Its all up to you and how you define a serious relationship. But if you you would prefer to invite friends over boyfriends you haven't met for example, people should understand.
Now a extremely happy German housewife and now a Mother!!!!
Islay Jean born 24th June in Hannover.
CommentAuthormrs pinkalice
this confuses me too! at the moment i have allowed space in the numbers for a few plus ones and am waiting to see who's still together/who's broken up nearer the time. what i also wonder is, my bridemaid has been with her boyf for lke 2 years so he is definitely invited, but he will be on his own all day while she is doing bridemaid duties...so should i ask him if he would prefer to just come in the evening? i guess thats the same as your bestman dilemma! one of my other friends has a different guy on her arm every week she is definitely not getting a plus one on her invite lol xx
CommentAuthorbillybob
I am struggling with this too hence I havent finished writing my evening invites. Some of my friends have got boyfriends recently that I have never met and I am already struggling for numbers. I cant imagine walking around at my own wedding do and seeing people I dont know. You ladies have quite a while to sort this out so I wouldnt worry just yet.
i thought about inviting all plus ones and children to my wedding but luckily i can do this due to my venue holding 250 and we have been quoted for 250 but if we get anymore family members between now and our wedding some plus ones will have to go its hard as you dont want ppl to start getting stroppy coz ur not inviting their plus ones yet some ppl can bring their its very confusing. A girl i work with is getting married in sept and has refused to let any plus ones go to save arguements xx
Met Matt at 10 years old
Marrying him at 27 years old
I can't wait to be Mrs Eminson on the 8th June 2013
CommentAuthorKaya
I just used it on someone I don't want to invite... either 29 or 34 points... what do ya reckon... lol
Now Mrs Cobb!!!!!! :-D
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
I did it for one of my best friends whos male- 5.
Now a extremely happy German housewife and now a Mother!!!!
Islay Jean born 24th June in Hannover.
CommentAuthorKaya
lol
Now Mrs Cobb!!!!!! :-D
CommentAuthorbillybob
Its all doing my head in- I have even threatened to do a sweepstake or even raffle tickets. Ha ha. I best get off here and actually finish writing my evening invites I need my rsvp's back in 6 weeks!
CommentAuthorlemondrops
CommentAuthorMrsEminson2B
i will have to go thro my guest list of people i was going to invite (had to do this for numbers for the venue) and use the calculator to see if i can cancel anyone off lol x
Met Matt at 10 years old
Marrying him at 27 years old
I can't wait to be Mrs Eminson on the 8th June 2013
CommentAuthorKaya
Damn!! He's got some awful family though I REALLY don't wnat there though! And he doesn't either but he's worried bout upsetting other family members by not inviting them1 arghhh
Now Mrs Cobb!!!!!! :-D
CommentAuthormrs pinkalice
oh i love that calculator! just done it for one of my friends got -1 lol
CommentAuthorlemondrops
CommentAuthorKaya
I hate that calculator it gave 34 for somone I really don't wanna invite and 5 points for my bestest boy mate (who soo would be moh if he was female) x
Now Mrs Cobb!!!!!! :-D
CommentAuthorMrsB
I just decided our friends and family no plus ones during the day luckily everyone knows at least 1 person however on the night time sure bring them its a fix price at the evening so I don't care =) and if they don't like it they don't have to come x
CommentAuthorKerrylou
I've been agonising over this one for ages now and have come to this conclusion; Some plus ones are welcome all day - if they're married, engaged or have been together 18 months or more (mad, we do actually know people who are in a marriage/relationship but we don't know the OH)
Seeing as the night do is 'free' then if we have 'single' guests during the day they're welcome to bring their plus one in the evening.
a) I'm not having people we don't know there during the day, this is an intimate celebration of our love for one another, not a blummin free for all for them down the street and their dog :P b) I'm loathed to fork out X amount per head and put in all the work for people who will just be 'whatever' about it
Evening do is going to be fairly informal after 1st dance so I've got no objection to people bringing a plus one to it :) xxx
It's right what they say
"The course of true love never runs smoothly"
But if it had been easy then we wouldn't love each other as
much as we do right now - 1 week to go :D
CommentAuthorMrs Daltry
lol im so glad im past this stage,i must admit my guest list did give me headaches,but in the end i just did what i wanted to,not anyone else
CommentAuthorKerrylou
<--- Is listening to the married lady LOL Well, if doing your own thing worked for you then I'm going to follow your example...................you do realise though that if it all blows up in my face I'll be holding you responsible :P LOL xxx
It's right what they say
"The course of true love never runs smoothly"
But if it had been easy then we wouldn't love each other as
much as we do right now - 1 week to go :D
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
Alternatively... see whos serious three months before. Our guest list is having a few extras added on as people can't come and other people have developed serious relationships.
Now a extremely happy German housewife and now a Mother!!!!
Islay Jean born 24th June in Hannover.
CommentAuthorCupCake
WE are inviting who we like, and NOT inviting who we don't ... I couldn't care less what people think .. it's tough tits! lol
Became Mrs Lyons 30th July 2011 x
CommentAuthorlemondrops
CommentAuthorKimi
i think i'll fiddle with that - having top table issues now as we have 11 on it now - have an idea to make it 10 again but need to speak to MOH about it as it would be her little girl moving to sit with her dad instead. :-s
The days are flying by, can't wait :)
CommentAuthorJane
Kimi - me as well, having table issues myself. Was going to have totally informal and sit where you like type reception/buffet but then thought it might be nice to have at least a top table. However, i do NOT want to sit in close proximity to my mother as I know she will spoil my day, so having problems where to put her. Did consider the garage.
CommentAuthorNHR115
I have started doing my guest list today, although I know it'll change over the next 2 years, and I have basically giving everyone a partner or plus one. I might look into this now i've read this thread :) xxx
CommentAuthorlemondrops
CommentAuthorNHR115
It would be so easier to run away eh? lol. xxx
CommentAuthorMrs Daltry
the easiest way to go about it is to make your list of definates that you want there,then if theres room add the plus ones,also make a reserve list so that if people drop out late you can fill their seat!!!!
CommentAuthorkellyc13
lol calla lily (garage) well after doing that calculator thing ive decided that no one is worth attending the wedding and not even H2B scored very high lol, at least me being the 3rd girl in my family i dont have to invite all those distant relatives ive never met befor. x
so little time, so much to do!
CommentAuthorJay
LOL lemondrops! i just did it for the best man and got -17 !!!! i knew it! x
CommentAuthorcatch
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well my son has been dating his girlfriend since valentines day!! he is only 16 so l thought if she is still there by sept then l will invite her to the evening do!! xx and my niece has now split from her b'frnd of 5 years, who was coming to the full wedding and now won't be there xx
