Sorry to rant ladies but im loosing the plot here. We are doing our buffet ourselves so we have manged to source somewhere with big double catering ovens so we can get it all done. Well mil2b called us the other night and said the money you are spending give it to me and me and my neighbour will go get all the food and we will go to the unit and cook it all. Eh no i want to be there i want to buy the food its our day we want to be involved. She is trying to take over as much as she can at the minute because we are so close to the day. I told h2b i know she is your mum but im not letting her take over this is the exact reason my mum hasnt had much input on the day and i wont allow her to pay for anything because is she did it would be a case of shes paying so it will be what she wants. We said we were having a dj that caters for all kinds of music but no that wasnt good enough fir mil2b she decided she would hire a band. We didnt want a band and told her this, So we told her you have your band but they dont paly until we are gone. We are leaving around 9 so we can make the most of some time on our own.
Sorry for the rant ladies poor h2b has heard all this and hes not happy either just needed somewhere else to rant.
xx
7th May when I officially become Mrs Naylor
CommentAuthorKerrylou
*HUGS* Chuffing MIL2Bs eh? The most important thing here is you have H2B on your side, so get your united front on and tell her it's all booked, it's all sorted out and you're not budging just to keep her happy. Maybe she has good intentions but ultimately what you guys say is the final word. I feel your pain but seriously, rise above it, it'll all be over soon :) xxx
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CommentAuthorKazza
Looking from another point of view, maybe she just wants to take some of the stress away from you so close to your big day!! If that was happening to me I would say I appreciate the offer of help and am happy for you to HELP me do it but I am not taking a back seat.
I was at a wedding last year where the bride done her own food, her mother and mil2b both helped out and it was lovely. The bride to start with was stressing over the food being warm enough and ready at the right time then the mothers took over. It is your wedding day and you should be enjoying it..
Maybe if you all go shopping for the food together and help prepare things but on the day take a back seat and enjoy your first hours of being a married woman. :)
Good luck with the situation :) x
CommentAuthorJulie Walker x
I think the trouble is they may not want to not take over as such but they know what planning a wedding is like on the stress point of veiw...perhaps they read in a mag recently about a bride that had a heart attack from planning her wedding (I did and I worried a little lol) Doesn't really matter what the reasons are though, it's your day and she needs to accept that. When I got married first time my mum said she would have given her right arm for someone to help her plan her wedding but bluntly I didn't want or need it and you will need to have the same chat. Luckily my mum doesn't even know about the wedding this time as she won't talk to me (long story) and my ex mil is a diamond and wants to help but is staying out of it although I do ask her opinions lol x ex in laws are my stand in parents of the bride...lol we didnt get on when I was married to her son!!
oh I do I do I dooooo!!!
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I was going to say is she taking over or just trying to help you out? I know it doesn't feel like it but she may be trying to take some stress away from you on the day. I can see you want to be involved etc but maybe you could point out that they can help out if they want but you still want to do some of it yourself?
We have told her we are happy for her to help but thats all its just help not her doing it and not telling us how to do it. Yes have opinions but what we say is final. Poor h2b is ready to explode with her at the mo lol. xx
7th May when I officially become Mrs Naylor
CommentAuthorJulie Walker x
poor chap, you need to be firm im afraid, you are too close to the wedding for a major bust up but she needs to understand where you are both coming from. very nice of her to offer blah blah blah but........
oh I do I do I dooooo!!!
oh I did I did I did!!
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Just think only three weeks to go and you won't have to worry any more as you will be a married woman!
