Hello everyone, this is the first time i have used the forum, but there is one aspect of my wedding that keeps niggling the back of my mind and i would like to hear your advice/opinions and even your stories.

My h2b and I are both faced with seperated parents, my mum and dad for 18yrs and his mum and dad for 3. My dad has a new family including son, and his mum is gettind remarried in 2012. My mum has expressed that she wouldn't feel overly comfortable with my dads family at the wedding and i have to agree, he stopped being my dad when he walked out. He was excited when i told him i was engaged but when i said i was only going to invite him he said he wouldn't be happy without the others there - so long story short my dad isn't coming. My H2B faced the same situation with his mum, but thankfully she and her OH were much more understanding and are even offering to help pay for some aspects even though he may not be invited. Bless him he even offered to give me away when i told him my dad wasn't going, but we don't want my fil2b to be uncomfortable. Such a mess! also my mum doesn't want to give me away or do a speach, and my sis who is bridesmaid doesn't want to do a speach. I know that in this day and age that we can have whatever we want, but it just seems that with every passing day my perfect day is getting a little less perfect!

What a first impression I must have made! Thank you all for listening
Bx

*** sorry....which was my oh's dad's best mate....before the affair!!!....

Is it wrong to say I'm happy it ain't just me??? H2b's dad is an alcoholic, his mom is well...she may have given birth to him but she has no idea what being a mother is about. They have not been 2gether since oh was 7. My dad cheated on my mom when I was 2, n haven't been 2gether since. He wasn't around for most of my life as his oh called the shots n didn't want me around n clearly fighting for his own daughter was too much like hard work. They have a son & a daughter. Since having my little girl my dad has become much more involved in my and her life. Over Xmas he asked how much I wanted towards wedding but I shrugged. He has given me money to help when we christened our daughter but it had to be a secret. He also gave a report on behalf of my mom to social services as she applied to be a foster parent. But again that had to be in secret.
When we were discussing the wedding my dad said he is coming abroad with us...his gf said oh r u? Then she said I better do some overtime so I can come & keep n eye on u.
Think it didn't help when my dad gave a speech at christening saying I'm a great mom n have learnt it from my mom, saying she is a strong, beautiful woman. Grrrr parents

Ahhh, families are fabulous, aren't they? My mum and dad split when I was two and both remarried. My mum is now single, but she and my dad have been getting along fine for about 20 years, so that's not an issue. The woman my dad married after he and mum split is lovely, and my mum gets on with her too, but her and dad split a few years ago, and my dad remarried again! The new wife is a bit of a cow, and neither my mum or step-mum (cos that's what she'll always be even though they're now divorced) like her, and I know that there is the potential for trouble ahead - especially because at my brother's wedding last year she kept trying to do mother-of-the-groom type things and so treading on my mum's toes. She's already asked me if she can come dress shopping with me, and kind of put me on the spot with it cos she asked in front of my dad. Don't feel I can say no because I love my dad to bits and don't want to upset him :S

My h2b's parents are still happily married - I think they're something to aspire to :)

Hiya hun, i have to start by saying i am so sorry to hear what you are going through it's not nice at the best of times, if thats possible! and secondly i am going through a similar thing. My parents split 14 years ago and both have new families, Everything was all good and well up until april last year when my daughyter was just about to turn 1. My dad came round and starting kicking off about random stuff, and still to this day i don't know why. Anyways his visit ended with him saying and i quote " i f**king wash my hands on you "! What am i, like 5! Well since then i have heard nothing from him not even a txt wishing my daughters happy birthdays.....! My step-dad is great and i get on really well with him but somehow feel it shoud be my dad giving me away, my nan won't go if my mum goes, myt sister has plotted to wreak my day and have targetted my children personally ( my 2 eldest are really scared!) Anyways i am feeling a little like you, my day is slowly going from PERFECT to being a complete wreak! Hun my heart really goes out to you and i really wish i had the answers you are looking for. Best of luck with any decision you may make xxxx