but...if the oldest child is 20...that might cause some confusion
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I would say place the names of who is coming so it is would like to invite Mr J Smith and Mrs E Smith for example. I would say that would be clear to me that the kids are not on the invite and if they are not clear then surely they would phone you?
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
Can you not just write there names on the invite? Or on the envelope? They should know from just having there names that the kids arent invited.. if they were you'd have so and so and family.. if she mentions it just politely say, we are trying to keep numbers down so only close family are invited
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CommentAuthormitch2509
yeah good point jo !x
CommentAuthorHunny Bunny
I have seen a rhyme or something similar to put on invites, didn't keep it as ours is pretty child orientated - maybe Google might have the answer about that one, but with regards to the invites, I'd do specific names on the invite - making it clear. I have 5 children in the day and there are about 20 in the evening, we have booked a creche, so mums and dads will still get a chance to relax a little x
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CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
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I was planning on putting the names down. I just don't want extras turning up on the day.
I am hoping that they would call if there was any confusion - but things arent always that simple.
i was just wondering whether anyone thinks its necessary to put anything like 'named people only' but obviosuly in a much politer and more elequent way!
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CommentAuthormitch2509
my friend had an extra guest on her wedding and she had to ask them to leave as there wasnt enough space/food for her... not the situation i wanna be in
CommentAuthor'ca'ca'ca
just state in littel writing on the bottom of the invites that you regretfully have to state named guests only as you have a limited number of space. blame the venue :] Good luck. its not easy but theyre family, and they should understand :] <3 x
CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
Exactly!!
Thats what I'm worried about - because i can kind of see it happening because they will know deep down that these people are not invited but they will think - if they just turn up we wont be able to send them away.
But the thing is we will have NO space. so we would also have to ask them to leave - and I do not want that stress on my wedding day!!! i will be in tears because I will feel like a total bitch!!!
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Don't worry if people ask about it then you say that unfortunately due to the venue capacity you had to reduce the numbers on the guest list and have tried to do it as fairly as possible to incorporate both sides of the bride and grooms family and friends. You regret that it has had to be done but your budget wouldn't stretch to a bigger venue. You would have loved them to be a part of your day and will happily send them some cake and show them the photos etc.
CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
xjox I will have to memorize that!!! lol!!! :)
Thank you
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Lol well if they kick off after you have said that feel free to tell them they are selfish and if they have a problem with it they can pay for your wedding ;)
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
Ask them to list names on the reply card (or write the names on with tick boxes for attending and space for dietry requirements)- that should give them the message!
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CommentAuthorlaurabrown83
I will be putting an info card in: Unfortunately due to space and budget restrictions, we are unable to invite children to our wedding other than those in the immediate family who will be specifically named on the invite. They can't possibly misunderstnad that!!
CommentAuthorleafy
we put in questionaires for the menu choices and a few supprises we are planning and put the peoples names at the top that way when they see there are only ones for them they know the kids are not invited also for some family members like matts uncle we r only inviting him and his wife to the daytime so we sent an evening invite for his cousins at the same time hope that helps most people have been understanding with us and realise that u have to limit numbers nowadays xx
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CommentAuthorchezrudda
i like that adult only very polite xx
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CommentAuthorhjl2001uk
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We have this problem too. I think I'm going to specifically state the names of the people invited. I spoke to a few of my friends with children and they said they would not assume their children were also invited unless it said so on the invite. I gess not everyone is so amenable though! It also helps that everyone I know knows I'm not a fan of screaming children. Not found my maternal side yet. Let's hope that comes after the wedding! We've had people say they can't come cos we refuse to invite ANY children whatsoever but that's tough. It's our day!
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CommentAuthorRoseyB
I have included an information page with our invites, it has info on venue location accommodation, transport, gift lis etc but I also used it to make a small statement about children not being included in the invite. I feel it gives the clear info but along with other info, it doesn't stand out like a sore thumb on a nicely worded invitation. I got one with an invitation last year and found it really helpful as a guest. Xx
CommentAuthormitch2509
good idea hun
CommentAuthorJilly17
Yes I did a letter to go in with my friends invitations explaining that due to numbers unfortunately children were not invited as her husband is Dutch and the tradition there is for everyone to be invited....but then their tradition is also for everyone to be invited to a coffee and cake reception and not a big sit down meal!!! I would make it as clear as possible in the first place to avoid any nightmares on the day!!!
