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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamlandGot married 5 years ago
      CommentTimeMay 15th 2018
    If you invited a friend a few years ago to your full wedding day at a cost of £140 per head plus their OH (who you and your husband cannot stand the sight of but felt obliged to), then you receive an invite to their wedding but an evening party only that will last for 4 hours only how would you feel?

    No food or drinks - so pay bar that only takes cash, no cards at all.

    They say it's a small family only wedding so not to be offended by the evening only 4 hour party invite.

    They're asking for cash gifts for their honeymoon. Would you feel happy giving cash as a gift for an invite to a 4 hour party with no food and drink? How much would you give? To add that when you got married between the two of them they spent £30 on your gift.

    Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
    Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!

    • StaceyH989
      CommentAuthorStaceyH989Got married 7 months ago
      CommentTimeMay 15th 2018
    Hmmm that's a difficult one IDL....

    Personally I would be offended but then again not everyone thinks the same way, for me if I was invited to a wedding for the whole day I would also invite that person to whole day too.

    I find it weird that they aren't providing food either, give me the impression that they may have a really strict budget but even then you would still try to make exceptions.

    Maybe in this case provide them with the same gift they provided you and try not to let it get to you some people are just like that.
    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamlandGot married 5 years ago
      CommentTimeMay 15th 2018
    Thanks Stacey. It is tough. I do just feel a bit insulted that in general (not just for me) that they are only throwing an evening 4 hour party at the sort of venue which they're clearly doing it on a budget (think of old tired community centre type venue with flaking walls and mismatched chairs etc) and not doing food and drink but yet still asking for cash for their honeymoon is ok. I just wouldn't ask for any gifts. Add to that they were included in our full day and everything else I said in my first post I feel a bit put out. With the amount of drinks we provided noone had to pay for any drinks unless they didn't want water or wine.

    Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
    Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!

    • CarlaT34
      CommentAuthorCarlaT34Getting married in 17 months
      CommentTimeJun 26th 2018
    This is happening to us but we are lucky it is reversed and we are getting married next so we have downgraded them. It was a bit rougher however and my partner is gutted he has been downgraded from day do to night do. All of his friends group are invited to the day but because he couldn’t afford to go on the stag as saving for our wedding (it was a bit ridiculous on cost!!) he was visibly downgraded.

    I personally wanted to just not go and save face but he wants to go and not miss out. I have agreed if he wants to go then fine but they will not be invited to our day do and are receiving a bottle of champagne as a gift (albeit a nice ish one). In the end I would pay the extra £70 for the day for them if it had been reversed but if they don’t value my partners presence (I am a new factor in his life) then I won’t value theirs. There is a high possibility it will come to Saturday and we will not want to drive the hour to their evening do to then drive an hour back.

    In the end when you are included in everything then excluded from an important event you certainly know who your true friends are. I know they are inviting a sports coach over a friend and as it has upset my partner I am pretty livid.

    Good luck with this but dont save their feelings. Afterall have they truly saved yours?
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