Hi......just using this as a way to vent my anger and frustration! Ive already lost 1 bridesmaid due to her being too busy and deciding it would cost too much to travel to my wedding, now I have my sister making things difficult too. basically my MOH ordered shoes for the 3 bms off the bay of e and as her and my sis both live "up north" they were to arrange a swap of the shoes for the BM dress that i had posted up to my sis for my MOH. So the original meet was cancelled - cue angry sister, (my MOH has a new baby so cant just drop everything).....then I get a post of bookface that my sis has her shoes : they're too tight/wong colour/wont go etc. Then I see a post shes put on bookface about being left in the carpark for ages this morning - fuming at being kept waiting! Thats clear that it is aimed as MOH which really p*ssed me off. My sis has been on nights so granted she wanted to get hmoe not have to wait in a carpark for ages. So this morn i call my sis and ask about shoes - all i get is "they're tight"....so i say send them back. Then I ask why shes posted on bookface for all to see about the carpark thing - she knows this stresses me out as shes done it before and it caused a major row - i told her she was no longer welcome at my house etc. She says "cos i wanted to"....i ask why she had to make it public......"just coz" asked her to take it down - i got a huff. Ended up calling my dad in tears as i dont understand why she wants to make things so much more stressful - had MOH on text asking why my sister is such a Beeatch...... In fact the other day MOH sent a meddage to say that she meant "no offence to the wedding but she has more important things to think about at the moment".......i probably read too much into it but it upset me. Now im too scared to mention the W word incase it upsets people. Hung up on my sister and havent spoken to her since.....were ging on holiday next week with my OH, FMIL & FFIL and my sis to visit our dad as he lives in France. I just feel alone.......i have no close friends down here in kent - my sister is in Newcastle, as is my MOH, and my other BM is is Essex. My mum died 4 years ago so I dont have her and my dad is abroad. I just want to crawl into bed and pretend this wedding isnt happening at times :-( My sister has always been difficult - none of my friends like her - my OH doesnt like her.....but I feel guilty : she has barely any friends and she is after all my sister. When our parents moved to France, she moved in with me and we were there 3 years, then I moved to Kent so she is still up north all alone.......she doesnt make any effort with people though - its like everything is an inconvenience. My OH stated at xmas that i should tell her she is no longer invited to the wedding- how can i do that to my only sister?? I am scared she will ruin my hen party......shes just so ARGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH.......... It doesnt matter what I say or my dad says to her she doesnt see there being a problem with her attitude and its always everyone elses fault. I just done know what to do.......
jeez.....sorry about this extensive messgae! Just neded to get the words out! xx
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CommentAuthorVictoriaB
Why don't you try have words with her nicely when you all go away next week? Try sit her down and talk like adults, tell her what she's doing to your relationship and that you're one of the few people she has left that give a damn about her and she needs to behave otherwise she will lose you too. No arguing though just try and talk. Sounds a horrid situation I feel for you hun,families are rubbish sometimes but end of the day that's what they are family and you only get one x
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
Sounds like she needs to grow up. It may be that you have to say that if her behaviour doesn't improve you will consider cutting her as a bridesmaid. The danger there of course is that she may force you then to do just that.
30th August 2014 was the best birthday ever.
It was the day that I became Mrs. Dixon.
CommentAuthorKatieP23
Hi in having real problems with one bridesmaid and some of the other half's family. Firstly. The other have family they seem really interested in what plans ive done for the wedding but in insure as to what they really want to no as the oh cousin is getting married two weeks after us as we found out a couple of months back which i think a bit disrespectful as we been planning for three years and there having same theme which is stressful. Anyhow ive booked my hen party far in advance as the wedding near Xmas sl thought better opportunity for people to start paying it now but in already getting excuses they cant afford it and this is all from he other half's family in getting really annoyed and am wanting to take them off the wedding day list n just put them on evening for not making an effort am i wrong in doing so.. And finally my bridesmaid who when she is here is great but when i try to contact her she ignores for a month on end then will finally contact me arrange a meet n cancel in basically having to plan my whole wedding without any input from the ones i need it most from
