Hmnmm i am inclined to agree with you that its nice to still look like yourself on your big day. I am intending on wearing a thin line of black eyeliner with subtle eye shadow as thats the look that suits me and is still fairly subtle. I think you need a make up trial you can try her look and see what you think and maybe talk to her again about wanting some eyeliner but say that you would be happy with even a little eyeliner :-) x

I always wear black eyeliner, I dont have it flicked at the edges but I have enough on to define my eyes. I was thinking the same that I wouldn't feel comfortable without it on the day as I thought I would feel 'naked' without it. However, I went for a make up consultation last week and the lady used a dry plum pencil on my eyes and it did look really nice. Since then I have been trying different ideas with my eye shadow and not wearing my usual black liner and to be honest I felt like it was a refreshing change and looks really good. So I think you should maybe have a play around to see how you feel yourself just to see if you can get used to it gradually and if you still feel the same then just explain that your the bride and you will have it your way lol! xx

I think if you want to wear Zombie make-up you can - no friend - however talented - can tell you not to. I always appreciate advice but there is no rule. Some like heavier make-up some don't. I also think that generally we should all look like us and not completely different.

If I don't wear eyeliner my eyes look pathetic, I've already told my make-up artist how I want my eyeliner and she agreed that if it's what I'm used to I should wear it. I would feel really uncomfortable without it. Don't feel stupid for wanting to wear it, especially if it makes you feel like you've lost your identity. Your friend should understand your concerns. Besides, who wrote the rule book on how women should wear their make up on the big day?

If its something you wear everyday then I think it should still be incorporated into you make up on your wedding day. At the end of the day you still want to look like you! who cares if it's not 'bridal'! If you want it then have it! get her to do some trials with the eyeliner toned down but dont let her get rid of it completely :) xx

I've just had a look at your cover photo, and assuming you intend to wear your eyeliner in a similar way then it won't be over the top at all! Wedding day make-up is different to everyday make-up due to it being made up for the camera, but you still have to incorporate 'you' into it. Insist that if she does your make up then she will do your eyes, you're in charge here.

you should bee comfy on your wedding day and just feel like your stunning. maybe you can compromise and tone it done a bit if it is normally dark?! x

I must agree with your friend and says its not "bridal" if bridal meant sticking completely to tradition and forgetting who you are, where your make up how u like it don't change ur self just because ur friend doesn't think it will conform. Conformity is for sheep ur wedding is to let you and ur partners personalities shine through xxx

I feel like i havnt finished my makeup without my black eyeliner on my lower lids. However when I was just having a play with make up for the day and copied a video tutorial off the net I actually liked the look with a different way of wearing eyeliner.

So I say wear it but tone it down. Who knows in a few years you might look at photos and go 'why did I wear that eyeliner I look like a t1t.

Lol I will be having my tattoos on show too - so that will make 2 of us!!

I say go with the look you feel most comfortable with hun. It's your day and if you are anything like me, I'll be nervous about the day anyway without worrying about my makeup! Does your makeup lady friend cover the whole of london? xx

I'm not sure iluvcakes, she's based in Pinner and used to do wedding catwalk shows so has lots of experience. She has a salon called 'Fridolin's', no idea if she covers other areas or even if she has a website, have never asked! I think you have the right idea blondmumma, but know I'll be too nervous to be able to do mine properly! Am sure whatever I do people will tell me I look nice but think it is important to look like myself (even a slightly toned down, more bridal version!) x

So I had my make up trial and I was so pleased! We came to a compromise on the eyeliner- she took pictures with it done my way and then did my make up with a bit of eyeliner done more subtly and lovely blended eyeshadow and it looked brilliant! (If I do say so myself!) I couldn't believe how much bigger my eyes looked in the 'after' pictures!
So all good, I get my eyeliner, my friend gets to make me look more 'bridal' and I think we're both really pleased with the final result! (guess that proves that she does know her stuff but also that I'm right that I can work some black eyeliner in there!) x