I am thinking of asking my younger cousin to be a bridesmaid. I wanted to ask her originally but I didn't as I have another cousin on my mum's side that wouldn't really want to have, but felt like if I asked one I would have to ask the other. Anyway, the cousin on my mum's side is now engaged and has asked one of her cousins to be BM, not me or my sister. I am older than her so I understand she may not want me as BM and we are not close, we probably see each other about twice a year. So now I feel a bit silly for thinking I couldn't have one without the other but I still kind of feel like that and feel like I will upset her and my mum's family if I don't ask! Should I just risk it and ask 1 cousin to be a BM or leave it at the 3? We are on a budget but I got the dresses for £27 each so they aren't too expensive, I am asking them to buy their own shoes and I'm pretty sure her mum (my auntie and godmother) will chip in for make up etc, if needed.
I spoke to my MOH about this and she said maybe wait until about 6 months before to see how I feel and if I would still really like her to be one then ask her, but I feel like I should do it sooner rather than leave it and make it look like she was an afterthought! x
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CommentAuthorFlossie
If you wanted to ask her originally then I would ask her! Don't worry about the other cousin.. you shouldn't feel bad at all, she hasn't asked you to be bridesmaid for her so she shouldn't be expecting to be one for you! It's not going to put you out too much financially either so it's not like you need to worry about the added costs.
Plus if you have 4 bridesmaids you will have a nice even number for the photos ;) x
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CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
I'm one of those people that has to try and please everyone all the time and I hate it haha!
I'll speak to OH about it again as he agreed I couldn't really have one without the other but he might feel differently now! I am seeing the one I don't want at the end of the month so I might talk weddings with her and see if she is expecting to be asked! Although I think she would if she finds out the other one was! x
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CommentAuthorKayleighS46
I also agree that if you were going to have her in the beginning then I would ask her, only problem with leaving it till 6 months before is if you can still get the dresses or not? If thats not going to be a problem as OH and see his imput maybe? Dont worry about everyone else do what makes you happy :) xx
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
I you want her have her, im having one of my cousins (MOH) and her daughter, but not having any of my other cousins , as we are not as close, 2 of my cousins are only invited for the evening.
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The thing is my family is so small that I only have 3 cousins in total, 2 girls and a boy so that's why I think it would be an issue. OH said I should have her if I wanted but when I mentioned the other one he agreed I couldn't have one without the other. I think now she has chosen her BM's he may feel differently though. Yeah hadn't thought about getting the dresses, I presume I could as I just ordered them off the bay but not 100% they will still have them x
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Became Mrs P on 14th May 2016 - best day ever!
CommentAuthorFlossie
But then on the flip side, why should the cousin you want to ask have to miss out just because you don't want to ask the other one? I don't see why the one getting married would have a problem with it when she hasn't asked you to be her bridesmaid either.. fair is fair x
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CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
True! I will think about it and speak to OH and maybe ask her next time I see her :) if it upsets the other one tough, she knows I'm closer to this one and like you said, I'm not her's and I bet she hasn't given it as much thought as I have lol! x
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CommentAuthorFlossie
Exactly! Be selfish for once.. you're allowed, its YOUR wedding day
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CommentAuthorMrsRobson2Be
I'm getting my bridesmaid dresses from eb@y & the seller has advised me to order them all at the same time so they get cut from the same fabric batch, otherwise she couldn't guarantee they would match. I suppose it's the same as when you buy wallpaper they have to all be from the same batch otherwise you get different shades.
