, my OH's Father won't be attending the wedding (of his only son) but that was thanks to my future SIL and OH's brother kicking up a fuss, giving us ultimatums etc, but his Dad did the courteous thing... abit gutted but hey ho nothing we can do about it!
All I can say is its your big day, your's and your OH's special moment and your choice what you have or dont have, who you choose or dont choose, who you invite etc, and if she has enough problems with that then tell her where to go, you dont need people spoiling your big day! I would still invite her but just as a normal guest, if she wants to be in a humph over it then so be it, you've been the bigger person, let it go, invited her end of! Dont feel guilty about what you do choose to do, as Millz said, the BM has a lot of roles to play! think long and hard about who you want and not for the sake of it. I have 1 maid of honour, my best mate who is all of the above, and my future SIL & her 3 yr old as BM and FG... they are involved but not as much. They are who I wanted because they both mean alot to me! (Despite the SIL stuff up there)... other friends have 'subtly' asked me who im having, if any etc but I'm not being made to feel guilty for not choosing them! x
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CommentAuthorShelleyM46
hi congrats n dont worry bout it its ur day to do how u n oh want family can b funny wen it cums 2 a wedding n im finding out that u cant please every1 so now i just think stuff em lol they cum they cum if they dont they dont as long as my oh is there i dont care x
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CommentAuthorSam
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Hi, I think most people have family troubles. Sometimes I read some of the older posts in the "Family/Attendants Stress" section to put it all into perspective.
I had friends who I hadn't seen for nearly a year expecting to be bridesmaids..... Stand you ground, I did and am happy with my choice :-)
x
CommentAuthorNicholaP44
Yep hun, we all have r troubles and pain in the bums sticking their noses in. U stand ur ground its ur wedding. Look at it this way, would SHE ask YOU to be her bm??
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CommentAuthorTamster
Yes agree with the above maybe you could explain that although she wasn't chosen it wasn't personal u just wanted people you knew extremely well to help calm you down and that you wanted her to enjoy the day rather than have her worry about a task also looking at it from another angle it may be that because she was so pissed off that she wants to be involved so maybe give her a job or take her with you for a fitting may calm her down you never know good luck speak to your other half tell him how you feel x
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CommentAuthorLyndseyP20
Thank you all so much, felt like I was just being horrid the way my mum was speaking. It's funny how something that should be the happiest day in your life brings out the ugly side of people. She is a drama queen always has been, she is the type that loves the limelight where as I absolutely hate it haha. I even picked my dress hoping that people wouldn't stare as much over the one I totally fell in love with. Thanks again everyone xxx
CommentAuthorMrsK2b
I dont have any sisters and my H2B has only got a brother - who is his best man but I am having his sil as i am really close to her and also I was her Bridesmaid at their wedding.
Also my other bridesmaid is my best friend and my MOH is a very close friend who I have known since I was 4.
I wouldnt listen to anyone else at the end of the day its your and your H2B wedding
Cant wait until I become Mrs K
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
we had massive fall out with MIL when we said we wouldn't be having Mr lala`s nieces .......upshot was she said if we didn't have them she wouldn't come ..
