ok so the wedding is 5 and half weeks away now and after the weekend it's looking like my stepson may not even be there!

We was supposed to have him on saturday 2nd but she phoned matt and said he didn't want to stay which upset matt alot and like he said hes 6 he doesn't have a choice in in. So matt spoke to his mum and his mum phoned june ( whos sammys great gran) spoke to sammy and he said he wanted to go and see her. Now we live next door to one another ( june house , our house, matts mums house) so matts dad went round to fetch him and tracey ( who is matts exes mum) provoked matts dad and he went for her, she held his wrist screaming "he's trying to strangle me" ( shes one twisted woman!!) well next thing we know sarah ( the ex) has come to pick sammy up and left, then matt gets a message sayin "i'm done, i'll see you in court"! we was like wtf?? she basically said your dad put his hands on my mum i'm done.......


Several hours later a new message comes saying shes calmed down and has a comprimise so i tell matt to ask what it is the reply is as follows:

You can come to see him anyday you like ( they live in lincoln, we live in derbyshire) providing we give a few days notice but under no circumstances is he to see matts dad! so in other words hes not allowed to stay at ours anymore!!

Looks like its mediation/ court and she'll soon change her mind once matt stops giving her all the maintenance money for sammy. shes only getting half the rest is going in sammys bank!!

Any opinions or has anyone been in this situation??

xx

we only had him every other fortnight for the weekend which is what we want back. as for the money shes getting half of it other half will be going in his bank cause we know full well it doesn't get spent on him. when he comes to stay she doesn't bring him with a change of clothes or underwear!!! so we have to pay extra to provide something he'll hardly ever use. you say woman can be nasty so can I. I'm sorry but how can you let your son call someone else DAD when he sees his real dad???!!!! that kid is gonna be messed up something wicked!!

i see what you mean but matts said untill its all sorted she'll get half the other half will be put away. as soon as shes only getting half her money she'll back down on what shes said but we still going to do it properly so stuff like this can't happen.

As for him calling her oh dad well her mum and her are telling him simon is his dad not matt and it was left to me to explain step parents to him which she should have done!!

I know he does get clothes and he only gets toys from his gran parents but like i say she doesn't send him with a change of clothes or underwear so we have to go out and spend more on stuff that hardly gets used which isn't cheap and the money he pays her should go on that. I don't see why we have to pay extra. and if she wants to stick to what shes said bout us going to see him she'll get nothing from us cause it'll need to be used for petrol as SHE is the one that moved.

But i'm more hurt by the fact he won't even be allowed to come to his dads wedding!! so basically matt has to choose....

His son or his dad which i think is very unfair!!

Just tell her matt's dad isn't going to be there... maybe his son will go back after the day and tell her that he was, but theres not a lot she can do about it then!

xx

well it messes things up as it was our weekend to have him all weekend so the plan was matts perents were having him stay at theirs on the night. We can't talk to her as matt will loose it and we don't want to give her anything she can use against him in mediation or court!! I hate girls that use their kids as weapons!

Mrs shaw - that will be a hard thing as she won't believe his dad won't be there.

The dispute was between parents tho sammy wasn't even involved so i don't get why shes saying he can't see him??!! sammy wasn't in the room and nothing was directed at him hes 6 for crying out loud like matts dad would do that to a 6 yr old!

Shes been looking for any excuse for us not to have him and now shes found one. the amount of times shes phoned telling us hes not coming cause hes ill and we asked sammy the next time we had him an he said he wasn't is to many to count.

Last time she phoned us thurs saying hes ill and been sent home from school, the saturday i logged onto social network site and it turned out it was her oh b-day. so next time we had sammy i asked if he was ill for simons b-day he said no and they had a party. wouldn't have been angry if she had just asked if we could switch weekends and not lie about it. I don't think she realises kids tell the truth!!!