Took 3 of my 4 bridesmaids dress shopping yesterday. What a disaster! Not in the sense that we didnt find a dress or a style that suited them all but it was their attitudes more than anything! Well my wee cousin was so quiet i had to tell her to have a look and picked what she liked it was the older 2 that i was so embarrassed with. First of all when we got there i didnt really feel a great sense of friendliness from the owner. It didnt help when one of my friends said "is this it? are there no more dresses? it's not much is it?" I could have killed her. Then my other friend who apparantly is the "fashion queen" was going mental when the owner was over ruling her on what would suite people and their different shapes. The owner gave us dresses and left us in the changing room and i dont blame her. When we were leaving i sent them all out to the car and went to speak to the lady. She said to me that she was very sorry but she couldnt come back in coz she couldnt handle that. I was so black affronted! I apologised and told her they were a nightmare. She said i need to put my foot down with them and tell them it's my wedding and whatever i want them to wear they will wear. I know she is right but oh my god the "fashion queen" has such a temper and a mouth on her its unreal! My mum is raging and says i should ditch them. I wont do that but i know they do need telling. We are going dress shopping again on monday and i really dont want to after that! I had to get that off my chest as i cant talk about it on facebook as they will see! My h2b thinks they are fannies and he is right!
CommentAuthorsuzky123
you tell them straight that if they play up, even once they are out of the wedding. I know you dont want to ditch them but think about where that could leave you if you dont put your foot down with them. Give them one more chance but make it clear that they will behave them selves, they will never be cheeky and they will wear what they are given. If they dont like it, fine they dont have to wear it but they wont be in the wedding party. You do need to sort this or they will think they can get away with allsorts and will cause you even more stress in the long run. Good luck x
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CommentAuthorMrsOwen
at first i would just let my bms do what they wanted, but it got me stressed as i didnt know where they was up too, so i put my foot down, we have lost a bm as she didnt want to wear her hair up or open toe shoes, so we told her we didnt want her, its hard but you need to do it, good luck xx
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CommentAuthorPennylane
If they want to be part of YOUR wedding chick they will do what you want them to! Cheek of them! I told you, weddings bring out the worst in some people! I don't understand some people! x
02.07.11
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I would tell them outright if they put you in that kind of position again that they won't be coming with you again as that was an embarrassment to you. There is a time and a place for comments and opinions and if they can't learn when it the right time then they have no place in the bridal party.
I had asked for them to pay for their dresses but i'm just gona buy them now that way they will be wearing what i pick coz i'm thinking that coz they're paying then they will argue over what they're wearing. I know they're not in my budget but I like that site *********** and if i see a dress like the one they tried on yesterday i am just going to get their measurements and order it from that site, like it or lump it! I spoke to another friend today who is not a bridesmaid and she told me things that one of the bridesmaids had been saying behind my back so i think thats the best thing to do. My aunt said they're jealous and i dont understand how?! I dont even know if i'll be able to pay for all this when next year comes as i'm so bad at saving! I cant believe i'm stressed about things already and it's still 15mths to go! I'm raging at myself for letting them get to me.x
CommentAuthorPennylane
it's a hard one - you're right if they pay for their own they will demand more say so the only way you'll get them to wear what you want is to buy them - you've got plenty time to pick up bargains etc so look in all the sales too as well as online. You'll need to fill me in on what they have been saying - hope it wasn't anything nasty!
02.07.11
All you need is Love!
Why is the rum always gone?
