Hey all!

So it was our engagement party on friday night and OMG what a disaster it was!

I mentioned that pretty much all of my h2bs was already not coming, well that wasn't even the half of it.

All was going well - quite a lot of people turned up at our house to have drinks and food. We cut our cake (lovely touch by my aunty) and everything was going good.

Then we went up to our local pub where we met everyone else.

Well it was a sore point anyway that his sister wasn't coming to the party as she told us that she could.... then booked to go camping so couldnt come.

So later on that night I went over to a table where his nan, mam, my dad and uncle were sitting and his mum just went OFF IT at me - still to this moment have no idea what started it!

Apparently I had booked the party on purpose on a weekend where his sister couldnt come. I tried like kinda shruggin it off cause I didn't want an arguement but then she went into a full on rant about how im pushing his family away from my h2b.

** Id like to point out that I LOVE his family. His mum is (was now) one of my closest friends and was for 4 years before me and h2b even met, and his nan is possibly the coolest in the world!**

So I decided to defend my self. I tried calmly to explain that his sister had told us she was coming prior to booking the camping trip - so we are not at fault for her not coming. This didnt go down to well because that was me apparently "calling his sister a liar".... so I said well ive still got the text she sent me on my mob if you want to see!

But she just went off it started screaming at me (then his nan joined in drunkenly) in the middle of the pub infront of all our friends and family and work collegues. It was humiliating. I tried so hard to not cry (im not that great in arguements anyways) and i stood up and calmly said "i dont have to listen to this, its our engagement party and im not letting u ruin it for us" and i walked away.

I walked out the pub and burst out crying.

Well if only that was the end of it!

I calmed myself down with the help from my mum and a mate and enjoyed the rest of the night (away from his mum)

My h2b came up to me at one point and said that his mum came over and asked him to choose me or her and hed said in reply, "nic is my life now mum end of"

Then once pub closed some people came back to ours. His mum disapeared so i assumed shed went home. His nan came over to me and appologised so that smoothed the atmosphere!

Then his mum turned up. She barged right over to me and cornered me in a room and started screaming at me - like right in my face. Apparently "no-one disses her daughter and gets away with it" (who even ses disses anyways!!!)

(btw i was sober id just like to point out)

She started like proper swearing at me, so i tried my best to calm her down by suggesting we talk about this tomorrow instead. Luckily at this point one of the men that my h2b knows had come into the room - saw how close she was to me and pulled her back. She just went crazy. Ending up callin me an fin spoilt little daddys girl, an fin bitch, a stuck up cow, an fin arsehle - pretty much every name under the sun.

She went for me (like to punch me) but luckily this man had a hold of her so she didnt reach. I just told her to leave and that was that.

Ive honestly never ever experienced anything like it in my entire life!

For someone who was meant to be my mate, and my future mil i just cant get over it!

She hasn't spoke to me or h2b all weekend **bar sending him a txt asking him to go and see her ALONE** which he ignored and now shes handed in a 2 week sick note at work (we all work together too)

Im just devastated at this whole thing, and its all cause his sister lied and didn't admit that she booked the campin after we invited her!

Eugh sorry rant over! Ive kept this in cause obv i dont want to go on n on about it to my h2b but i really just needed to tell someone to be honest!

Thanks for listening! xxx

oh my thats crazy! For a grown woman to behave that way is horrendous! I am so sorry she ruined your night, but thankful that H2B stuck up for you. What a cheek!! I agree with Joanna, def wait for her to come to you! xx

OMG - thats awful. Hope your ok.
I am terrible in arguments and confrontation as well so i know what its like.
I agree with Joanna though there must be something underlying with her if the two of you have previously got on well.
You should definately wait for her to appologise to you - what a rude lady!
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I honestly just dont get it. The whole "daddys lil girl comment" she knows is already a sore point with me as I am close to me dad, and he is my boss (and her boss) at work but I work hard for my wage so when pple do say that to me it bothers me ALOT! so for her to say that to me was particulary spiteful knowing fine well it would hurt.

But as for the rest and actually the going for me part, i can honestly not think what that could of been about! Even if I was wrong (which im not) and her daughter had booked the trip before agreeing to come to fri night it still doesnt deserve that much!

Oh i forgot as well, she went over to me mum and said to her "i know me and nicola have had a fight but i wanted to clear the air with u" and my mum replied "I dont want to talk about it" and walked away from her..... my h2bs mum then spread that my mum was "calling her" to EVERYONE at the party!!!!!!

Honestly its all so pathetic and childish yet so hurtful at the same time!

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i cannot believe she can behave like that its absolutely unacceptable and for her to make your H2B choose, disgusting!

I can't believe she is hiding away by handing in a sick note as well rather than face up to you thats just horrible.

i hope for you and H2B's sake that she decides to come to grown ups word and accept that she is in the wrong, Nan obviously realised it was all drink and apologised.

OMG... what a vile woman !! No matter how many times she apologised it wouldnt be enough for me. Firstly how dare she speak to you like that? Does she not have any manners? Putting her fist up to you, what a nasty cow and what grown women has a pub brawl, and to do it at your engagement party, thats wrong and a nasty thing to do. If she wasnt happy then she should have waited until the following day to talk to you both. Well done for trying to walk away and your H2B for sticking by you. Hopefully this will show this vile women that you a strong couple and she cant come between you... hopefully 2 weeks sick will give her time to think about it. But if i was your dad i wouldnt want her back at work for insulting my daughter !!

