Evening! :) I'm probably having a bride-zilla moment but I need to get it off my chest! I went with my OH to his brothers wedding yesterday and it was lovely, but my OH and his siblings were sooo embarrassing! Now, bearing in mind they are all adults (18, 22, 25 and 29), they spent the whole day mucking about and play-fighting. Throughout the ceremony they were chatting and giggling, causing the registrar lady to have to tell them to be quiet, and then when it was the professional photos, they wouldn't take any proper ones, just pulling silly faces, and whilst they were waiting around whilst the photos were being taken, they were play-fighting and just being really loud and bolshy. Throughout the meal they were also picking the flower centrepieces apart and throwing it at eachother, causing one flower to go in the Bride's grandads drink (he wasn't very impressed!).
So... my issue is this. What if they behave like that at my wedding!? It was soo annoying for me yesterday, and I felt embarrassed just as a guest, so god knows what the bride felt like (As she's just married the brother!). I kept on telling them to calm down and I know everyone was happy and a bit excited but they were honestly behaving like children!! there was a 3 and 6 yr old there that was better behaved! I don't want to be a naggy bride but I also don't want them to be acting like apes on my wedding day. Do you think I could ask my OH to have words? I feel like a right cow but it's bothering me.
Eekk didn't mean for this to be a long post! Sorry xx
CommentAuthorInDreamland
OMG, disgraceful behaviour, I can understand them wanting to have a laugh but they overstepped the boundaries of what is acceptable. I'd have a word with your h2b and say how concerned you are. Hopefully in 3 years time if your ticker is accurate they'll have matured a bit.
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CommentAuthorJordanG99
Well considering one of them is nearly 30, you'd think they would know by now! I am guaranteed to get an eye-roll when I tell him but worth it if it means they will be good :) x
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Men mature much later than us ladies.
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CommentAuthorJordanG99
The oldest and youngest are both girls hah! So no excuse ;) x
Hopefully he will be more serious when its his day as he will feel the importance of it
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CommentAuthorJordanG99
I hope so.. :) I just really don't want them ruining my photos! When they're altogether it's a nightmare! x
CommentAuthorMichelleC961
Hopefully in 3 years time they won't do the same- maybe a few weeks before the wedding say to h2b that you hope his siblings behave and don't muck about at the wedding and see what he says- no point in doing it now with 3 years to go, will just cause an unnecessary argument
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
I would generally consider that really bad behaviour for a wedding. However, I wonder how OH's brother and his partner felt about it? It may be that they were the kind of people that meant that was the right type of day to have (although they obviously overstepped the mark in the ceremony). Maybe at a different wedding with a different bride and bride's family they might be different? I would mention it to your OH closer to the wedding if you're still concerned though. Men do tend to mature later than women, so particularly for the 18 and 22 year olds it may well be that three years will make all the difference.
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CommentAuthorMyranny
If my brother was talking and giggling during my wedding ceremony, he'd be choking on my bouquet 20 second later! That sort of behaviour is SO not on at a wedding!!
Agree with Michelle though, I would wait until much nearer the time to say something. Slip it in when you're choosing your vows or something, just be like "Oh God, I hope your siblings don't do what you did together at so-and-sos wedding! I'd be so upset!" and see what happens xx
CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
Oh god im cringing just residing that!! Poor bride
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CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
I would be raging and have kicked them out if it were my wedding
CommentAuthorJordanG99
MrsThomson that's what I felt like! The bride kept her cool though, she was good! Lots of daggers coming from her side of the family though! x
CommentAuthorSarahW9216
Omg I would be raging if this would of happened at my wedding.. it would be more than the flowers they would be choking on.
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CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
how embarassing. id be mortified if that was my family/my wedding!
definitly get OH to have words with his brothers, they need to be respectful! x
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CommentAuthorCeltic_Queen
Gosh, I would be so mortified and upset if someone behaved like that at my wedding! I think your OH needs to have a talk with his brothers, they need to be mature and not acting like children. I have my fingers crossed for you that they are not like that on your day! I cant believe they wouldn't pose properly for the photos, I would be devastated!