In mid disagreement with H2B & my mum about evening guests....When you send out evening invites to guests (we are also inviting to ceremony - just not wedding breakfast) do we include the gift list? I was saying no - but they are saying yes give them the option. When i have been an evening guest i have had both & when i don't get a list - i just up buying vouchers. Can anyone tell me the correct etiquite.
Thanks
CommentAuthorkimmy
Im not sure about correct etiquette but we are placing a poem asking for a donation to our honeymoon in each evening invitation!
CommentAuthorserine4andrew
Ive been thinking the same thing! I think I will put the poem into the evening invites aswell xxx
This day i marry my friend, the one i laugh with, live for
dream with, love..... 14/07/2012
CommentAuthorPaula
When I have attended weddings as either day or evening guest I have always given a gift so I think it would be a good idea to include a list or donation request x
CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
I'm not sure either but we're putting our honeymoon money poems in every invitation, day and evening xxx
We put a link in the evening invites so people could get vouchers if they wanted. But it was at the very end xx
Got married Sat 28/05/2011
Renewing vows Sat 29/05/2021
We're planning WELL in advance!!
CommentAuthorUnknown
i think you should include a gift list, otherwise people will just be stressing you out by asking.
we have put the same thing in day and evening invites x
CommentAuthorsbride
we had a poem asking for a contribution to our honeymoon and we put it in the day and evening invites.
I am now Mrs Stacey Stiles and loving it!
CommentAuthorClarabella
Im thinking of having a wedding website and i'll let every guest know about the website and i'll have a link on there to the gift list and then its up to them to decide if they want to give us a gift or not
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CommentAuthorJilly17
I really dont think there is an etiquette on this one! Last wedding I went to they hardly got any gifts from evening guests which I thought was so rude. Even if I went to an ordinary party I would take wine/choc/flowers. At the end of the day, do what you feel comfortable with but as is the opinion here, most people seem to do lists for both now
CommentAuthorClarabella
I got invited to an evening wedding and there was no gift list in the invite so i think its entirely up to yourself
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CommentAuthorlaulyloon
Hi guys I have the same querie here. We hope to organise our Oz/NewZealand 2013 honeymoon in time for our may 2012 wedding and our main aim is for people to contribute towards this (hopefully we will have travel agent cards to include with invites by that time) if they wish to get a gift. However for those that would rather get an actual gift we thought about also including a small wedding list for a few items that we would like. Do you think this will look greedy? I have been to weddings lately where people have asked for both department store and garden centre vouchers and I guess I thought it was similar in giving people a choice? But like I say our main reason for doing this is that there are a few smaller items that we would love to receive as presents and we know that some of our older guests may prefer to buy us a present than contribute towards the honeymoon. I too am also not sure whether or not to put them in the evening invites. I know if it were me I would always take a gift to an evening party and therefore would be perfectly happy to receive a list in an evening invite but not sure if it will upset people??
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
I think it's fine to put in a gift list for evening guests, but don't automatically expect to get gifts from 100% of your evening guests, as I've seen a lot of articles saying you don't have to give a gift if you're evening only - saying that though, I've always given a gift no matter what invite status I get to weddings, whereas H2B has moaned if he even needs to purchase a card for his friends' weddings! Everybody's different I guess...
CommentAuthormrs m
I am putting poems (on a seperate card) inside every invitation day or night.
Happily in love and can't wait to be married! xx
CommentAuthormcquire81
I read in a bridal magazine that it is not good etiquette to add a gift list to the evening invitations, however i dont think many people would expect to go without bringing a present so its up to you. I dont think many people will mind and might be glad to have an idea what to get you :-) Good luck x
CommentAuthorKaya
If theyre being invited to ceremony and evening I'd enclose one. xxx
Now Mrs Cobb!!!!!! :-D
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
we are doing both .... havinga small gift list and asking for money to enable us to do things on honeymoon .....and yest i am putting a list in the evening guests invite