Sorry if im strong but im outraged people behave like this that arent on Eastenders lol xxx

Hmm could this be to do with your workplace? Sounds like jelousy or resentment. Have she ever been funny with you before?

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Does she have a drink problem?

Well done for standing up for yourself and not showing weakness.... women dont like their little boys growing up but she will respect your more for being strong !! I would let the dust settle now and see what she does, you have a long time to the wedding so dont need to panic yet as families do fall out and make up often but hopefully this will show her she doesnt rull the rost and she cant treat people like poo !! xx

tbh im quite proud of myself for standing up for myself as honestly it just doesnt happen! like EVER!

shes got her two weeks now to sit and home and sulk (and not get paid in the mean time) so im just going to let her calm down and if she wants to come and appologise she knows where I am!

* we literally live around the corner from her *

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Its a very strange thing to happen out of the blue. Maybe she is having a mid life crisis and thinks her wee boy is being taken away by you and it makes it worse that you are her bosses daughter. Sounds like she has no real reason to be like this but she is completely jealous. Is she single? Some people are awful with a drink in them. My dad can be really nasty when he is drunk - with snidy comments I mean. Its not an excuse at all though. She should apologise off her own back! After all she didnt only shout abuse at you, she did it in front of your friends at your engagement party? What a horrendous thing to do to your sons fiance!

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I agree with Rockabilly. Maybe she is having a mid life crisis, or maybe something is going on in her life that others don't know about? I'm not making excuses for her though, she behaved inexcusably.
Do you think it could be the drink making her nasty?
Very strange that she actually set you two up! Surely she can't possibly now have a problem with your marriage?
Well done on standing up for yourself though :)

Exactly Joanna - if it was a drunk thing I know from my point of view Id be straight around or at least call or txt appologising the day after.
But no - nothing!

Its all around everyone at work its so embarrassing - everyones saying "wow id of decked her" bla bla im jus keeping schtumd *other than on here* im not having it get bk to her that im going around calling her etc! x

Exactly, I would have apologised straight away.
Good of you to not talk about it at work though. You don't want to be calling her names to people and lowering yourself, just keep a dignified silence and rant away on here :)

What a nasty piece of work. I would seriously consider talking to your H2B about not inviting her to the wedding if she doesn't apologise soon. If she can be that unpredictable then what will she be like on the day itself!! And as for his sister not owning up to lying about when she booked her camping holiday i would cut her out too. Well done for sticking up for yourself hun, and for H2B sticking up for you too xxx

sw dear, sounds just awful. what has your fiance' said since?

I can't believe that happened to you! It sounds like you dealt with it very maturely as did your H2B. All I can say is I wish you all the best and I hope she doesn't make the wedding to hard to put together! x

Just had a thought. You said she signed off work sick for two weeks. Is she ill? That might be why she's being a bit funny xxx

first of all well done for sticking up for yourself. If this was me I would defo ignore her and basically have no commuication until she was literally grovelling. It was good of your hubby to be to literally pick you over her BUT given it is HIS mum, he should have made sure that it didnt get this far by basically stopping this before it began. I know this can be hard but look how out of hand it got? I think you were in an avoidable situation there. Hubby to be may have been worried about hurting her feelings perhaps but he needs to try to remember to be strong around her and basically put her in her place as otherwise she may try and get away with this in future. After all this I would not be inviting her to the wedding. What does your hubby to be say about where to go from here? Is he concerned she will not apologise? Whatever her outcome her end, dont apologise. And im made up she is that embarrassed she had to take time off work unpaid. Everyone sounds like they are with you in this in terms of colleagues so she is going to be so embarrassed when/if she comes back. Unless this is her ploy to get you to apologise because she is stressed. If so dont fall for it x

gemma a friend of mine has suddenly realised the same thing. She is married and her hubby has a younger bro. No matter what the G.F of younger bro does, the family have never liked her. My friend has only just realised they didnt like her because they were basing their opinion on what the mum in law was saying but when they sat back and observed, they realised mil was being dramatic and this girl isnt as bad as originally thought. my friend now feels like a B as a result and is now trying to make it clear to mil when she is being dramatic.

is she perhaps doing little things to try to buy his affections or worse possibly saying things she shouldnt? Maybe just keep one eye on her. Not saying she is doing anything but have a look and see if you can figure out what is going on there

that will be an interesting event! This weds? Are you invited? or have thye just invited your hubby to be?

id ask your hubby to be to see what he has noticed. There may be something to you thinking the worse but hopefully there isnt. Let us know how you all get on. See if there are any digs about you two getting married. Oh and give us lots of photies :) Love looking at the pics

Argh so now the drama continues!!!!!!

h2bs mum has told his sister a pack of lies and shes quit her job over it! So ive spoken to my h2b and we argreed that i would send her a message telling her exactly what happened on friday and then its up to her if she believes me and her brother over her mum.

im not hopeful, but at least ive tried!

its so stupid and my h2b feels awful about this but the truth is we really really haven't done anything wrong!

Oh and from an earlier post, my mil has a habit of handing in sick notes if anything goes wrong at work and she doesnt want to face it - shes saying shes got an eye infection but as everyone from work saw her on fri night and over weekend we all know shes lyin!

She still hasn't spoken to me or my h2b so this drama is still ongoing!
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I dont think you should text the sister. I think it needs to come from hubby to be. This is his family and he needs to sort it out. It may be more believable coming from him too if his mum and sis are showing such silly attitudes towards you.