youve got to remember your wedding day is about you and not everyone else. do what makes you happy hun x

words...STUFF EVERYONE ELSE! dont try to please other people, it is yours and h2b's wedding not anyone elses so do what feels right for you! if you want it abroad do it, if you want a big white wedding have one, if you want a quite wedding do that, but dont do it for others, do it because its what you both want! xxxxxxxx

Work out what is best for you and h2b finacially and emotionally and then go for it. x x

im in the same boat hun,im contenplating getting married in cyprus,as my wedding seems to be about everyone else am stuck in a rut at the mo as dont no what to do,im going to sit and talk it over with h2b,hope you choose to do the right thing x

stevei no u havent hun i think about it most days, in the bac of my head like im ALLWAYS questioning myself, i think h2b would prob go ballistic if i mentioned doin it abroad as we have done this loads of times now and allways come bac to doin it in england but then it never shifts the thoughts and doubts of doin it abroad.

i think to be truefully honest we both wanna get married abroad, but keep thinking about family that we want there that wouldnt be able to make it due to old age or money. so wi stick to here so ppl that are old or skint can come, i think overrall its the friends bit thats sending me in to over drive cause they dont give a toss and then i think why should we do this when u lot dont care.

when we was gunna do it before we was gunna do it in cyprus got leaflets emails etc and i was forever spending time pricing and looking it up.

but i think id prefer to get married in florida but h2b says thats tacky :-( but its princess and id love to do it and i could also have my horse and carriage :-).

maybe i should get a quote (for cyprus and florida) for me h2b and our kids then show him see what he says and take it from there.

im not sure how much deposits wed lose cause thinking about it rings and dress we wont lose as we need them no matter what.
my mum has bought and made all invites,place cards etc :-/ so i doubt shed be to happy about that as shes quiet skint her slef.
money we've paid and would lose is...
£60 deposit on venue
£1250 paid if full for photographer :-(
£50 deposit paid on chair covers etc
all the things ive bought for centre pieces candles flowers and everything else av bought prob comes to about £500
there more aswell but i just cant think me minds goin to mush and im gettin a headache x

Are you sure it is that no one cares? I think some people think that you don't want them interfering or that you will want to leave things as a surprise for the day. I have to admit that I never really did any of the pre excitement with my friends before as even though I was excited for them and their big day I never realised that they may want me involved in things before hand.

If you do decide to go away it might be cheaper to book your photographer a flight and a room than cancel him. You can always sell things like the candles and centre pieces. Just have a good think about it before you make up your mind.

It felt quite lonely planning the UK wedding. Even Steve bless him, didnt get involved that much. Since he has said he just felt so overwhelmed by the scale of things. He is more than happy to be involved now. I have had 6 calls from family and friends today and they all seem genuinely oooo and ahhhh and talking about what they can do to get over there. I think they are feeling involved due to the distance and effort needed from them now.
I have our rough prices not including clothes/flowers/photography etc.

We've spoken to countless people and emailed even more in the past 2 days. We have worked out our ceremony will cost just over £400, we have spoke to the owner of the villa we want who said we can have it for £320 for 7 days or £550 for 14 days. We want a villa so the kids have privacy to play and the price is per villa and not per person. My Uncle has got back to us after speaking to the owner of his favourite restaurant. Hes sent pics of the inside, the outside eating area, the gardens and how its lit at night. Its very pretty. Owner says we can have 4 course meal with wine which in pounds works out at £7 per head. Which is much less than what our evening buffet was! Our other major expense would be flights but we wouldnt get these till nearer the time... but depending on where and who we go with range from £128 per person return upwards. We are aware there may be a few increases such as airport tax which is set to go up next year etc. However we come in at several thousand cheaper than the UK wedding. Also a strange thought. There are lots of 4 bedroom villas which sleep 8 that cost on average around £500 per week, which works out the same as it did per head for 8 people just to eat and drink at our wedding. We have said we may think of booking an extra villa for close family that would love to come but cant afford to pay for all of it.
Obviously we have decided we want a low key/stress free wedding now. Though in all honestly we looked at marrying on a yacht, with food and wine included etc. and it still came in cheaper than our venue.

That would be a brilliant idea if your photgrapher could go with you and would save you the biggest chunk of any losses. xxx

we are doing both ....... we are getting married in the valley of fire ..us and four guests then we are having a re-newal of vows here 6 weeks later which all the family are coming too .....i would have just done the uk bit but mr lala wanted to do something different

Dont worry about family - if you do it abaord they will either come or not. I thought it would cut down numbers but really hasnt. At the end of the day do what is right for you as a couple. Or what I always do is make a list of fors and againsts xx

Sorry but nothing about my wedding was tacky in anyway shape or form but it sounds like you are gonna have a very big uphill fight on this one

Good luck and if you need anything just holla xxx

i love your pics twirler and looks fab ot tacky at all x its just him hes a dick haha x

stevie best person in my life??? hes the bloody nightmare of my life x
he has hands and a brain he could look or ask to look but he doesnt and its bad enough at best of times tryin to ask him things hes not intrested just wants to get married and it not be tacky i dont know what in his eyes are tacky.

infact if he says about anything been tacky again i will punch him straight in face :@ x

we'd only been on phone about it about an hour before he got home. then when he came in my mum said to him on yahoo messenger about it and the last thing hes mentioned about it is the mickey mouse tacky buisness :@@@@@@ x

twirler im gunna hsow him your piccys now x

uggg i havent shown him your pics cause hes to inthrawled wi bloody tele, i was looking last night when he came in from work but just asked to look at summat went on a poker site and then gave me it bac :@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@ so things are still same :@ x

a h2b that is intrested??? would be nice ;-) lol x