So weve now moved into together..which is great...its a nice flat.....cheap rent for area were in.....love the independance i have now BUT all me and the h2b have done since weve moved in is argue!!
We have never argumed since we got together over a year and half ago! Weve had lil dis-agreements but always make up straight after and laugh it off!
He just seems to nag and moan about everythinnnnng! and i mean everything! from house work to me having mates over! Its driving me mad! Im meant to be having a girly night in few weeks as ive not had night out in months and not had night out with some of my friends for over a year....i got asked 100 questions about what i was doing, who i was having ........then he started moaning about having a house warming party so i said have his mates over same time - all good...but now hes moaning AGAIN - cus there will be too many people, place will be trashed, drinks spilt, no where to sit .... everything! were not inviting people off the street! honestly their our mates they wont trash the place! just a few drinks before we go out on the town! its like he constantly finds something to moan about allll the time!!!!
He moans about what i eat - if i eat anything like chocolate/cakes im moaned at because i said i wanted to diet and how ill get fat! a small bit of chocolate wont kill me!
He moaned about the amount i brought with me when we moved in and how was proberly crap and wont be able to find a place for it!
In mornings i get up hour and half before him so i get dressed down stairs and do make up and hair so dont wake him...and yet again i get moaned at for having it all out on table!
Its like hes a completely different person! everythings so serious and complicated with him now! :(
Im hoping its just a phase and well get used to constantly being around each other! If not im screwed! i cant put up with this for the rest of my life :(
Its Really not helping my home sickness at the moment :(.
Sorry for moan everyone just wanted to get off chest :( x
CommentAuthorlil miss sunshine
oh hon sorry to hear you've hit a bad patch but it may very well be just a settleing in period........hope you get to work it all out
and now the next chapter
CommentAuthorxbeckix88
I hope it is! :( I swear men have periods! lol
CommentAuthorEnny
oh no... I can tell u from my experience with my h2b that we had problems at the beginning first we lived in a shared house together with 3other ppl. that didnt actually do out relationship any good... after 10month we decided to move in our own flat together... only rented at first also that was difficult as i can be quite messy ... but yeah h2b and i do shift works and sometimes it seems i'm doing all the stuff now we are living nearly 1year alone together and its getting much better than the beginning was... so maybe its just a phase really it took my h2b and me quite a while... so u might be ok once u go back to work that might help if ur not in each others way all the time... maybe u both should have a chat about everything put positives and negatives together and see.
xx
CommentAuthormadison_uk
oh dear is it the first time you've lived together as the saying goes you don't know what people are really like till you live with them, should settle down soon then you will start noticing bad habits etc all part off living with each other, maybe sit down and talk it over clear the air and start again
and yes men have periods lol, but they wont admit it lol
CommentAuthorEnny
i agree with the fact that men have periods as well :D mine has them every now and than haha
CommentAuthorweemindyxx
hey huni remember for better for worse its just a wee bad patch you are both getting used to living with each other and it take a bit of getting used to make him a nice romantic candlelit meal, things will pick up again, oh and i agree with the girls men do have periods lol, xxx
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CommentAuthorxbeckyx
Its called O.M.S- OLD MAN SYNDROME! My mans the same and today its actually got me really down,Arguing over a towel, a cup and a bowl! Oh also parents and money!! Oh also thinks that we both should be working with 5 kids!!
Im lazy too! I dnt go out anymore with freinds because thats another argument that stews up until the night im surposed to go!! Sometimes i wonder why i bother!
Then other times everything is bliss and we can't wait to get married!! Chin-up and stay happy and positive dnt let a man get you down!! tc and hugs x
CommentAuthorEnny
u got to have some time for urself hun not just him sometimes u got to go for just a meal or so with the girls other wise u loose track on ur friends!!! xx
CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
it sounds just like us when we first moved in together! The first few weeks were bliss, then the next two months were hell! We sat down together and had a proper heart-to-heart about what was bothering us. Our relationship didn't feel special any more, the shine had gone off it because we were seeing each other all the time... Why don't you have a talk with him and tell him how you feel? It worked for us and we haven't looked back. Good luck xxxx
CommentAuthorSoon2BBlackwell
I'm sorry you're having a tough time at the moment. Did h2b live on his own before you moved in together? There is always a settling in period and when two people live together there has to be alot of compromise. I've lived with H2B for 5 years and he still gets on my nerves nag nag nagging but to be honest, he is right most of the time :~(
I agree with pp about having a heart to heart, get everything out in the open, tell each other the little things that annoy you and work through everything together.
I hope all gets better soon :)
Holly
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CommentAuthorMrsowen2b
oh dear babe, this is only a small patch when me and my h2b moved in with each other last year we were bliss at first then we hit a bad patch when he had time of work and i was going to work and cooking and cleaning and it drove me up the wall and we used to argue a lot then, things settle down in the end. men do have periods and my man who is 12 years older than me also has old man syndrome, he has been there and done it and also got the tee shirt and moans if i go out on a night out with the girls as i dont do it very often (i hate wasting my money) so he a bit shocked when i do. so just bite your tongue and smile things will get better dont worry too much, its because its a shock to the system and a personal space kind of issue possibly things will work out.
CommentAuthorkimmy
Hope things get better soon!! :D
CommentAuthorGriff
Jesus this sounds like mike used to be a bit of a control freak just have it out with him tell him you moved in with him because you love him but you have your own life, the flat is not only his so friends will be coming round whether he likes it or not. You need to say that if he doesnt stop trying to control you instead of support you then you will leave and the wedding will be off. I had this exact conversation with mike and everything is absolutey fine now :) xx
CommentAuthorxbeckix88
We ok again now had a chit chat and talked it all through! Plus he came home with a bottle of wine for me haha!! Agreed to Have my girly night/ house warming lads night all together again now which im really looking forward to! bita neon fancy dress, few cocktails then hit the town :D x
